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characteristics of Blue comm. Friendly Helpful Expresses emotions Optimistic Foster harmony Takes time to relate. Empathetic Creative Indirect Reads between the lines Personal Polite & compassionate. how Blue listens “ More than words ”. What ’ s the meaning behind the message?
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characteristics of Bluecomm. • Friendly • Helpful • Expresses emotions • Optimistic • Foster harmony • Takes time to relate • Empathetic • Creative • Indirect • Reads between the lines • Personal • Polite & compassionate
how Blue listens“More than words” • What’s the meaning behind the message? • What do I see, hear, feel, about what’s being communicated? • What value is the speaker trying to relate to me? Does it match mine? • Message is secondary
how to communicate w/ Blue • Acknowledge them • Let them know you care • Pay attention to congruency (body language) • Include them • Patience • Listen for feeling • Let them share what they know • Hear them out • Show appreciation • Use gestures of friendship • Tactful feedback • Recognize contributions
characteristics of Gold comm. • In writing • Purposeful • Appropriate • Task focused • Loyal • Predictable • Chronological • Detail oriented • Status quo • Judgments • Closure • Accountable
how Gold listens“Devil’s in the detail” • Chronological details • Not “filling in the blanks” • Listen for responsibility • Information gathering • Right & wrong/Appropriateness • Speaker intentions • Speaker status within given context
how to communicate w/ Gold • Be specific • Outline procedures • Plan ahead • Stay on target • Save surprises & novelty • Don’t interrupt • Apologize when appropriate • Appeal to strong sense of right & wrong • Acknowledge hard work • Maintain composure • Be consistent • Recognize contributions
characteristics Orange comm. • Confident • Loud • Casual • Desire to speak in the moment • “Now” oriented • Quick • Brief • Straightforward • In motion • Flexible • Varied • Involved
how Orange listens“Make it work” • Looking for entertainment, impact, relevance, usefulness • Lose interest easily if lengthy • Make interesting connections • Try to determine motives • Concerned with how to use information now
how to communicate w/ Orange • Be prepared to listen for straight content • Lighten up • Use sound bites • Match their speed • Move with them • Appreciate their flair • Give them an audience • Offer options • Make it a challenge • Recognize their contributions
characteristics of Green comm. • Purposeful • Private • Logical • Think before they speak • Irritated with “stupid questions” • Abhor redundancy • Theoretical • Like the big picture • Love to share ideas • Ask a lot of questions • Use big words • Communicate with conviction • Wry sense of humor
how Green listens“Problem solved, what next?” • Looking for information (data gathering) & purpose of communication • Assume you want a problem solved or are providing necessary communication • Redundancy, extreme emotion, things they aren’t interested = tune out • Problem solving
how to communicate w/ Green • Give time to think • Don’t misinterpret need for info • Give big picture • Stick to logic • Watch your vocabulary • Notice their humor • Debate for fun • Speak with purpose • Understand & heed • Recognize their contributions
Blue, maybe try… • Practicing objectivity • Saying “No” • Learning to hear “No” • Speaking up • Recognizing the difference between politeness & interest • Finding others who communicate like you do
Gold, maybe try… • Giving in a little • Having more patience • Considering other options • Practicing peripheral listening • Accepting others • Stepping back
Orange, maybe try… • Being aware of how others may see you • Waiting for a response before proceeding • Identifying others requirements • Noticing when you’re exaggerating • Focusing when listening to others
Orange, try… • Pausing before commenting • Recognizing others • Using softeners when making requests or giving direction • Making a decision & sticking to it • Finding other oranges
Green, maybe try… • Being more aware of what people are asking of you (details or no details)? • Tempering your “why” • Making room for others emotions • Paying attention to other people’s needs • Listening without fixing • Acknowledging others’ intent • Not debating • Making time for your relationships • Letting others know what’s going on with you
How is this color displayed in your work life?How is the color displayed in your personal life?
What do you like about your color?What do you dislike about it?How do others misunderstand you? What’s that like for you?What do others need to know about working with you?
“The thing you need to know about our color is…”“We know you don’t understand it, but here’s why we…”“You need us in your group because we…”
What do you value in your communication with others?What’s important to you when people are communicating with you?How do you approach communicating with others?What do you need to remember to be careful about when communicating with others?How do you listen?
What would this group value in their communication with others?What would you assume this group sees as the purpose of communication?What would be a “turn off” to this person when you are communicating with them?What is the correlation between communication and the relationship of the communicators?When this group is listening to you, what do you think they are listening for?