Family Caregiving – Managing Stress and Accessing Resources

1. Family Caregiving – Managing Stress and Accessing Resources Organizational Lesson – 2004 Sean E. Brotherson, PhD Extension Family Science Specialist North Dakota State University EM: sbrother@ndsuext.nodak.edu PH: 701.231.6143

2. Lesson Objectives • Understand key issues related to family caregiving for aging persons. • Learn about specific strategies and resources to help manage caregiver stress and provide quality care to family members. • Access specific resources to further understand issues related to caregiving and stress.

3. True or False? • The most common care decision that families need to make about care for aging adults is about what type of care facility to have them live in.

4. Answer - False • Myth – The majority of older adults who need care will spend time in a nursing home at some point in their lives. • Reality – Most care provided to older adults is done by family caregivers in a home setting. 70 to 80 percent of all community-based care needed by older persons is done by family caregivers. The most common care decision is thus who will provide family-based care when it is needed.

5. True or False? • Adults who are still caring for children at home and also assume care of an aging parent have been referred to as being part of the “sandwich generation.”

6. Answer - True • Myth – Nearly every adult American will pass through the experience of being part of the “sandwich generation.” • Reality – Although it is not uncommon for adult Americans to have this experience, the majority of adults do not have dependent children when they assume care for a parent in need.

7. True or False? • Adult daughters are the most common primary caregivers when family care is given to an aging or needy adult.

8. Answer – False • Myth – Daughters are usually the primary caregiver for an adult who needs family care. • Reality – It is first spouses, either husbands or wives, who are the most common primary caregivers, followed by daughters and daughters-in-law. So, adult daughters provide a great deal of care, but it is even more common for aging spouses to be in this circumstance.

9. True or False? • Family-friendly business policies are paying increased attention to the need for family leave to care for dependent adults.

10. Answer - True • Myth – Care for dependent adults is mostly ignored in the policies of companies relating to care for dependent family members. • Reality – With more and more adults caring for aging family members, companies are being required to give increased attention to the need for flexible work and leave policies that allow for care for dependent adults. These trends are more likely to increase in the near future as the aging population increases significantly.

11. True or False? • Women provide most of the direct care that is given in family caregiving situations to aging parents or family members.

12. Answer - True • Myth – The amount of direct care provided in family caregiving varies by cultural context so that men are most responsible in some cultures. • Reality – While it is true that there is an ethic of care by adult sons for parents in some cultural settings, even in those situations most direct care is still provided by women such as daughters-in-law or other women in the family. However, involvement by men in direct care is slowly increasing.

13. True or False? • The feelings of obligation that an adult child feels toward a parent are the strongest predictor of how often an adult child has contact with a parent.

14. Answer - False • Myth – A sense of filial obligation or duty toward a parent is the strongest motivation and predictor of how often an adult child has contact with a parent. • Reality – Although an adult child’s feelings of obligation are important, the biggest factor in regular contact between adult children and parents is proximity—how close they live to the parent. The next most important factor is the feelings of parent-adult child closeness that exist, and then feelings of obligation.

15. Suggested Benefits of Caregiving • It can be helpful to discuss how the caregiving experience has provided positive benefits to both the caregiver and the care recipient. This focus on the positive aspects of the experience can help give perspective and needed hope when stress increases. According to research, there are specific positive things associated with caregiving by many who pass through this experience.

16. Positive Benefits for the Caregiver • Developing closer relationships with the person they care for and having sufficient time to be together. • Increased understanding of a parent or family member and the ability to forgive or heal past difficulties. • Greater patience with individuals and life challenges. • Personal growth as an individual due to being challenged and stretched in emotional and other ways.

17. Positive Benefits for the Care Recipient • Opportunity to receive assistance in a setting that is caring and personal. • Greater individualized care and attention than in other circumstances. • Sharing of life experiences and close relationships with persons who are close to them and who they appreciate.

18. What is Family Caregiving? • Caregiving involves providing direct physical and emotional support to a family member or other adult who has become dependent and needs some care and assistance. The level of caregiving can vary from occasional monitoring of how a person is doing to full-time, round-the-clock care for a bed-bound individual.

