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How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

The Health & Intimacy of Your Marriage is Directly Proportionate to your Personal Growth & Maturity as a Disciple of Jesus Christ. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?.

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How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

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  1. The Health & Intimacy of Your Marriage is Directly Proportionate to your Personal Growth & Maturity as a Disciple of Jesus Christ

  2. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

  3. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

  4. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

  5. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

  6. How Do You Navigate Through Emotional Discussions?

  7. Be The Safest Person In The World To Your Spouse 1. What Can You Do To Improve Your Marriage? If your spouse is not vulnerable with you… you are not a safe person to them

  8. 2. A Safe Person Is A Person Who… • Accepts me as I am ~ to be on the outside what I am on the inside • Helps me love & be responsible ~ Increases love within me • I can be myself around • Whose life touches mine & I am better for it • Helps me grow…into who I am created to be… Helps me be like Christ How Are You Doing At Being Safe For Your Spouse?

  9. 3. What Is Empathy?

  10. 4. What Does Empathy Do? Allows for connection & intimacy What Is The Developmental Process?

  11. How Do We Listen? 10% words/30% sounds/60% body language… 80-90% is NON-VERBAL! Levels of Listening: • Ignoring • Pretending • Selective • Attentive • Empathic • We evaluate • We probe • We advise… fix • We interpret

  12. Highest level of listening • Creates safety ~ the “safety net” that allows vulnerability & risk • Seeks to UNDERSTAND BEFORE BEING UNDERSTOOD • The language of sentiment & emotion ~ not logic • A transformation opportunity rather than a mere transaction • The only path to attachment & intimacy 4. What Empathic Listening?

  13. What you intend to say What you hear What you think you heard What you actually say #2 #3 What the other person intends to say in response What the other person hears #1 What the other person thinks they heard What the other person actually says in response

  14. Speaker Skills: • Issue • Facts • Feelings • Thoughts • Wants • Actions • Table • Soft • Ownership • Brief 6. Empathic Listening • Listener Skills: • Square • Open ~ Posture • Lean Forward • Eye Contact • Relax • Paraphrase • Validate • Empathize • Creating safety by: • Seeking to understand • Valuing & respecting the listener • Imagining my partner’s vulnerability • Moving towards the negative • Playing by rules

  15. TIPS & RULES: • Make “I” statements • Don’t say “always” or “never” • Don’t Interrupt • Stick to the topic & the present • No labeling or name-calling • Don’t try to “fix” • Listen for sentiment & emotion • If all else fails…

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