Bullying:

1. Bullying: In person and On the internet

2. BULLYINGis • an imbalance of Power

3. Bullying can be • the repeated and systematic harassment and attacks on others • perpetrated by individuals or groups

4. Bullying can be • Physical violence • Verbal taunts, name-calling, and put-downs • Threats and intimidation • Extortion or stealing money and/or possessions • Spreading rumors/ vicious gossip • Harassment via technology (email, text messaging, etc.)

5. Cyberbullying is harassment and bullying that takes place online or through other mobile devices

6. Cyber bullying examples • Spreading rumors about someone through instant messaging • Threatening someone on a web log (blog) • Creating hurtful websites against someone • Posting unauthorized nude photos on the internet • Posting “private information” on the internet

7. Cyberbullying also includes • Sending someone mean or threatening emails, instant messages, or text messages • Excluding someone from an instant messenger buddy list or blocking their email for no reason • Tricking someone into revealing personal or embarrassing information and sending it to others

8. And it includes • Breaking into someone's email or instant message account to send cruel or untrue messages while posing as that person • Creating websites to make fun of another person such as a classmate or teacher • Using websites to rate peers as prettiest, ugliest, etc.

9. Cyberbullying Causes Serious Emotional Harm It can seem more extreme to its victims than face to face bullying.

10. Cyberbullying invades homes, Being bullied at home can take away the place people feel most safe.

11. CyberbullyingHas No Limits. People write things online that they wouldn't say in person. No one can tell if the person Is lying by looking at him or her.

12. Cyberbullying = Bigger Audience Emails making fun of someone can be sent “everywhere”, or posted on a website for the whole world to see.

13. Cyberbullyingcan be anonymous. Cyberbullies often hide behind screen names and email addresses that don't identify who they are. Not knowing who is responsible for bullying messages can add to a victim's insecurity.

14. Cyberbullying may seem inescapable. It may seem easy to get away from a cyberbully by just getting offline, but for some people not going online takes away one of the major places they socialize. It steals social opportunities. It steals that sense of knowing you have someplace else to talk to someone in a private environment.

15. Origin of a Bully: Anywhere Bullies come from any economic, cultural, and religious background, Bullies come from any type of family good, bad or indifferent

16. What do Bullies want • Power pOwer poWer powEr poweR

17. Bullies have • a positive attitude toward violence • quick tempers • difficulty conforming to rules • positive self images

18. Bullies • lack empathy • find it difficult to see things from someone else’s perspective • gain satisfaction from inflicting injury and perceive “rewards” (prestige, material goods) from their behavior

19. Bullies are concerned with their own desires rather than those of others and are willing to use others to get what they want.

20. Characteristics of Those Who Are Bullied • Appearance • Sexual orientation • Intellect • Socio-economic background • Cultural or religious background In others words, things that make you different.

21. Males and females used to be bullied in differently. • Males were more likely to be bullied physically. • Females were more likely to be bullied socially. That is changing, especially on college campuses.

22. Physical signs of Bullying • Cuts, bruises, scratches • Headaches, stomachaches • Damaged possessions • “Missing” possessions that need to be replaced

23. Emotional Signs of Bullying • Withdrawal and/or shyness • Anxiety • Depression • Aggression • Excuse making • Self blame

24. Behavioral Signs of Bullying • Changes in eating or sleeping habits (e.g., nightmares) • No longer wanting to participate in activities once enjoyed • Beginning to bully siblings or mistreat family or friends or pets • Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide • Suddenly changing friends

25. Academic Signs of Bullying • Not wanting to go to school • Changing method of going to school (e.g., changing walking route, wanting to be driven instead of driving) • Drop in grades • Sudden lack of participation in class • Sudden lack of preparation • Confusion about assignments

26. Signs of Cyberbullying Same as bullying Plus Avoidance of computer use Fear of telephone ringing Fear of getting text messages Sudden change of telephone number/s Sudden change in e-mail address/es Unusual curiosity about a certain e-mailer

27. Anti-bullying Strategies • Tell someone. • Talk it out with the bully. • Walk away. • Distract the bully with a joke. • Avoid the bully. • Hang out with friends. • Do something to help yourself.

28. Anti Cyberbullying Strategies • Blocking communication with the cyberbully • Deleting messages without reading them or forwarding them to campus police • Talking to a friend about the bullying • Reporting the problem to an Internet service provider or website moderator • Raising awareness of the cyberbullying problem in your community by holding an assembly and creating fliers to give to people

29. Cyberbullying Prevention • Never post or share your personal information online (this includes your full name, address, telephone number, school name, parents’ names, credit card number, or Social Security number) or your friends’ personal information. • Never share your Internet passwords with anyone. • Never meet anyone face-to-face whom you only know online without telling someone else. • Talk to someone about what you do online.

30. Fighting back • Fighting back in person is not an effective strategy because there is a risk of: • Physical injuries as a result of the fight • Suspension (many schools have zero tolerance policies) • Increased bullying/retaliation • Reinforcement of belief that violence is an acceptable way to deal with problems

31. Fighting back on the internet • Fighting back on the internet is not good either. • Your e-mail can be forwarded • Your e-mail can be edited • Your e-mail can be used as evidence against you • Pictures can be added to your e-mail

32. Peer Intervention When peers intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time.

33. Peer intervention strategies • Tell the bully to stop. • Help the victim walk away. • Recruit friends to help the victim. • Befriend the victim. • Get someone with authority to help.

34. People with Authority SHOULD • Stop the bullying • Support the person being bullied • Name the bullying behavior • Refer to the rules against bullying • Impose immediate and appropriate consequences • Empower those witnessing the bullying

35. Bullying Should Be Reported And Discussed • Report the incident to administrators. • Increase vigilance and communication. • Insist upon separate conversations with the person who is bullied and the person who did the bullying. • Insist that someone in authority speak first with the person who is bullied. • Insist that administrators impose a consequence for the act/s of bullying.

36. Reminders • Anyone can be a bully. • It’s not fun being a victim. • If you wouldn’t say it in person, don’t say it online.

37. Presentation • The above information was obtained from: National Crime Prevention Council 2345 Crystal Drive Suite 500 Arlington, VA 22202 (202) 466-6272 (used with permission)