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1. Interpersonal Relationships versus Attraction Attraction:
Interpersonal Relationships:
3. Goals of Affiliative behavior
4. Determinants of the need for affiliation: Individual Differences
Different people have different reasons for affiliation:
Positive stimulation
Social support
Attention
Social comparison
High need for affiliation = high social responsiveness
Situational Determinants:
examples:
Disasters/accidents/storms/fear
Need for social comparison:
Cognitive clarity
emotional clarity
5. Defining our Experiences What is a Friend?
How do you define the term?
What characteristics does a friend possess?
6. Making Friendships work for you There must be rewards for your efforts
Implicit exchange of “goods” between people in any “relationship”
idea of social exchange
Social exchange must be beneficial to all
7. Typology of Social Exchange:
8. Models of Social Exchange I:
9. Models of Social Exchange II:
10. Models of Social Exchange III:
11. Models of Social Exchange IV:
12. Cultural differences in social exchange Cultural differences in:
Freedom in relationship choice
Permanence of relationships
Relationships between “selves” differ
13. When don’t Friendships work? Which is more important to you in a personal relationship:
Equality or Equity?
Self-disclosure or Reinforcement ?
Consistency or Spontaneity?
Similarity or Ultimate “beauty”?
In terms of social exchange:
What model of exchange is being used?
What is the value of goods?
Which goods are benefits and which are costs?
14. Factors predicting Liking Proximity
Exposure / Interaction with other
Familiarity:
mere exposure hypothesis
15. Factors predicting Liking Similarity:
Birds of a feather flock together?
16. Factors predicting Liking Attractiveness
Halo effect
Matching hypothesis
17. What about attraction and affect/emotion?
18. Attraction To whom are you attracted?
Why are you attracted to some, but not others?
What is it about people that makes them attractive to you?
Same reasons you chose certain friends?
19. Components of Love
20. Types of Love II: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory
21. Types of Love II: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory
22. Types of Love II: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory
23. Types of Love II: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory
24. Types of Love II: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory
25. Types of Love:
26. Goals of Love I
27. Goals of Love I
28. Gender Differences I What is the lowest level of intelligence you would accept in:
a single date, a sexual partner, a steady date, and a spouse?
29. Gender Differences II Attractive stranger: will you go out with me tonight?
30. Goals of Love II
31. Goals of Love III
32. Arousal in “making” Love Dutton & Aron (1974)
increased arousal = increased attraction
function for love ???
Two-factor theory of Love (Berscheid & Walster, 1974)
general physiological arousal is labeled as “love”
Arousal-facilitation theory (Allen et al., 1989)
physiological arousal adds to present feelings
33. Arousal in “making” Love Dutton & Aron (1974)
increased arousal = increased attraction
34. Consequences of Love Issues of Attachment with ‘that someone’
becoming more Companionate Love
Competition with others
perceptions, value of other alternatives
Self-identity can change
Inclusion-of-Other in Self (Aron & Aron, 1986)
Personality changes
less risk taking
more communally oriented
35. What do these tell us about love? To whom are people attracted?
Who should you date?
Who will you marry?
Who will people love?
When will relationships persist?
Currently, divorce rate is about 50% in U.S.