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The Third Side William L. Ury Harvard University. The Challenge. What will it take to transform destructive conflict into constructive conflict at home, at work, in the community & in the world?. Two Sides of the Conflict. Side 1. Side 2. The Third Side of the Conflict. Side 3.
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The Challenge What will it take to transform destructive conflict into constructive conflict at home, at work, in the community & in the world?
Two Sides of the Conflict Side 1 Side 2
The Third Side of the Conflict Side 3 Side 1 Side 2
Who is the Third Side? Outsiders (e.g. neighbors, neutrals, bystanders) 1 1 Insiders (e.g family, friends, the parties themselves) Side 1 Side 2
What Will It Take? A Mobilized Community Acting Systematically Motivated by a New Story
A Mobilized Community Everyone is a Thirdsider
Acting Systematically Focus on: Prevention, Resolution and Containment
Escalation of Conflict Destructive Violence Power Struggle Overt Conflict Latent Tensions
Why Conflict Escalates Destructive Violence Power Struggle Overt Conflict Frustrated needs Poor skills Weak relationships Latent Tensions
Why Conflict Escalates Destructive Violence Power Struggle Conflicting interests Disputed rights Unequal power Injured relationships Overt Conflict Latent Tensions
Why Conflict Escalates Destructive Violence No attention No limitation No protection Power Struggle Overt Conflict Latent Tensions
Catching Conflict Before it Escalates Destructive Violence Contain Power Struggle Overt Conflict Latent Tensions Resolve Prevent
Prevent Sources of Tension Frustrated needs Poor skills Weak relationships Ways to Prevent The Provider The Teacher The Bridge-Builder
Resolve Sources of Conflict Conflicting interests Disputed rights Unequal power Injured relationships Ways to Resolve The Mediator The Arbiter The Equalizer The Healer
Contain Sources of Struggle No attention No limitation No protection Ways to Contain The Witness The Referee The Peacekeeper
Motivated by a New Story From Fighting is Inevitable. To Fighting is Preventable.
A Timeline of Human Conflict 10,000 Years of Coercion 2,500,000 Years of Possible Coexistence 1,000,000 B.C. 2,500,000 B.C. 2,000 A.D.
Fighting is ... Inevitable We have always fought It is human nature There is no other way Preventable Coexistence for 99% It is human choice There is the Third Side
“Is this a private fight or can anyone get in?” Old Irish saying
What Will It Take? THE THIRD SIDE A Mobilized Community Acting Systematically Motivated by a New Story