1 / 17

Feel it Big on the Inside: Express it Smaller when in Public

Feel it Big on the Inside: Express it Smaller when in Public. Thinking about what people think about you. We think about each other even when we are not talking People remember when you make them feel comfortable and uncomfortable Which do you think they are more likely to remember?

dessa
Download Presentation

Feel it Big on the Inside: Express it Smaller when in Public

An Image/Link below is provided (as is) to download presentation Download Policy: Content on the Website is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use and may not be sold / licensed / shared on other websites without getting consent from its author. Content is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use only. Download presentation by click this link. While downloading, if for some reason you are not able to download a presentation, the publisher may have deleted the file from their server. During download, if you can't get a presentation, the file might be deleted by the publisher.

E N D

Presentation Transcript

  1. Feel it Big on the Inside: Express it Smaller when in Public

  2. Thinking about what people think about you • We think about each other even when we are not talking • People remember when you make them feel comfortable and uncomfortable • Which do you think they are more likely to remember? ** More likely to remember when someone made us feel upset - When feeling stressed or upset, we are most likely having uncomfortable or weird thoughts

  3. What do you remember about Buddy from the movie ELF? • Remember most of the funny things he did that made us have weird or uncomfortable thoughts • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DS8MegEiKLk • What are they thinking of Buddy? • How does his brother treat him at first?

  4. We typically treat people…. • Okay/well when we have good thoughts about them • More likely to treat someone badly when we have uncomfortable thoughts about them • Same goes for other people: • Likely they will treat you the best when they have good thoughts about you • Likely they will treat you the worst when they have weird or uncomfortable thoughts about you

  5. How people feel about us affects how they treat us http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UIjYbG7vB_I

  6. In Elf, when does the brother start treating Buddy better? • After the snowball fight- he has good thoughts about Buddy helping him • As a result, he starts treating Buddy better

  7. Read Comic What’s the problem here?

  8. Size of the Problem • Important to figure out how big a problem really is, because if you over-react to any size of problem, others can feel awkward, uncomfortable, or just plain annoyed • How much emotion should you let fly out when you’re really upset and how much is supposed to stay in?

  9. How much emotion we show depends on: • Size of the problem • Our age • When a 4 year old throws a tantrum in a store about not getting a toy, what do we think? • When a 13 year old throws a tantrum in a store about not getting a video game they want, what do we think? As we get older, we are supposed to get better at controlling how we express our emotions especially when out in public, like at school!

  10. It’s okay to be upset or excited, but it’s how you handle it that can make others feel good or uncomfortable • Kyle is really, really mad- others around him feel okay if he shows he is a little irritated. • If Kyle starts yelling or pushing people- others will feel uncomfortable, which creates another problem • Sara thinks something is hilarious in class, her best bet is to smile or laugh • If Sara goes into a crazy laughing fit, where she is loud and laughs for a long time- people will be uncomfortable or annoyed

  11. Feel it Big on the Inside- Express is Smaller when in Public (FBI-ESP) • May feel big emotions on the inside but know you need to keep the size of your expression smaller on the outside • What do we do to help us express it smaller? • Take deep breaths • Think about others (they will have uncomfortable thoughts if we over-react) • If home, go to your room for privacy; If at school, ask for a break • ______________________

  12. Feel it Big, Express it Small • Watch clips and determine if the person felt it big but expressed it small • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqEZiY7smr4 • What could Sheldon have done to express it small?

  13. Feel it Big, Express it Small • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ETWuWFSNt3g • Did Sheldon express it small this time? • Is it appropriate to call the police if your apartment gets broken into? - Yes, the reaction matches the size of the problem

  14. Why don’t we want to act on how we feel? • Big reactions make others (teachers, peers) upset too, which creates more problems • Teacher gets frazzled, concerned, or angry • Students get frustrated, embarrassed or irritated at the person • There are usually consequences for over-reacting • Nagged by a parent or teacher • Peers have weird thoughts • Might not want to be friends with you • Suspension/ Detention

  15. What are the consequences for Expressing it Small in Public? • People have good thoughts about you • Class is able to go on with what they were doing • You might earn superstars on your point sheet • Peers might want to be friends with you

  16. Social Behavior Map

  17. Complete worksheet • Write or draw how you would feel and how you would react to express it small

More Related