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Learn how to handle unkindness with positivity and confidence to create a better environment. Practice positive thinking, self-reassurance, distraction techniques, positive body language, and effective communication strategies. Discover your power to combat negativity and bullying. References include studies on body image and anti-bullying strategies.
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You’re minding your own business and suddenly someone says something unkind to you in the corridor or in the dinner queue – What do you do?
If it’s systematic and repeated and they’re serious about hurting you, then, yes, it’s bullying, so tell a teacher immediately. • If it’s just a casual bit of random, thoughtless unkindness or some weird attempt to have fun, then here are some tools that you can use to deal with it in a way that will make things better not worse. • If we all learn these tools and use them, then gradually the corridors and the dinner queues will become much nicer places to be.
Think Positive - 1 • Think Positive - think friendly. • How? • Start by asking yourself why people are doing this…? • NB Bullying is different. Report it.
It's okay. They don't mean any harm. They think they're being funny. They're just mucking around
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Think Positive - 2 • Reassure yourself • How? • Think about your real self, you at your best. Remember tough times that you came through, good things that you did. • Tell yourself something reassuring.
Stuff happens. It doesn't have to get me down. There's more to me than what you see. I'm cool. I can handle this.
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Think Positive – 3 • Distract yourself • Think about your favourite music, food, stuff you like, the nice people in your life, your pet if you have one ... • Go through the alphabet - each letter, another nice thing...
…A…? …B…? …C…? What’s in your favourites alphabet? A – apple juice B - bicycle C – D..... … … … … … W - ... ... X – X-Factor Y - YouTube Z - ZMovies
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Body Positive • Body language - • look the other person in the eye • head up • shoulders at ease • straight back • Firm voice • Think: Calm and relaxed • Be: Calm and relaxed
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Talk Positive - 1 • Say what’s good and what’s true
Y'know what? It doesn't matter. We're all okay just as we are. Does the way I look bother you? I think it's okay for me to be me.
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Talk Positive 2 - Fogging Pupil A - Hey, wart-zone, was your father a toad? Pupil B - Excuse me, is there a problem? Pupil A - The aliens have landed!!! Pupil B - I'm sorry, I'm not sure what point you're trying to make.
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References (1) Ditch the Label 2015 Survey http://www.ditchthelabel.org/the-annual-bullying-survey-2015-is-here/ (2)Kish, V. & Lansdown, R. (2000) ‘Meeting the psychosocial impact of facial disfigurement – Developing a clinical service for children and families’, Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry, 5 (4). 497-512 (3) Bull, R. and Rumsey, N. (1988) The Social Psychology of Facial Appearance New York: Springer-Verlag (4) Government Equalities Office (2013) Body image: evidence, policy, action. Report of a multidisciplinary academic seminar, Page 7. Dove (2014) Reframing beauty: unlocking the potential of young girls, Page 8. (5) Government Equalities Office (2013) Body image: evidence, policy, action. Report of a multidisciplinary academic seminar, Page 7. (6) Policy and Herman (2004) Sociocultural idealisation of thin female body shapes: An introduction to the special issues on body image and eating disorders, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology. (7) Cohane and Pope (2001) Body image in boys: a review of the literature, The International Journal of Eating Disorders in Government Equalities Office (2013) Body image: evidence, policy, action. Report of a multidisciplinary academic seminar, Page 6. Carr and Szymanski (2010) Sexual objectification and substance abuse in young adult women, The Counselling Psychologist. Van den Berg and Neumark-Sztainer (2007) Fat’n Happy 5 years later: is it bad for overweight girls to like their bodies? Journal of Adolescent Health in Government Equalities Office (2013) Body image: evidence, policy, action. Report of a multidisciplinary academic seminar, Page 5. (8) Lovegrove, E (2002) ‘Adolescents, appearance and anti-bullying strategies’, Ph.D. Thesis, University of the West of England.