GENERAL INFORMATION ABOUT BULLYING

1. GENERAL INFORMATION ABOUT BULLYING Farhan Naeem

3. What Is Bullying? Five hundred years ago bullying meant friend, family member or sweetheart. The root of the word comes from the Dutch boel, meaning lover or brother. Bullying is when someone keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person. Some bullies operate by saying nasty things about other people, leaving some people out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them, or making them do things they don't want to do.

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5. Why do some people like to bully others? • There are a lot of reasons why some people bully. • They may see it as a way of being popular, or • making themselves look tough and in charge. • Some people bully to get attention , or • to make other people afraid of them. • Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying, or • They may be being bullied themselves. • Some bullies don't understand how damaging their behaviour is and how it makes the person being bullied feel.

6. What can you do if you are being bullied? • Coping with bullying can be difficult, but remember, the one being bullied is not the problem, the bullying behaviour is the problem and has to be stopped. Wherever a person is, bullying behaviour is not acceptable and a rule has been broken. There's always someone who has the responsibility to ensure that people are safe and secure. If a child is being bullied, he or she should always talk over what to do with a friend, a teacher, their parents, or an adult they can trust.

7. What does it feel like to be bullied by someone? • Bullying hurts. It makes a person scared and upset. It can make them so worried that they can't work well at school. • Some children skip school to get away from it. • It can make them feel that they are no good, that there is something wrong with them. • Bullies can make other people feel that it's their fault.

8. What to do if you see a person being bullied? (Cont.) Anyone can offer assistance • Don't take on the bully- this may only aggravate the situation. As well as not being a safe thing to do, you don't want to have to resort to bullying tactics yourself. • Let a teacher or other adult know about the situation. • Try to be friendly to the person being bullied. • Refuse to join in the bullying. • Being kind to the person bullying can sometimes help stop the bullying behaviour, but even if it isn't possible to be friends always try to be friendly. • If you are worried or concerned about a bully you should discuss it with a your teacher or an adult.

9. . . . for parents and carers Some indicators of your child being bullied include . . . • The child becomes unusually withdrawn and quiet. • An abnormal amount of dirty or torn clothing. • A reluctance to go to school or after school activities. • A displayed fear of a particular certain group or person. • Unusual changes in a Childs behaviour. • Noticeable changes in the Childs sleeping patterns.

10. Why A Child Bullies? Children bully others for a number of reasons . . . • It makes them feel powerful. • They may think they are more acceptable to peer group or another child. • From a poor family environment or from a peer authority figure, they have assumed that bullying is acceptable. • It may be their only way of expressing feelings of fear, anxiety or jealously. • They have problems communicating with others on a "one to one" basis.

11. TYPES OF BULLYING Jerome

12. Forms of bullying Bullying can take different forums, including: -Verbal: taunts, name calling, putdowns, threats and imitation -Social: exclusion from peer groups, gaining up, extortion, or stealing of money and possessions. -Physical: assault and sexual assault. -Cyber: using the computer or other technology to harass or threaten.

13. Types of Bullying (cont.) Exclusion - Exclusion, or leaving someone out, is another form of bullying. This is when a person or group of people won’t let someone play with them, join a group activity or will invite everyone to come to a party or take part in a game except for one person on purpose. Emotional - spreading nasty stories about someone, exclusion from social groups, being made the subject of malicious rumours. Racial - This type of bullying is based on the ethnic background of the victim. Verbal insults directed at the colour of skin, accent, or types of food eaten for lunch are all based on cultural harassment. One of the underlying problems with racial bullying is that often ethnic discrimination is passed on to children through their parents or community, either intentionally or unintentionally.

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15. CYBER BULLYING Tarah McCrum

16. What is cyber bullying? • “Cyber bullying involves the use of information and communication technologies such as e-mail, cell phone and pager text messages, instant messaging (IM), defamatory personal Web sites, and defamatory personal polling Web sites, to support, deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others.

