Friendships

1. Friendships

2. Recipe for friendship Ingredients: • 2 heaping measures of trust • 2 well rounded scoops of respect • 2 generous portions of affection • 2 equal amounts of sharing Method: • Stir together until lumps and bumps are dissolved.

3. What makes a good friend? • Think about the friends you have now, and friends you’ve had in the past • What things make up a good or bad friend? • Sort the qualities in your card sort, then rank • In pairs, fill in the templates on your sheet • Add any other qualities you can think of

4. Circle of friendship – Think, pair share • How do you choose your friends? • What governs your choice of friends? • Do your friends have anything in common? • Are all your friends the same sex? • What is the difference between a friend and an acquaintance?

5. Quick Quiz Which of these do you value most in a friend? Someone who offers to help when you have a problem Someone who makes you laugh even when you are sad Someone who expresses emotions without hurting others Someone who is honest and reliable Someone who is a good listener Explain why you selected the answer that you did. Switch to QuickTake version of the quiz.

6. The Importance of Friendships • Friendshipis a relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, and common interests or values. • People look to their friends for • honest reactions • encouragement during bad times • understanding when they make mistakes • Someone to listen too when you need them to. Just because you need to talk to someone • This is important in dealing with all aspects of your life and mental health

7. Types of Friendships • Some friendships are casual and some are close. • Some are with friends of the opposite sex.

8. Casual Friends Casual friendships often occur because people go to the same school, live in the same neighborhood, or have interests in common.

9. Close Friends • People tend to form close friendships with others who share similar goals, values, or interests. • Loyalty A close friend sticks by you in both good times and bad. • Honesty You can trust a close friend tobe truthful. • Empathy A close friend is caring and sensitive to your feelings. • Reliability A close friend can always becounted on.

11. Friends of the Opposite Sex • Opposite-sex friendships develop more often now than in earlier generations because of changes in gender roles. • Gender roles are the behaviors and attitudes that are socially accepted as either masculine or feminine. • Gender roles vary from culture to culture. • In choosing friends today, most people look for males and females with interests and goals similar to their own. • These friendships help you to feel comfortable with members of the opposite sex.

12. Problems in Friendships Some possible problems in friendships are • envy • jealousy • cruelty • cliques

13. Envy and Jealousy • Envy can occur when one person has something that the other person desires. • Jealousy can occur when a “best” friend wants to develop more close friendships and the first friend feels left out.

14. Cruelty • If a friend is cruel to you, confront your friend to find out what the real problem is. • Communicate that you are not willing to be mistreated.

15. Cliques • A clique (kleek) is a narrow, exclusive group of people with similar backgrounds or interests. • Clique members may experience a need to conform to the expectations of friends. • Peer pressure is an issue that people deal with throughout their lives.