S.A.V.E.S

1. S.A.V.E.S S.A.V.E.S. Students Against Violence, Exploitation and Sexual Assault. S.A.V.E.S. is a group of Kelly students that will be helping promote the counseling services available in the community S.A.V.E.S. is working on Violence Intervention.

2. Counseling Services Violence Recovery Services is offering NEW Counseling Services at Kelly High School For Youth Impacted by: -Teen Dating Violence -Sexual Assault -Stalking -Domestic Violence For more information, please contact: Yesenia Arreola at Kelly High School (773) 535-4631 or Work Cell (312) 371-0506 yarreola@heartlandalliance.org

3. 24 Hour Hotlines National Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 Chicago Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-877-863-6338 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 Chicago Rape Crisis Hotline: 1-888-293-2080 GBTQ Crisis Hotline: 1-773-871-2273

4. Shelters For Youth The Night Ministry 1-877-286-2523 Teen Living Programs 1-866-803-8336 x10

5. Referral Form

6. Stalking

7. StalkingAcoso • Is someone constantly monitoring you, against your will? • Is someone constantly trying to contact you against your will by sending you text messages, emails, social network sites, or calling you? • Is someone trying to find out information about you such as: who you’re with, where you are, and what you are doing? • Not all stalking is done through technology. Some stalkers may actually follow you throughout your day. • Most Domestic Violence victims are being stalked by their abusers.

8. Stalking Types • Intimate Partner Stalkers • Casual Acquaintance Stalker • Stranger Stalking • Delusional Stalkers • Serial Stalkers • False Stalking / False Victims

9. Intimate Partner Stalkers • Once the relationship ends, this group of stalkers, fearing they will lose their identity and self-worth, often become desperate to re-establish the dominance and control they wielded during the relationship.  • If they find this isn't possible they can become suicidal, homicidal or both.  • Women are about seven times more likely than men to experience violence committed by an intimate. • Female victims of violence by an intimate are more often injured seriously enough to require medical attention than are females victimized by a stranger.  • Intimate partner stalking can end in much worse than just injury.  It can end in death if the stalkers cannot regain the control they so intensely and desperately need.

10. Casual Acquaintance Stalker • In this type of stalking the relationship can be as minor as a casual interaction, and all be interpreted as a romantic encounter by a potential stalker. • a momentary conversation • a quick lunch together in a crowded restaurant • a across a room smile • A large number of people every year become stalking victims because they felt sorry for someone and showed him or her compassion.  • Stalkers often see any acts of kindness as a sign of the true love that they are convinced exists between them and their victims. • this does not mean that people should stop being kind and polite to others.   It does mean, however, that you should be on the lookout for the signs of a potential stalker and take action immediately if you believe you may become a stalking victim.

11. Stranger Stalking • Often a stranger stalker suffers from erotomania; a mental disorder that causes the stalker to believe another person is in love with him or her.  Due to this disorder, a stranger stalker may fantasize either that they have had an intimate relationship with their victim or that their victim truly loves them and wants to have an intimate relationship with them. • Occasionally victims of stranger stalking may eventually find out who their stalkers are.  Often, the stalker is completely unknown to them, sometimes they are just nodding acquaintances, and sometimes they are individuals who have had chance encounters with the victim. • Stranger stalking usually doesn't end with the violence of many intimate partner stalking. • Being stalked by a stranger can affect the way a person looks at others and at life in general.  • Victims of stranger stalking often feel they can no longer smile at or be friendly with strangers or casual acquaintances and come to question the meaning of smiles given by others.  • They stop being outgoing instead they become standoffish and self-protective.  They discover that their whole lives are changed.

12. Delusional Stalkers • Delusional Stalkers may have major mental illnesses like schizophrenia, manic-depression or erotomania. • In erotomania, the stalker's delusional belief is that the victim loves him/her.  This type of stalker actually believes that he is having a relationship with his victim, even though they might never have met. • Another type of delusional stalker might believe that he is destined to be with someone, and that if he only pursues her hard enough and long enough, she will come to love him as he loves her.  • The typical profile of a delusional stalker is that of an unmarried and socially immature loner, who is unable to establish or sustain a close relationship with others.  • Delusional stalkers have almost always come from a background which was either emotionally barren or severely abusive.

14. Serial Stalkers • Although stalking victims may desperately want to know why they were chosen as the victim, what they might have done to trigger a stalker's obsession with them, often, they find the answer is nothing. They are just one of a serial stalker's many victims.  • These stalkers are simply following a pattern of behavior they have practiced for years.  No matter what the reason or cause for the stalking, victims should be cautioned that serial stalkers in particular are very disturbed individuals.

15. False Stalking / False Victims • False victims, as they are sometimes known, use a variety of situations to attract attention to themselves.  • In some cases they may harass their own family and friends in order to fabricate false evidence or witness reports.  This type of stalker firmly believes that he or she is the real victim. • In a sense there is a victim - the perpetrator.  Why victimize yourself?  Perhaps the person noticed how kind and considerate others were to them, when they presented themselves as a victim some time in the past.  • In short - the perpetrator/victim takes immense pleasure from being cared for and being the center of attention.

17. What is the impact of stalking on victims? Individual responses may vary but commonly include: Fear: of what the stalker will do next, of leaving the house, of the dark, of the phone ringing Vulnerability: feeling totally exposed, never feeling safe, not knowing who to trust or where to turn for help Nervousness: feeling anxious, fearful, jumpy, irritable, impatient, on edge, getting startled by small things Depression: feeling despair, hopelessness, overwhelmed with emotion, tearful, angry Stress: having difficulty concentrating, forgetting things, feeling generally distracted and worried Sleeping problems: nightmares, interrupted sleep patterns, not being able to fall asleep, wanting to sleep all the time Isolation: feeling disconnected from family or friends, feeling no one understands Use of alcohol or drugs: to numb fear and anxiety triggered by stalking incidents, to induce calm and sleep

18. Age of victim at time of first stalking incident N=797 Women and Men Less than 18 years old 18-29 years old 30-39 years old 40 years or older

19. What kind of obstacles can prevent victims seeking help? • Fears about how the stalker will respond • Threats by the stalker  • Limited options for relocation to safer housing • Language barriers • Limited accessibility of victim assistance programs • Belief that no one can or will help • Fears about the consequences of seeking help

20. If YOU or anyone you know is a Victim of STALKING we can help.

21. Resources Esia.Stalking.http://www.esia.net Stalking.http://fridayisred.blogspot.com Stalking. http://ncvc.org This project was supported by Grant No. 2010-WY-AX-K026 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women.