17. Types or Bullying • There are two kinds of cyber bullying, direct attacks (messages sent to your kids directly) and cyber bullying by proxy (using others to help cyber bully the victim, either with or without the accomplice's knowledge). Direct attacks such as Instant messaging, using websites, interactive gaming, and internet polling to bully someone. • Instant Messaging/Text Messaging Harassment Kids may send hateful or threatening messages to other kids, without realizing that while not said in real life, unkind or threatening messages are hurtful and very serious. • Web sites a) Children used to tease each other in the playground; now they do it on Web sites. Kids sometimes create Web sites that may insult or endanger another child. They create pages specifically designed to insult another kid or group of people. • Interactive Gaming Many kids today are playing interactive games on gaming devices such as X-Box Live and Sony Play Station 2 Network. These gaming devices allow your child to communicate by chat and live Internet phone with anyone they find themselves matched with in a game online. Sometimes the kids verbally abuse the other kids, using threats and lewd language. Sometimes they take it further, by locking them out of games, passing false rumours about them or hacking into their accounts.

18. Types or Bullying (CONT.) • “Flaming’: Online fights using electronic messages with angry and vulgar language • “Harassment”: Repeatedly sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages • “Cyber stalking”: Repeatedly sending messages that include threats of harm or are highly intimidating. Engaging in other on-line activities that make a person afraid for his or her own safety • “Denigration”: ‘Dissing’ someone online. Sending or posting cruel gossip or rumors about a person to damage his or her reputation or friendships

19. Why cyber bullying? • When it comes to cyber bullying, they are often motivated by anger, revenge or frustration. Sometimes they do it for entertainment or because they are bored and have too much time on their hands and too many tech toys available to them. Many do it for laughs or to get a reaction. Some do it by accident, and either send a message to the wrong recipient or didn't think before they did something. • Cyber bullying is the most cowardly type of bullying. The bully hides behind a computer screen, and in many cases the victim doesn’t even know who the bully is.

20. DIFFERENCES CYBERBULLYING ANONYMOUS Occurs off school property Good relationships with teachers Fear loss of technology privileges Further under the radar than bullying Emotional reactions cannot be determined {McKenna & Bargh, 2004; Ybarra & Mitchell, 2004} BULLYING • DIRECT • Occurs on school property • Poor relationships with teachers • Fear retribution Physical: Hitting, Punching & Shoving Verbal: Teasing, Name calling & Gossip Nonverbal: Use of gestures & Exclusion www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov

21. Cyber bullying and the law • Cyber bullying is usually outside of the legal reach of schools and school boards as the behaviour often happens outside of school on home computers or cell phones. • But some forms or cyber bullying are considered criminal acts. Under the Criminal Code of Canada, it is a crime to communicate repeatedly with someone if you communication causes them to fear their own safety or the safety of others. • It is also a crime to publish a “defamatory libel”, writing something that is designed to insult a person or likely to hurt a persons reputation by exposing him or her to hatred, contempt or ridicule. • A cyber bully could also be violating the Canadian Human Rights Act, if the bully spreads hate or discrimination based on race, national or ethnic origin, colour, age, sex, sexual orientation, martial status, family status or disability.

22. If you’re a victim of cyber bullying… • Do not reply to the messages or posts from cyber bullies. Block the sender of the e-mails/messages if possible. • Don’t delete the messages. Keep a copy. You don’t need to read the messages, but you may need a copy if you decide to report the bullying. • Tell someone about it, such as a parents or a teacher, the police, or an adult you trust. • If the messages are on a website or webpage, contact the Internet Service provider. Most ISPs have policies that include guidelines for using the service as well as actions that can be taken if they are not followed

23. If you want to help prevent cyber bullying… • Refuse to pass along cyber bulling messages. • If you know of someone who cyber bullies, tell them to stop. • Report any cyber bullying you come across online to a trusted adult.

