motivation

1. 5 Tips to Improve Your Self-Talk By Kim Anderson

2. 1. Listen Critically to Your Inner Critic • In high-pressure situations self-talk is often relentless and critical.  Instead of thinking deliberately and logically, our inner voices are stoked by emotion, and that influences everything from how we talk to ourselves to our behaviors and beliefs, attitudes, and habits. • So your first step is to listen critically to what you are saying to yourself — and how you are saying it. When your inner voices start running amok with words of disdain and discouragement, pause the conversation as you consider ways to change it.

3. 2. Create Psychological Distance from Yourself • Using first-person phrasing, such as “Why am I so stressed?” or “How can I do better?” may increase feelings of shame or anxiety. • Instead, someone suggests using your own name or a second- or third-person pronoun when referring to your situation. Asking yourself, “Why are you feeling so stressed?” is one way to create the psychological distance you need to regulate emotion and be able to lessen your discomfort rather than add to it. • As somebody explains, “People who use their own name or ‘you’ begin to think of the task more as an interesting challenge rather than as a threat.”

4. 3. Fit Your Conversation to Your Goal • You are talking to yourself, so consider where you ultimately want to go. Somebody research indicates that different types of self-talk work best for specific goals. • Instructional self-talk like “shoulders back” or “keep the left arm straight” or “temper the eggs before mixing” work best to improve technique. • Motivational self-talk such as “you’ve got this,” or “you can do it,” “keep going,” can help with confidence, strength, or endurance.

5. 4. Treat Yourself as a Friend Demeaning, disparaging, or negative self-talk is only going to amp up your stress and hold you back. Instead, speak compassionately to yourself—just as you would to a friend. Rescript negative messages to include a positive spin. “I am not good at this” can be changed to “Relax. You are prepared for this.”

6. 5. Say, “I Don’t,” instead of “I Can’t” • Try it for yourself and feel the difference. • “I can’t miss my workouts” versus “I don’t miss my workouts.” • “I can’t buy these shoes until payday” versus “I don’t buy shoes until payday.” • “I can’t eat dessert” versus “I don’t eat dessert.” • When you replace inner smack talk with encouraging self-talk you will be better able to meet adversity and challenges and do things that will contribute to greater success. In this way, small linguistic changes can mean big life changes.

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