Welcome to John Doe’s “Self-Directed Behavior Project”

1. Welcome to John Doe’s“Self-Directed Behavior Project”

2. My Goal • : Improve my Communication Skills

3. Specifically • Amount of non-essential information. • Prior to the main topic. • Decreased my involvement. • Became bored. • Had little or nothing to contribute.

4. Anticipated Obstacles • Mistake Planning • consciously recognize when I’m becoming detached from the conversation. • remind myself to keep focused on what was being said. • refocus on the conversation by recognizing the differences in the way men and women communicate.

5. Anticipated Obstacles • Difficult Situation Hierarchy • Environmental distraction • TV, Sporting Events, Working, etc.. • Physical and mental limitations • Tired, mornings, late night • Portions of subject matter • Non-relevant, not interesting

6. Pros Improved marital relationship Positive influence on my children Stronger family relationships Better career communication skills Cons Difficult to change life long trait Pros and Cons to Change

7. Sub-Goals, Final Goal, Plans • Sub-Goals • Improve Communications • with spouse • at work • in social environments

8. Sub-Goals, Final Goal, Plans • Final Goal • Become an effective communicator in all situations and environments.

9. Sub-Goals, Final Goal, Plans

10. Data Collection Summary

11. Problem Behaviors • Assuming there will be lots of pointless information before the real topic is revealed. • Assuming the conversation will not commence logically. • Not be able to respond quickly when input to the conversation is required on my part.

12. Antecedents • Opening phrases, What do you think about….. or how does this plan sound….. or do you have a minute? come to my office. • Thinking …..o boy… I’m not going to have anything to add…. then not responding quickly and appearing as if you don’t care.

13. Practice • Listened to other conversations and mentally took part in the conversation as practice. • Mentally reviewed conversations by my role model. • Reviewed my Journal to rehearse the conversation using observations learned above.

14. Revised Plan • Concentrate on listening • Suppress the urge to react to my antecedents • Maintain eye contact • Remove distractions • Ask for time to respond • Use reflective listening techniques • Focus on them not me.

15. Reward • Mental pat on the back.

16. Stepping Stones • Short-Term-Goal 1: • Change my overall communication style. • Short-Term Goal 2: • Begin using new communication style. • Short-Term Goal 3: • Evaluate, Adjust and improve each conversational style and begin to nail down new style. • Short-Term Goal 4: • Refine and strengthen my new conversation skills • Slowly allow distractions that previously would kill the conversation. 

17. Stepping Stones • Short-Term-Goal 5: • Review my performance and identify what went well and improvement opportunities. • Short-Term Goal 6: • Realize and accept that effective communication is a skill that will not change quickly and has to be continually sharpened.

18. Cheat Sheet Concentrate on listening Suppress the urge to react to my antecedents Maintain eye contact Remove distractions Ask for time to respond Use reflective listening techniques Focus on them not me. You agreed to improve your communication skills, Keep Driving Forward!

19. Thank You