Child Development & Discipline

1. Child Development & Discipline

2. Class Objective To understand the developmental needs of Children, & how to relate to them effectively,& to learn positive methods of discipline.

3. Developmental Characteristics • Toddlers Ages 1-2 • Preschoolers Ages 3-5 • Adventurers Grades 1-4

4. Toddlers • Mental Characteristics • Learn that Hidden Things Exist • Realize Past, Present, Future • Language Development Influenced by Being Read & Talked to • Know Meaning of Yes & No

5. Physical Characteristics • Rapid Growth in Size • Rapid Weight Gain • Sensory Development • Total Mobility Development

6. Social Characteristics • Separation Anxiety • Easily Frustrated • Able to Fake Emotions • Have Recognizable Personality

7. Spiritual Characteristics • Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Developed • Reinforcement & Consistency Important • Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive

8. Preschoolers • Mental Characteristics • Vocabulary Goes from 900 to 3000 Words • Learn Basic Concepts

9. Physical Characteristics • Ride Tricycle • Throw Ball • Stand on One Foot • Unbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten • Can Work Puzzles, etc.

10. Social Characteristics • Need Clear Consistent Rules • Need Opportunities for Independence • Learn to Share • Need Balance – Quiet & Active • Imaginary Friends • Acts Different Around Others • Learn Empathy

11. Spiritual Characteristics • Develops Picture of God • Begins to Learn Right & Wrong • Becomes Self-Aware • Influenced by Environment

12. Adventurers • Mental Characteristics • Learns by Doing • Curious about Everything • Understands What is Seen & Touched • Imaginative • Memorizes Easily & Likes Variety

13. Physical Characteristics • Boundless Energy • Developing Coordination

14. Social Characteristics • Learning Social Skills • Becoming More Independent • Need Success & Adult Approval • Becomes Easily Over-excited • Very Social • Begins to Need Peer Approval • Wants to Win

15. Spiritual Characteristics • Concerned about Right & Wrong • Still Motivated by Self-Advantage • Looks to Parents for Guidance • Soaks-up Biblical Knowledge

16. Effective Club Discipline • Discipline vs. Punishment • Discipline is a Process. • Punishment is an inflicted consequence.

17. Reasons for Misbehavior • A Lack of Understanding • A Lack of Self-Control • Unfulfilled Needs • Rebellion & Defiance

18. Maintaining Discipline • Provide a Peaceful Environment • Have a Well-Organized Program & Be Prepared • Establish Rapport • Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse It • Be Consistent

19. Maintaining Discipline, Cont. • Be Positive • Consider the Motives • Change Focus • Be an Example • Pray

20. Child Abuse • Physical • Sexual

21. Physical Abuse Physical Signs • Cuts, welts, or swelling • Burns • Cigarette burns • Burns with a pattern • Fractures • Scars with peculiar pattern • Bruises / bite marks

22. Physical Abuse Behavioral Characteristics • Sleep difficulties • Thumb sucking • Fearfulness • Listlessness and apathy • Aggression and violence or withdrawal

23. Sexual Abuse Physical Signs • Torn or stained underclothing • Difficulty with bowel or bladder control • Soreness, bleeding, or discharges from a non- menstruating girl

24. Sexual Abuse Physical Signs, cont. 4.Trauma to breasts,buttocks, lower abdomen, thighs, genitals, or rectal area 5. Evidences of self-mutilation

25. Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics • Regressive behavior • Refusal to undress • Poor personal hygiene • Obsessively good behavior • Frequent unprovoked anger • Panicking or flinching when touched

26. Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics, cont. 7. Continually falling asleep during the day 8. Seductive behavior 9. Fire setting 10.Cruelty to smaller children or animals 11.Obsession with punctuality

27. Sexual Abuse Behavioral Characteristics, cont. 12. Frequent sore throats, difficulty swallowing or choking 13. Sudden weight gain or extreme weight loss

28. Motivating Children • What we can do: 1. Build Relationships 2. Be a Role Model 3. Be Careful of Stereotypes 4. Remember that Everyone is Motivated