Treatment and Consultation Alignment

1. Treatment and Consultation Alignment Facilitating Collaboration and Minimizing Resistance Dr. Jay Colker

2. Introductions • Name • Current areas of focus • Why does this topic interest you? • What outcomes do you want from our time together?

3. Own Background and Experiences • Training as an Adlerian • Organizational Development work from Adlerian Perspective • Working with the concept of alignment for 35 years

4. What Does Goal Alignment Mean to you? • What is involved here?

5. How Do We Diagnosis Misalignment? • It doesn’t feel right!!!!!! • 2000 pieces of stimuli every second • Hone in on the feeling of the movement

6. How Do We Know When We Are Aligned? • It feels right • Trust being in that moment • Moving with someone – a collaborative dance

7. Immediate Examples • Here and now in presentation • Counseling situation • Consulting situation

8. Adlerian Points of Emphasis • The movement in the moment is what is most important • Verbal and non-verbal • Holism • Intersection with Lifestyle (what are significant issues to consider) • Immediate goals in the moment • Goldmines • Trusting the client • Organizational life style

9. Adlerian Points of Emphasis • Establishing/maintaining relationship (1st step in four-step process) • Feeling heard and understood (belonging) • Shared responsibility (trust in your client) • Mutual respect

10. Getting to What is Most Important • Using self as an observer • Guessing-the courage to be imperfect • Could it be that …. • Is it possible that…. • Understanding recognition reflexes • What is happening now is most important

11. What is Resistance? • How do you now understand resistance?

12. Resistance is a Misalignment of Goals • Goals of consultant/counselor different from clients • What are the possibilities?

13. Misalignment of Goals • Task of counselor/consultant is to constantly check out misalignment and continually realign • How are you feeling about the work up to this point? • Is it meeting your needs? Do we need to redirect • Where goals are misaligned, consultant must change or sell • When pace or timing seem off, stop and question • Trust your gut

14. Tools to Minimize Resistance • Offering Choices: We can do this or this. Helps them to buy into being responsible. • Guessing: Discussed above. Useful way to open discussion. • If a group of people are involved: How many of you are experiencing __________________? • Goal is to put all participants in the same boat. Perceptions of similarity will lead to encouragement. Discouragement comes from feeling different from others. Discouragement leads to less risk taking.

15. Tools to Minimize Resistance • Using Self as a Model • To demonstrate goals, communication, risk taking, similarity of self to group, courage to be imperfect, open, vulnerable. • Solicit Specific Examples • Value of specific versus general; must be personalized and related to experiences of individual. If clients unwilling to take risks, confront with could it be questions.

16. Paradoxical Strategies • What is a paradox? • Examples • permission • postponement • prohibition • prediction • practice • prescription • pro-social redefinition

17. Summary • Questions?