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Abuse in the Church

Counseling Leaders, Caring for the Congregation. Abuse in the Church. Philip G. Monroe, PsyD Biblical Seminary pmonroe@biblical.edu. www.wisecounsel.wordpress.com. When abuse happens in the church…. It is always A crisis A temptation for impulsivity

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Abuse in the Church

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  1. Counseling Leaders, Caring for the Congregation Abuse in the Church Philip G. Monroe, PsyD Biblical Seminary pmonroe@biblical.edu

  2. www.wisecounsel.wordpress.com

  3. When abuse happens in the church… • It is always • A crisis • A temptation for impulsivity • An opportunity for God to be honored and the community to grow

  4. We will explore • Personal and systemic hurdles hindering just and healing responses • Consultation practices for guides seeking to move leaders/organizations • Components of effective abuse prevention and response plans

  5. My professional worlds

  6. Question • If EVERYONE is against child abuse… Why do so many fail to respond well?

  7. Individual reasons • Knowledge • Denial • Deception/winsomeness of perpetrator • Doubt (self/other) • Self-protection

  8. Corporate reasons • Groupthink, too many cooks • Misguided beliefs • Wrong values • System protection

  9. Misguided responses • Telling half-truthes • Silencing voices • Sharing the blame • Getting past the abuse • Ignoring system review • Special treatment for beloved leaders

  10. What the Church needs! • Guides who possess • Minimum competencies • Awareness of ethical challenges • Consultant skills and capacities

  11. Minimum competencies • Willing to wade into messy situations • Willing to lose relationships over it • Love for church/leaders • Even while goal is protecting victims • Knowledgeable about abuse • Impact, area services, offender habits, • Healing/recovery trajectories

  12. Three important books • Langberg, D. On the Threshold of Hope • Salter, A. Predators: Pedophiles, rapists, and… • Schmutzer, A. The Long Journey Home

  13. Minimum competencies • Basic listening/helping skills • Listening • Validating, building trust • Assessing need/readiness for change • Casting vision, clarifying steps • Speaking truth to power…in love

  14. Ethical awareness • Mandating reporting? • Informed consent • Managing multiple relationships

  15. Consultant skills & abilities • Guides vs. expert? • What role will you play? Do you know who is your customer? • Key skills • Strength identification • Identifying Opportunities and threats • Focusing • Knowing limits • Avoiding common mistakes

  16. Consultation Goals • Set guiding values • Educate • Develop prevention and response policies • Launch ministry teams

  17. Guiding values? • Protection of the least of these! • Mercy ministry • Mercy ≠ no consequences!

  18. Additional values? • Love and truth? • Purity? • Redemption? • Healing? Restoration? (To what?) • Engagement with non-church experts? • Fairness? • Is there a danger to this?

  19. Educate the church • Biblical mandate for child protection • And engagement of governmental institutions • Trauma and abuse; offending • Victim and offender needs/reactions

  20. Educate • Start with Scripture • True Religion: James 1:27 • Mandate to submit to government: Ro 13; 1 Pet 2 • Note: more than just to avoid the millstone!

  21. Educate • Develop a theology of oppression to explain impact of trauma • 5 facets of oppression (the opposite of love) • Abuse of power • Deception and false teaching • Failure to lead • Objectification • Forced false worship • Failure to love violates the imago dei and the Trinity? From “The nature of Evil in CSA: Theological considerations of oppression and its consequences” in Schmutzer, A (ed.) The Long Journey Home: Wipf & Stock.

  22. Communal Imago dei? Human beings reflect the character and essence of God most fully when they relate to each other as fellow members of a covenant community…

  23. Distorted Imago dei? So…If personal identity forms through interwoven relationships with other members and with God thenevil done by one community member against another violates the true picture of communion as expressed in the Trinity. Monroe, in Schmutzer (ed.), The Long Journey Home (ch. 13)

  24. Educate • Incidence of abuse • 75x more likely than pediatric cancer • 40% of pre-teens have been solicited on-line • 30% women abused before age 18 • 15% men abuse before age 18

  25. Educate • Acknowledge lasting impact on individuals • Relational anxiety • Physiological alterations • Spiritual confusion • Identify community helps: • Safe, hope-filled, boundaried relationships that enable • Victim to be heard • To have dominion

  26. Educate • Develop a larger view of healing • What constitutes healing? • How do we participate in God’s healing? • Support? Mercy? Prayer? Listen? Play? • Remember: some healing is immediate, other healing grows day by day

  27. Educate • Offending behavior • Why it finds a home in the church • How predators tend to act • Who they choose • How they use religion and faith as a cover • How they respond when accused • Mandate to report • Biblical and legal

  28. A few more areas to educate • Explore ancillary themes: forgiveness, reconciliation, restoration, restitution, etc. • What is the rush? • Why forgiveness now? • Point in time? Attitude? • Why reconciliation now? What bothers us most about brokenness? • What does repentance look like? • What about restitution?

  29. Educate • Get to know your local law enforcement, child protection advocates, prosecutors, counselors • Treat them as teachers and supporters, not enemies! • Learn from other Christian groups

  30. Final education reminder: • Consider your own propensity for sin • It isn’t just other people who are vulnerable • Choose to live in the light with fellow sinners

  31. Deterrence policy • Background checks and beyond • Childcare/Teen ministry regulations • Risk reduction (e.g., limiting contact) • Family training

  32. Allegation policy • Who is in charge? Who manages details? Who knows the details? • What will happen once abuse is known? • Reporting? Assessing? Communications? Ministry supervision? • Special case for leader abuse? Do not make decisions in large-group settings!

  33. Abuse Allegation Gather Data Set Guiding Goals Employment Decisions Congregational Communications = Report if appropriate Terminate Suspend = offer spiritual support Sample procedure for clergy sexual abuse case

  34. Key assessments • Victims • Spiritual needs of victims and family members • Ongoing legal/civil stressors • Offenders • Ongoing legal/civil/employment stressors • Motivations of offender/family; Stated goals? • Transparency? Caught? Confessed?

  35. Victim related interventions • Stabilize • Address safety matters • Prioritize the victim’s connection to worship • Determine leadership oversight (don’t forget gender issues) • Speak to attempts to lay partial blame on victim • Support • Form small group of “listeners” who can support victim’s voice and therapy

  36. Offender related interventions • Commitment focus • Focus on big picture motivations and main truths • Encourage action while pressure is on • Validate small signs of repentance • Support • Provide ongoing safe place for spiritual care for offender and family

  37. Intervention Planning Determine key constituents to help Choose & train SCTs Develop SCT goals & objectives Use of outside consultants for groups or members SCT time together SCT time with key others Sample procedure for spiritual care teams

  38. Guiding Spiritual care teams • Purpose of team • Support, assistance, worship, comfort, rebuke (where appropriate) • Hope building • Accountability • Consultant’s role • Train and educate SCT (content & practice) • Troubleshoot problems; maintain commitment

  39. Guiding church leaders • Leaders want answers and solutions • Be wary of people pleasing • Leaders rarely take account of insults to their own faith • Be wary of leader loss of hope • Leaders may focus on immediate players • Be wary of ignoring the rest of the congregation

  40. Prepare for pitfalls! • False or partial repentance • Blaming/defensiveness • Pressure for mechanical restoration • Calls for fairness • Power struggles • Devaluing the grace of restriction

  41. A word to the guides • Watch out for • Loneliness • Bitterness • Remember who and why you serve • Remember your own need for holiness • Restore gently…repent boldly

  42. Questions? www.netgrace.org

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