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1. Prerequisites to Good School Management Trust
Rapport
Common vision
2. Know what is going on at your school Probe; dont cross examine
Probe; dont coach
Inquire; dont challenge
Uncover; dont trap
Draw out; dont pump
Guide; dont dominate
3. Get out of your office and see what is going on Walk the halls
Get into classrooms
Talk to teachers and other school employees in a tactful, nonthreatening manner
4. Create a Positive Atmosphere Dont let the desk be a barricade
Begin conversations in a friendly and informal manner
Be goal oriented and accomplish identified tasks, but remembering people are people first!
5. Practice active listening Paraphrase feelings accurately
Paraphrase content accuratelyrepeat the content of what is heard in own words
Use door openersTell me more
; Sounds interesting
Use acknowledgment responsesMm-mm; Yes; Right; Certainly
Use non-verbalsLook at the person; nod head; lean forward
6. Teacher begins crying Let the teacher cry; then try to reassure
Offer a tissue; remain silent for a while; use a soothing tone of voice
In extreme cases, stop the conversation and reschedule for another time
Try to change the subject; find something in common or something positive to discuss
7. Teacher is angry Smile and give positive responses
Ask, Is there anything you would like to discuss before with me before we
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State, Remember, we are here to work together
Be confident; maintain good eye contact
Put some distance between you and the teacher
DONT Argue
DONT allow the teacher to be abusive
Ignore offensive language
Remain CALM
8. Teacher shows confusion Ask --Would you like for me to clarify something?
Rephrase the statement
Ask --What is the nature of your confusion?
State --Ill help if I can, or if I dont know, Ill find the answer
9. Teacher is frustrated Try to minimize stress by talking informally for a brief time
Take a short break, if possible
Explain that perfection is not expected
Emphasize strengths
Try to identify the cause of frustration
Be supportive
Try to make a positive statement
10. Teacher receives suggestions, but becomes defensive Use another term for need, such as area to strength, area for refinement, or area for improvement
Prepare the teacher during orientation to expect suggestions
Emphasize that everyone can improve
State-- This is one area I noticed that you might want to work on
Ask-- Could you add something to this suggestion?
Encourage the teacher to express his feelings
11. Be an Empathetic Listener Demonstrate an open, accepting attitude through body language and furniture placement
Give the staff member complete attention and concentrate on the their words and body language
Limit remarkslet the staff member do most of the talking
Listen and look for feelings
Help the them stay on the subject
12. Be an Empathetic Listener Dont think ahead planning an answer think about what the person is saying
Dont attempt to analyze the person
Dont judge or categorize the person or form a biased opinion
Dont tell a someone not to feel that way that is beside the pointthe fact is the they do feel that way
Dont complete sentences for them