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Personal Greatness (How to Set and Achieve Your Goals). Steven A. Gedeon, PhD, MBA, PEng. Personal Greatness. Some ideas based on the works of: Denis Waitley “Seeds of Greatness” Hyrum Smith “The 10 Natural Laws of Successful Time and Life Management”
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Personal Greatness(How to Set and Achieve Your Goals) Steven A. Gedeon, PhD, MBA, PEng
Personal Greatness Some ideas based on the works of: • Denis Waitley “Seeds of Greatness” • Hyrum Smith “The 10 Natural Laws of Successful Time and Life Management” • Stephen Covey “7 Habits of Highly Effective People • Anthony Robbins “Awaken the Giant Within”
The Big Questions • What do I Want out of Life? • What are my Values and Goals? • How do I Achieve Happiness and Inner Peace? • How do I ensure my daily activities are in harmony with my values and achieving my goals? • How do I get Better Grades? • How do I manage my daily activities
The Problem • People feel Out of Control, Unhappy • People have Conflicting Priorities, Values and Goals • Time Management may let us do more, but will not bring us Inner Peace or Happiness • People have Regrets about what they didn’t do
Personal Greatness • Business Success is all about Surrounding yourself with Great People (and motivating them with Great Goals) • Personal Success is all about being a Great Person (and motivating yourself with Great Goals)
What is Greatness? • A Journey – Not a Destination • Be the best at being you • Figure out who you want to be • Have Strengths! • Things you are Great at • Average Goals and Effort will Produce an Average Life
“Seeds of Greatness” • You Always Get Out what you Put In • Plant Apple Seeds and you get Apple Trees • Plant Weeds and you get Weeds • Plant “Seeds of Greatness” and you get Great Individuals • Greatness is the Progressive Realization of Worthy Goals
Set Goals • The Cheshire Cat • The Reason so many Fail to Achieve their Goals is that they Never Set them in the First Place • By Failing to Plan – They Plan to Fail! • The Mind is like the Homing System of a Torpedo • It will achieve your good or bad expectations • If no target set, it will wander aimlessly and self-destruct
The Well Balanced Life Long-Term Goals Yearly Goals Monthly Goals Weekly Goals Mental Educational Family Physical Social Career Financial Community
To Reach any Significant Goal, you Must Leave your Comfort Zone • A Goal is a Planned Conflict with the Status Quo • SMART Goals: • Specific • Measurable • Action-Oriented • Realistic • Timely • An Unwritten Goal is Merely a Wish!
DAILY TASKS EFFICACY SKILLS GOALS VALUES and BELIEFS REALITY When Daily Activities Reflect Your Values, you have Inner Peace
Wisdom • Ensuring Non-Contradictions • Live “Without Wax” • To Thine Own Self be True • Integrity – Your Actions Conform to your Words • Honesty – Your Words Conform to Reality • Learn your Aptitudes (do what you are good at – ensure your Goals Conform to Reality) • The Importance of Principles • Don’t have to Stress over Decisions and Principles you have Already Established
Prioritizing • What Matters Most in Life Should Never be at the Mercy of Less Important Things! • Inner Peace = Serenity, Balance and Harmony in our Lives Through the Appropriate Control of Events • Being Busy vs Being Productive • Being “Efficient” vs. being “Effective”
Efficacy Skills (Achieving Goals) • Reality-Based Self-Esteem • Creative Visualization • Positive Self-Talk • Time Management • Responsibility • Self-Control • Adaptability • Persistence • Benevolence • Perspective
1: Reality Based Self-Esteem • We must feel Worthy of achieving our Goals • We must feel Self-Esteem inside ourselves before we can give it to others or receive it from others • Unconditional Love and Causeless Value vs Rational Basis of Lasting Self-Esteem
Productivity and Self-Esteem Self-Esteem Event Control Productivity
Self-Esteem • To Hang onto Your Dreams: Your Own Self-Worth Must be Stronger than the Fear of Rejection, Failure, Criticism… • Fear of Rejection • Fear of Change • Fear of Success
Your Self-Esteem Must Ultimately Come from Within • Seeking others’ approval often pressures us into behaving contrary to our deepest values • When we seek external validation, we lose control over our lives • Don’t behave according to someone else’s values rather than your own • Whenever we accept someone else’s prejudice against us, we give them a degree of control over our lives • You can be happy and successful regardless of other people’s opinions
2: Creative Visualization • You are what you think, say, and believe about yourself (your self image) • The Mind’s Guardian (Reticular Activating System) • Your info filter – be careful what you give importance to • Most negative feelings and beliefs are stored, through habitual repetition in our right-brains
Core Beliefs • Deeply held, typically non-verbal, core beliefs have a powerful effect on your self-esteem and behaviors. For example: • “People are Basically Good” • “Technology is Dangerous” • “Humanity is Bad for the Planet” • “My Life is Important” • “I Need a Safety Net” • “What Other People Think of Me is Very Important” • “I Deserve to be Happy” • “Life is Unfair” • “I’m Stupid, Lazy, Ugly…” • “It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World”
Core Beliefs • What are Your Core Beliefs? • Do You Agree with ALL of Them? • How did they get there? • Because we Believe them to be True, we will Act as if they are True • Stated Beliefs vs. Actual Beliefs • We say we believe things, but don’t actually do anything about them