19. Areas of Stress Impact Related to Family Caregiving • Physical Demands – direct care, lifting, bathing, feeding, etc. • Financial Demands – medical costs, equipment, hired help, lost income • Emotional Burdens – feeling isolated, alone, without time for oneself • Relationship Challenges – sibling conflict, conflict with dependent adult, etc.

20. Stress Sources of Physical Demands in Caregiving • Creating a safe physical environment, preventing falls • Providing first aid and medical assistance as possible • Bathing a care recipient • Assisting with oral hygiene • Dressing a care recipient • Assisting with toileting needs • Feeding or assistance with eating, nutrition needs • Meal planning and preparation • Lifting, turning, or transferring a care recipient • Routine housework • Management of behavior with care recipients who have cognitive impairment • Other physical challenges

21. Suggested Coping Tips – Physical Demands • Learn how to properly care for your family member. Get training so you know to perform needed skills, which will make your work easier and safer. • Practice healthy habits, including a balanced diet, regular exercise, sufficient sleep, and visits to the doctor. • Get help when needed with physical tasks from other care providers, neighbors, or sources of help. • Work to keep your care recipient as independent as possible. This reduces your stress and maintains dignity. • Utilize adaptive or assistive equipment with specific needs.

22. Stress Sources of Financial Demands in Caregiving • Costs of medical care and treatment • Costs of adaptive or assistive equipment that is needed • Costs of hired help • Lost income • Reduced work hours • Loss of employee benefits • Management of financial concerns for care recipients • Planning for long-term care financial needs

23. Suggested Coping Tips – Financial Demands • Evaluate and utilize programs that assist with medical and treatment costs related to family caregiving • Identify programs that provide assistive technology at reduced fees or on loan • Discuss financial needs and impacts with other family members • Plan ahead for projected medical costs or treatment needs • Work with financial planning specialists as needed

24. Stress Sources of Emotional Demands in Caregiving • Feeling alone and unaided • A sense of isolation and frustration • Insufficient time for oneself and personal activities • Fatigue and emotional irritability • Anger or frustration at perceived unfairness of a situation • Discouragement or personal depression • Loss of opportunities • Feeling overburdened with demands from care recipient or others • Lack of control over circumstances

25. Suggested Coping Tips – Emotional Demands • Find someone you trust and talk about your feelings or frustrations. • Be realistic about the demands of caregiving and turn to others for help. • Set aside time for self-care and personal renewal. • Take advantage of respite care services and get a break for a few hours or a couple of days. • Join a caregiver support group so you can share feelings, learn about resources, and reduce stress. • Get assistance from others.

26. Stress Sources of Relationship Challenges in Caregiving • Feeling overburdened by care responsibilities so you become resentful of the care recipient • Conflict with care recipient about care demands or plans • Disagreement with family members about care responsibilities or plans • Insufficient time and energy for other family relationships • Difficulties with spouse due to care demands • Criticism or lack of help from other family members related to caregiving • Limited communication about needs

27. Suggested Coping Tips – Relationship Challenges • Focus on positive experiences with the care recipient such as sharing memories or doing a life story. • Involve the care recipient as much as possible in discussion of guidelines for care. • Express needs and issues clearly to other family members related to caregiving responsibilities. • Take time for other family relationships. • Participate in a support network for caregivers and get respite care. • Have each family member participate in caregiving and express appreciation for each other.

28. The North Dakota Family Caregiver Project • The North Dakota Family Caregiver Project has in-depth training and educational materials to assist caregivers and community professionals with issues of family caregiving. These materials can be accessed on the Internet at http://www.ndsu.nodak.edu/ndsu/caregiver/education/index.htm

29. Training Materials on Caregiving • How We Age • Personal Care Tasks • Family Relations and Caregiving • End of Life Issues • Caregiver Abuse, Neglect and Exploitation • Assistive Technology and Older Adults • Behavior Management • Personal Care Challenges • Nutrition Counseling • Caregiver Stress and Coping • Financial Counseling and Planning

30. North Dakota Senior Information • The North Dakota Senior Facilities Locator is an ambitious project intended to assist individuals and caregivers in locating facilities that provide services to seniors in North Dakota. It is part of a larger initiative sponsored by the North Dakota Department of Human Services that focuses on informal caregiving in the state. • Visit the North Dakota Senior Information's Web site to learn more:http://www.ndsu.nodak.edu/sdc/ndseniorinfo/