24. Bullying and bystanders Chantel

25. Bullying • Bullying usually involves three individuals or groups, the bully, the victim and the bystander. • Wherever there are children, there are bullies. In your neighborhood. In your school. Even sometimes in your home. • Bullies use fear to get away with unacceptable behavior. • Most kids that are bullied don’t tell anyone because of the fear that they will get bullied even worse by the same person or more people. • Studies show on bullying that more younger and weaker kids are bullied oppose to stronger and older. • Bullies come in all sizes, ages and genders • Bullies use all different types of tactics. Some get physical, for example punching and kicking. Others play on emotion, for example gossiping, manipulation and exclusion. • Bullies usually never suffer from a low self-esteem, they are impulsive, have a positive attitude towards aggression and have a strong desire to get or achieve something they feel the need. • Bullies like to pick on people who can’t or won’t stick up for themselves

26. Bystanders • A bystander is someone who has witnessed another person being bullied. • Most bystanders don’t take any action to stop the situation because they are afraid of being the next victim or a target. • Bystanders stay silent to avoid the unwanted attention • It can be very hard for a teen to take stand and defend someone who is being bullied, especially if certain people consider the victim to be a “loser” or “weird”. • Some bystanders end up feeling guilty because they didn’t do anything. • If the victim is a classmate or friend, some bystanders choose to disassociate themselves from the victim. Others blame the victim. • Bystanders and victims aren’t expected to resolve the issue but with help it can be done. • If you ever witness someone being bullied, stick up for them, be the bigger person.

27. WHAT TO DO IF YOU SEE A PERSON BEING BULLIED? Don't ignore bullying when you see it. . . never allow a bully to get away with thinking that no-one will do anything. If you see someone else being bullied, the best way to help is to tell an adult or your teacher if it is occurring at school. If you take no action, you are saying that bullying is OK. Where possible you should show the person bullying that what they're doing is unfair and harmful to the person being bullied.

28. Long-Term Implications of Bullying • Children who are bullies are likely experience legal or criminal problems as adults • Children can carry bullying behaviors into adulthood and experience difficulty in forming and maintaining relationships

29. Long-Term Implications of Being Bullied • Children who are bullied often experience low self-esteem and depression even into adulthood • Children who are bullied perceive school as an unsafe place and are likely to miss more days of school than their peers, as a result their education is negatively affected

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31. How to Prevent Bullying? • Bullying has become a common problem among children. Victims of bullying are unable to find out way to stop becoming subjects to this vice. This is the reason that most adults are finding out ways to prevent bullying. There may be several reasons that encourage children to bully their peers. • Bullying usually occurs in isolated areas or places where there is no supervision. Hence, it would be wise to ask your kids not to move around alone during recess or other free classes in school. Ask your child to make friends. Bullying usually occurs when the child is all alone. Ignoring a bullying act may be the best way to prevent further bullying because bullies always seek reaction from the victim & enjoy it.

32. How to Prevent Bullying? (cont.) Help victims of bullying communicate with others and seek additional help. • Encourage them to talk to their parents, and offer to help them do this if they want you to. • Be aware that some youth may not believe their parents will be sympathetic. Some aggressive parenting styles could be seen as bullying as well. • If a young person confides in you, and you believe he is in danger from others, or is contemplating hurting himself or others, take immediate steps to get him help, in accordance with Youth Protection policies.

33. Vijay Singh (13 years old) I shall remember forever and will never forget Monday: my money was taken Tuesday: names called Wednesday: my uniform torn Thursday: my body pouring with blood Friday: it’s ended Saturday: freedom (Vijay’s final diary pages. He was found hanging from the banister rail at home on Sunday.)

34. For More Information About Bullying Visit: National Parent information Network www.npin.org Educators for Social Responsibility www.benjerry.com/esr/about~esr.html Bullying in Schools and What to do About it http://www.education.unisa.edu.au/bullying Anti-Bullying Network http://www.antibullying.net