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Chapter 8 Simple Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries

Chapter 8 Simple Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries. “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” — Will Rogers . © 2006 Jones and Bartlett Publishers. The Ageless Wisdom of Assertiveness.

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Chapter 8 Simple Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries

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  1. Chapter 8Simple Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries

  2. “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” — Will Rogers © 2006 Jones and Bartlett Publishers

  3. The Ageless Wisdom of Assertiveness Although there are no division lines between mind, body, spirit, and emotions, we need to establish boundaries in our personal lives for stability. By and large, people have poor personal boundaries (e.g., relationships, finances, etc.) People who do not assert themselves make a habit of feeling victimized--also known as “victim consciousness.”

  4. The Art of Healthy Boundaries Healthy boundaries are guidelines (rules) you establish for personal stability. Healthy boundaries may be established in all areas of one’s life: relationships, finances, nutrition, leisure, family. The real art of healthy boundaries is to establish them, but have some flexibility so they are not too rigid.

  5. Benefits of Healthy Boundaries The best benefit of healthy boundaries is not feeling like a victim. As such, healthy boundaries provide a sense of empowerment.

  6. The Anatomy of High Self-Esteem There is a correlation between self-esteem and stress levels. High self-esteem… low stress Low self-esteem… high stress These are the components of high self-esteem: Uniqueness Role models Connectedness Calculated risks Empowerment

  7. The Importance of Empowerment What is empowerment? The opposite of empowerment is ego-based control (the illusion of control). Why is empowerment necessary in a rapidly changing world?

  8. The Anatomy of Assertiveness Assertiveness is considered the mid-point between passiveness and aggressiveness. Assertiveness is establishing your rights. Assertiveness is moving from victim to hero (e.g., Rosa Parks).

  9. How to Incorporate Assertiveness into Your Life The following are some time-tested methods of assertive behavior: Learn to say no when your feel people are taking advantage of you. Use I statements (e.g., “I feel that this would not be a good idea”). Use direct eye contact (a means of being equal). Use assertive body language (another means of being equal).

  10. Best Benefits of Assertiveness The best benefit of assertiveness is not claiming victimization (poor me syndrome). In essence, you are trading the role of victim for empowerment.

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