WELCOME

1. WELCOME Bible Study at Tubbs Road Harlesden, London, NW10 4SD 0208 965 5911 | 07956 872 141 errol@comf5.com Mondays & Thursdays 7:30pm - 9:30pm Watch it live at: www.cogop.com

2. The Psychology of Relationships By Pastor Errol A Williams Regional Overseer, London North

3. The Psychology of Relationships • God • Self • Others • Nature

4. The Psychology of Relationships • Challenges • Over-coming challenges • Questions & answers

5. The Psychology of Relationships “John Stuart Mill famously called for ‘experiments in living’ so that we might learn from one another. For about 30 years we have been conducting such an experiment with the family. The time has now come to appraise the results.” Civitas The institute for the study of civil society

6. The Psychology of Relationships • Lone mothers • Children living without their fathers • Teenagers living without their fathers • Young adults who grew up not living with their fathers • Effects on the social fabric

7. The Psychology of Relationships • Lone mothers • Are poorer • Are more likely to suffer from stress, depression, and other emotional and psychological problems • Have more health problems • May have more problems interacting with their children

8. The Psychology of Relationships

9. The Psychology of Relationships • Children living without their fathers • Are more likely to live in poverty and deprivation • Have more trouble in school • Tend to have more trouble getting along with others • Have higher risk of health problems • Are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. • Are more likely to run away from home

10. The Psychology of Relationships • Teenagers living without their fathers • Are more likely to experience problems with sexual health • Are more likely to become teenage parents • Are more likely to offend • Are more likely to smoke • Are more likely to drink alcohol • Are more likely to take drugs • Are more likely to play truant from school • Are more likely to be excluded from school • Are more likely to leave school at 16 • Are more likely to have adjustment problems

11. The Psychology of Relationships • Young adults who grew up not living with their fathers • Are less likely to attain qualifications • Are more likely to experience unemployment • Are more likely to have low incomes or be on income support • Are more likely to experience homelessness • Are more likely to be caught offending and go to jail

12. The Psychology of Relationships • Young adults who grew up not living with their fathers • Are more likely to suffer from long term emotional and psychological problems. • Are more likely to develop health problems • Tend to enter partnerships earlier and more often as a cohabitation • Are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions • Are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership

13. The Psychology of Relationships • Effects on the social fabric • Increased crime and violence • Decreased community ties • A growing ‘divorce culture’ • Cycle of fatherlessness • Dependence on state welfare

14. The Psychology of Relationships Solutions

15. Relationships Respect • Regard with honor and esteem the other better than yourself. Phi 2:3

16. Relationships Respect • Regard with honor and esteem the other better than yourself. Phi 2:3

17. Relationships Entertainments • A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Pro 17:22 • Have fun from start to finish

18. Relationships Love • Love God, yourself and others • Charity suffereth long, and is kind; 1Co 13:4

19. Relationships Agreement • Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Amo 3:3

20. Relationships Total commitment • Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mat 19:6

21. Relationships Total commitment “The three ingredients of a successful union between two . . . humor, commitment & undying love.” Bill Cosby

22. Relationships Integrity • Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code. • … but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; ... Jam 5:12

23. Relationships Open communication • Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Pro 18:21

24. Relationships Open communicator

25. Relationships Neutralise your feelings • He that hath no rule over his own spirit islike a city thatis broken down, and without walls. Pro 25:28

26. Relationships Selflessness vs. selfishness • Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Phi 2:4

27. Relationships Helper • For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him thatis alone when he falleth; for hehath not another to help him up. Ecc 4:10 • Help your relatives ... Pro 18:19

28. Relationships Individuality • … for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; ... Psa 139:14 • A.S.K (Attitude, Skills & Knowledge)

29. Relationships Patience • “One of the ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.”

30. Relationships Schedule time • To every thingthereis a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: Ecc 3:1

31. R Respect E Entertainments L Love A Agreement T Total commitment I Integrity O Open communication N Neutralise your feelings S Selflessness H Helper I Individuality P Patience S schedule time

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