Invisibility or Flight?

2. Invisibility or Flight?

3. LLAMA Career Institutelibrarian.net/talks/llama16 What Matters? A Workshop for Developing & Articulating Our Values

4. Outline of the day • Intro & basic overviews & definitions • Workplace & personal values exercises • Discussion about values conflicts and priorities • Lightning exercise about optimism • Learning about elevator pitches • Buddying up and farewell

5. My Personal ValuesStory

6. "You make what seems a simple choice choose a spouse or a job or a neighborhood—and what you have chosen is not a spouse or a job or a neighborhood, but a life." –Jessamyn West (not me!)

8. values… • … are not beliefs • … can change over time • … are sort of judgmental (is ok)

9. values • How to live your life • How to act with others • Your secret thoughts and feelings

10. I learned what I know from • Moderating a large online community

11. I learned what I know from • Moderating a large online community • A lot of difficult conversations with a lot of difficult people

12. I learned what I know from • Moderating a large online community • A lot of difficult conversations with a lot of difficult people • Books & therapy (and books about therapy!)

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14. I learned what I know from • Moderating a large online community • A lot of difficult conversations with a lot of difficult people • Books & therapy (and books about therapy!) • Library school & "our professional values" stuff

15. What Matters? • Exploring your values with others

16. "I chose this."

17. What Matters? • Exploring your values with others • Acknowledging your choices & agency

18. Where do values come from? • Family • Community • Role models • ?????? • ???? • ???? • ???? • ????

19. e x e r c i s e

20. Top 5 Bottom 5 • ????

21. Some of my current values

22. Some of my current values

23. Some of my current values

24. Personal ValuesInventory e x e r c i s e

25. values inventory • Circle ten to keep. Cross out ten. Then cross out five of the circled ones. Then cross out two more. • You can't have twenty "core values." Conflicting values is normal, not aberrant. • Think about something not just as a concept you like, but one that makes you want to do something in your life

26. What Matters? • Exploring your values with others • Acknowledging your choices & agency • Being honest about your own capabilities

27. Personal vs. Professional values • What does it mean to say an organization has values? • What is the difference between decision making that is values-based and other kinds of decision making?

29. e x e r c i s e

30. What Matters? • Exploring your values with others • Acknowledging your choices & agency • Being honest about your own abilities • The ability to evaluate & make decisions when there is no right or wrong answer

32. Hidden Values

33. "If you're honest, you sooner or later have to confront your values. Then you're forced to separate what is right from what is merely legal. This puts you metaphysically on the run. America is full of metaphysical outlaws." –Tom Robbins

35. Ask vs. Guess Culture

36. "I'm coming to your city for a few days. Can I stay with you?" Does it matter if the person is family, friend or colleague?

37. It's OK to ask. Answer might be "No." Ask Culture

38. Only ask if the answer is likely to be "Yes." Guess Culture

39. "I'm coming to your city for a few days. Can you suggest places to stay?"

40. Ask Guess • Subtle (and/or vague) • Presumes agreement first • Face-saving • Works best with single-culture groups • Direct (and/or rude) • Puts onus on askee to say "No." • Askee may feel pressured to say yes

41. "A charitable interpretation would be…." e x e r c i s e

42. "That person cut me off in traffic."

43. "That person won't get off the computer."

44. "That person is asleep in the library."

45. "That person didn't say hello back to me."

46. "That waiter won't come to our table."

47. "This person is hogging our shared armrest."

48. "My request for a holiday was denied."

50. charitable ≠ chump