Social-Emotional Development of the Toddler

1. Social-Emotional Development of the Toddler Unit 3

2. Casey Study – “Emily” As she has become a toddler, Emily has begun to prefer her family members over strangers. She is quite attached to her yellow, fuzzy blanket, too. Emily wants to cuddle with her blanket at naptime when she is tired. Emily’s father has found it harder to part form Emily at the child care center each morning. She cries and clings to his leg as he’s leaving. The teachers say Emily keeps crying for more than an hour after he leaves. Emily’s father is unsure what to do to make mornings easier for her.

3. Case Study Questions • Does Emily’s crying sound typical or like something more serious? Explain. • What would you suggest to Emily’s dad and her caregivers to help Emily adjust better to partings at the child care center?

4. As babies become toddlers, two things happen: • Toddlers find out more about their world and themselves as individuals • Toddlers find the world is not solely devoted to meeting their needs

5. Self-Awareness • Through fast growing skills that influence the toddlers’ relationships with others and through their reactions to them, toddlers see and understand themselves! • They can move around by themselves • Reach objects • Beginning to talk

6. Self Awareness • Toddlers become aware of: • How they look • What belongs (and what doesn’t) to them • What they can and cannot do • Other’s feelings towards them • They realize they can be praised, let down and hurt emotionally by others

7. Achieving Autonomy • Autonomy = a form of self-control in which a toddler seeks to do his or her own will • Erik Erikson’s second stage of development = Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt • Erikson explained autonomy as the toddler’s feeling of being able to do some tasks without help from others • What is an example of autonomy?

8. Autonomy • Although toddlers want to be independent they can misjudge their skills! • Parents/Caregivers need to set limits • Provide safe choices • Redirect before a forbidden or unsafe action

9. Extending Social Relations • Toddlers with a healthy attachment to caregivers have a safe base from which to meet people. • Babysitters • Relatives • Neighbors • Other Children

10. Extending Social Relations • Other Children • First interactions will be brief • They will imitate each other’s actions • Later, they will talk as they play • Children are possessive of their toys/belongings • They learn to share • They may return a snatched toy if the owner cries • They learn to show affection to other children • They praise other children or show concern for a hurt child.

11. Self Esteem • Self-esteem = Feeling good about yourself and what you can do! • Building self-esteem: • Toddlers enjoy hearing their names • Seeing themselves in mirrors • Caring adults who make them feel loved even when they are difficult or make mistakes

12. Emotions • Toddlers react to more stimuli than infants • They know more people to love, experience more things and people to fear, have more things to make them anxious and find more to anger them! • Toddlers can better sense emotions in others • They can detect fear in adults • They respond to emotions of other children

13. Emotions • Their increased motor skills allow them more physical responses • Running or hiding when afraid, hitting/kicking when angry • Their ability to imagine increases • Fear of the dark or monsters • Toddlers cannot separate what is real and what is pretend

14. Common Toddler Emotions • Affection • Fear • Anxiety • Anger

15. Affection • Attached to caregivers • Express affection through • Close proximity • Hugs and Kisses • Attachment to beloved toys/belongings

16. Fear • They imagine things that do not exist • Toddlers may fear: • Monsters • Animals • Darkness • Nightmares • “Bad people” • Injury • Gestures • Startling noises

17. How should adults handle these fears? • Handle these fears in a matter-of-fact way • Never tease toddlers about their fears • Never push toddlers into scary situations • Keep them from watching too much television • Comfort them when needed

18. Anxiety • Separation Anxiety continues into the toddler stage and sometimes beyond. • Many overcome SA because they feel a caregiver’s love and know they will return! • Increased language skill helps toddlers understand why parents sometimes leave.

19. Anxiety • Nightmares may begin around age 2 • A nightmare is a toddler’s way of dealing with anxiety. • Nightmares stem from fear of being left alone, getting hurt, or angering adults. • Nightmares tend to decrease in time.

20. Anger • Toddlers have a desire for more independence and have a strong will. • Temper Tantrums = Sudden emotional outbursts of anger commonly displayed by toddlers. • Lie on the floor, kick, and scream • Happens because something doesn’t go their way • Purpose is to seek attention • Ignoring may cause the child to stop • After the tantrum is over, give the toddler love and reassurance

21. Writing Activity • Some people refer to the toddler years as the “terrible twos.” Write an essay explaining why people use this term to describe toddlers. Also discuss why this term is incorrect.