Parents in Transition

1. Parents in Transition Presented by: Rochelle Ament, Parent Services Coordinator Adapted from Britt Andreatta, Ph.D., Peter Russell, Ph.D., and Jeanne Stanford, Ph.D. University of California at Santa Barbara

2. Parent Program Goals • Learn about the Universities expectations and resources • Become acquainted with parent resources • Parent Services Web site and E-Newsletter • Family Association • Family Weekend • Learn more about student and parent transition • Support your student

3. Expectations • Data Privacy • Illegal for an institution of higher education to release private information of educational records without written consent of the student. • Develop a system of open communication with your student • Authorization for Release of Information • Ask your student

4. Parent Services Resources • Family Connections E-Newsletter • 5 times each year; Sept., Nov., Jan., March, and once in the summer • Sign-up card in Family Folder

5. Family Association Inaugural year! Opportunity to stay connected to student and campus All families are considered members and there are no fees or dues required Sign-up card in Family Folder Parent Services Resources

6. Parent Services Resources Online Family Guidebook • Tips for parents and families regarding their student’s academic success, academic policies, residence hall move-in, various campus resources, and Mankato area lodging and restaurant information

7. Parent Services Resources October 17-19 • College Showcases • 5K Fun Run/Walk • Legacy Breakfast • Open Game Room • Theatre and Movies

8. Parent Services Resources • Parent Services Web site www.mnsu.edu/fye/parents

9. Parent Services Resources Parent Services Coordinator • Available to assist families with questions, concerns, and navigating MSU Rochelle Ament 10 Gage Complex (507) 389-6601 rochelle.ament@mnsu.edu

10. Students, their Parents and the College Transition • Stage I: Ambivalence • Stage II: Cognitive Separation • Stage III: Emotional Separation • Stage IV: Values Clarification • Stage V: New Relationship

11. Stage I: Ambivalence • Struggle to maintain relationship as it was or move toward adult-adult relationship • Inconsistent behavior • Parents try to control behavior with rules

12. 10 Things I Hate About You Buena Vista, 1999

13. Stage II: Cognitive Separation • Rational and unemotional conversations • Parents need to intellectually separate to let go • Students may be arguing excessively with parents to develop a sense of self

14. Anywhere But Here Twentieth Century Fox, 2000

15. Stage III: Emotional Separation • Nostalgia, loss, anger, and guilt accompany the transition • Parents tend to be here prior to the student leaving home • Student typically experiences this stage after moved away • Parents realize the significance • Parents may question the quality of their parenting and may offer advice or guidance

16. Out-of-Towners Paramount Pictures, 1999

17. Out-of-Towners Paramount Pictures, 1999

18. Out-of-Towners Paramount Pictures, 1999

19. Stage IV: Values Clarification • Student goes through this stage and parents react • Student explores new values, beliefs, and experiences. • Patience is key for parents • Student formulates new values

20. Son-In-Law Hollywood Pictures, 1996

21. Stage V: New Relationship • Successfully create new adult-adult relationship • Student looks to parent as mentor and friend

22. Father of the Bride Touchstone Pictures, 1991

23. Questions?Thank you for attending and supporting your student!