Align Beliefs with Reality • If our Beliefs do not conform to Reality, then they are Wrong • Growth Means Change • Personal Growth means accepting that some of your Core Beliefs may be Wrong • Changing your Core Beliefs • Identify the behavior that’s not producing the desired results • Identify possible beliefs driving the behavior • Identify alternative beliefs that may produce better results • Predict future behavior based on the new beliefs • Use Creative Visualization and Self-Talk to reinforce better Beliefs
Creative Visualization • The Power of Visualization, Affirmations and Self-Talk • Who you see in your imagination will always rule your world
3: Self-Talk • Your Self-Image Cannot Distinguish between Reality and Something Vividly Imagined • Self-Talk Statements Concerning Each Major Goal or Core Belief • Use Personal Pronouns (“I”, “mine”,”me”) • Present Tense • Short and Concise • Positive Goal Seeking, not Avoiding Negatives • Non-competitive, don’t Compare to Others • Strive for Improvement, not Perfection
4: Time Management • You Cannot Control Everything – Sometimes you Must Adapt, Roll with It • Think “Event Control”, not “Time Management” No Control Total Control Sunrise, Death, Boss Earthquakes, Tides Other people… What I Eat, What I Wear My Reaction to Events…
Taking Control • There are Events we can’t Control, but we Believe we can • We Cannot Control what Other People Do! • There are Events we Can Control, but Believe we can’t • Interruptions, Time Robbers, Procrastination… • The Fallacy of thinking we’re going to have more time at some unspecified future date • The Fallacy of thinking you can save time
Productivity and Self-Esteem Self-Esteem Event Control Productivity
The 4 Quadrants of Time Mgt I II Important Not Important III IV Urgent Not Urgent
Planning Properly • Find a place that is free of distractions • Review the long-range goals – Put Big Rocks in First! • Make sure the number of tasks and time is achievable • Set specific daily goals for tasks • Anticipate obstacles • Prioritize your tasks • List all your tasks – especially non-urgent ones! • Give a Value to Each Item on the List (A important, B, C trivial) • Give a numerical Value to Prioritize (A2, B3…) • Character is doing what you say you will do • Character is the ability to carry out a worthy decision after the emotion of making that decision has passed
Daily Planning Leverages Time through Increased Focus • Take 15 Minutes each Day to Plan • Excuses • I don’t have time to plan • I already know what I have to do. Why take time to plan? • I have too many interruptions to plan • I feel “tied down” if I have a long list of things to do • I don’t know how to plan properly
5: Responsibility • We become what we do • Character cannot be counterfeited or put on and cast off like a garment • Our rewards in life depend on the quality and amount of work we put into it • Delay immediate gratification for long-term goals • Happy people are Self-Reliant • They feel they have control over their lives vs. those who believe in fate, astrology, or victims of the system
The 7 C’s of Self-Control • We Control the Clock • We Control our Concepts • We Control our Contacts • We Control our Communication • We Control our Commitments • We Control our Causes • We Control our Concerns • What Concerns us Most is the Joy of Living!
7: Adaptability • These are “The Good Old Days” • Problems are Normal in any Era • Successful people develop Mental Toughness, Strength of Character and Adaptability • Stress is a Normal Part of Life • Many Types of Stress – It’s how you Take it that Counts
Rules for Handling Stress • Find your own purpose in life, that fits your own personal stress level • Racehorse vs. Turtle • Control your emotional level by recognizing situations as being either life-threatening or non-life-threatening. Respond rather than react • The Stress Savings Account • Collect the Goodwill and Appreciation of others • Humor yourself into Health and Happiness
8: Perseverance • Perseverance is the ability to keep working when things go wrong or the odds stack up against you • Winners Work at doing things the Majority of the Population are Not Willing to Do • Losers by Default rather than Defeat • Thinking you can is only the First Step. It takes years of perseverance to achieve success • Do the Tough things first and look downstream for gratification and rewards
Ray Kroc on Persistence • Press On: Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful individuals with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. “Grinding it Out” by Ray Kroc 1978
9: Benevolence • The World is your Oyster (What Pearl can you find today?) • The Explorer’s Premise • The Trader Principle • The Abundance Mentality • Think Win-Win • Share Power and Authority • Shares and Options • Be Nice to People! • Take Time for Empathetic Listening
DAILY TASKS EFFICACY SKILLS GOALS VALUES and BELIEFS REALITY Greatness is Being Proactive Self-Esteem Creative Visualization Positive Self-Talk Time Management Responsibility Self-Control Adaptability Persistence Benevolence Perspective WISDOM
10: Perspective • Greatness is Ultimately about being Proactive • Integrated Values, Beliefs, Goals and Actions • Balanced Living • Being Great in All Aspects of Your Life • Living on “Someday I’ll” • Greatness is a Journey, not a Destination • You always get Out what you put In • Sow Seeds of Greatness!