Ten Things HIV Gay Negative People Need To Know

1. Ten Things HIV Gay Negative People Need To Know 1. Not all positive guys are naked drug addicts: It is probably human nature to try to find fault with the actions of those who become infected. If we see them as extremists, it will help the rest of us feel more confident in our own choices. And yet, the truth is that most new infections occur in "primary relationships," such as a lover or boyfriend, and usually because one partner didn't know they were infected and then passed HIV on to their partner. This is why there is such an intense focus on testing, and on a regular basis. New infections aren't usually the result of a wild night of meth-fueled sex or a rowdy night in the bathroom. It happens, sure, but that doesn't make good "sex" any safer. Skin or tips, it's the same with HIV. 2. Life with HIV is not a horror show about toxic drugs: Yes, HIV usually requires medication and doctor visits. Just like any chronic disease. With so many options for HIV drug therapies, side effects are dramatically reduced, and once they develop, they will be reduced even further. HIV-positive guys don't cry every morning while taking pills with their morning coffee. 3. HIV infection does not automatically turn boys into dangerous liars: One of the most unfortunate misconceptions about positive guys is that they outright lie about their status just to get close, or worse, they're on a mission to infect others. Can we tone down the rhetoric about intentional transmission, please? What is true is that positive men often have trouble dating because of the very stigma that comes from sensational rumors like this. It is unfair to blame all positive men for the reckless behavior of a few relatives. 4. Not all HIV-positive people are dangerous in bed: We know positive guys who don't reveal themselves and don't infect their partners, so rejecting people based on their status can be more discriminatory than practical. Also, labeling someone as damaged or unworthy goods is distasteful, and if you've been on the receiving end of this practice, you know how demoralizing it can be. The risk of having sex with someone who is believed to be HIV negative is greater than having sex with an undetectable positive person. This is because the viral activity in a newly positive person can be incredibly high and they may not even know it. Of course, in any case you should know who you are dealing with. So refrain from any risky moves until you know him well enough to be sure he's negative (get tested together!) or make sure he's taking his meds and can't be detected.

2. If you are forced to ask your sexual partner's HIV status in advance, consider a more respectful way of doing it ("The test was negative as of this date. How about you?"). Asking if he's "clean" or "disease-free" just makes you look like a dick, especially since you don't know what STDs you can get if you're sexually active. 5. Our health and risky behavior depends on us and no one else: After decades of scientific research and treatment focused on people with HIV, new options are now available for negative sexually active men, such as pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). This breakthrough puts negative guys in control of their own infection risks. Yes, there is some concern about the toxicity of Truvada, the PrEP drug; although new reports suggest they are exaggerated. Your health is always in your hands through the decisions you make, and they have nothing to do with the status of your partner, whether known or unknown. The blame game has never benefited anyone, and the playing field has always been level, whether we admit it or not. 6. Guys with HIV aren't promiscuous... either they have a rotten sex life... or they don't have a sex life: All of these tend to be false, if the typical homosexual sex life is used as a barometer. We all have our moments. Sometimes our dance card is full, sometimes there's a drought, and sometimes the sex we have stinks, and not in a good way. And just like the rest of us, positive guys get their share and have satisfying balls-to-the-wall sex when they're lucky. Judging guys by the level of action they get seems like an old, worn-out argument against all gay men that we could really do without. This is just another example of trying to distance ourselves from positive guys, judging them as different from ourselves. They really aren't. Some are boys, some are whores. After all, it only takes a while. And isn't someone who has more sex than you just a whore?

3. 7. How they got the virus and who gave it to them is none of your business: The details of someone else's infection are not your personal soap opera or cautionary tale, no matter your best intentions. If the guys in office feel like sharing it with you one day, they will. Chances are they agreed to it a long time ago and it's probably not very interesting anyway. They probably had sex and got HIV. You cannot claim the details. 8. If you need an HIV educator or HIV Gay Partner, go find Online: Having HIV does not come with a master class in HIV epidemiology and transmission. Not every person with HIV is an expert or a prevention specialist, or an activist. They simply live with the virus. And if they have to educate you on the simplest facts about HIV prevention, don't be surprised if they're the ones who refuse to have sex. Nothing kills the mood like HIV 101. And most positive guys won't be in a position to convince someone in bed. They probably have hotter, more polished options on their smartphone anyway.For Finding HIV Gay Single you need to visit positive singles dating site which helps to find true love ans support. 9. Positive guys aren't going anywhere anytime soon: Recent studies suggest that someone who becomes infected with HIV in the United States today has the same chance of living a normal life as anyone else. Some research even suggests a longer than average life expectancy because people with HIV see a doctor more often and other health problems can be identified and treated earlier. They are also more likely to avoid drugs and alcohol, eat well and exercise regularly, which are keys to health and longevity. Positive guys know this and live their lives with gratitude, joy and looking to the future. There is no reason for them to settle for second best. As infections continue and treatment improves, healthy HIV-positive gay men are a growing population and It may be better to try to understand and respect them than to rely on old fears or prejudices. 10. More discoveries to come: Research is underway that will continue to change the landscape and make life easier and less risky for both positive and negative.More drugs are being developed for use as PrEP, including injections that could offer protection against HIV infection for months instead of a daily regimen of pills. Condoms are changing with new designs and sensitivity profiles. Soon, even modest risks of infection could be eliminated for those using the new technology. Treatments for HIV infections will be even less toxic and even more effective. All this progress is not only significant in terms of HIV transmission rates. It could help bridge the viral divide that has plagued our community for more than a generation.