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Explore the power of self-compassion, mindful practices, and the emotional life of the brain to enhance well-being. Learn how kindness towards self and others can lead to emotional balance and fulfillment in life.
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THE EMOTIONAL LIFE OF THE BRAIN: Balance for the Brain’s Chemistry
Kristin Neff: University of Texas at AustinThe documentary “The Horse Boy”http://self-compassion.org/videos/
What is compassion? 1) An AWARENESS OF ANOTHER PERSON’S SUFFERING (Cognitive) 2) An emotion that arises when confronted with suffering (Affective: Bonding Hormone - Oxytocin) 3) Being MOVED to alleviate that Suffering (Drive System in Brain - Dopamine)
#1 Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment MENTAL TRIGGERS CAN activate the Brain’s Soothing System to balance the other two systems: 1) Drive System and 2) Threat System POWER of the Brain’s Ability to IMAGINE
#1 Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment POWER of the Brain’s Ability to IMAGINE • Memories about the past = SADNESS, SHAME, REGRET OR ………….. • Ruminating or Reliving a conversation OR…… • Engaging in self-criticism • (not good enough) = SHAME, SELF-LOATHING, HOPELESSNESS
Loving-Kindness for One Self In her 2007 book The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky elaborates, describing happiness as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.”
FIRST COMPONENT of LIVING A HAPPY LIFE 1. (POSITIVE EMOTIONS) the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being (Gratitude Practices)
SECOND COMPONENT of LIVING A HAPPY LIFE 2. (SATISFIED WITH LIFE) a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile Economic Growth does not correlate to Well-Being unless basic needs are not met (10% Life Circumstances)
Self-Compassion is not Self-Esteem • Self-Compassion is about cultivating a relationship with yourself by using practices that develop and maintaining emotional balance & self-regulation
Self-Compassion is not Self-Esteem • Self-Esteem research shows the elevated sense of specialness/exceptionalism: • Emotional ups and downs • based on perceived success • and abilities;
Self-Compassion is not Self-Esteem • In the mood swings there is a flood of dopamine (“I am invincible; We are the best;”) then a flood of adrenaline and cortisol (“I am not good enough; this team is awful”) • Blaming and/or objectifying others • (Envy Up or Scorn Down – Susan Fiske)
OVER-IDENTIFICATION WITH MENTAL EVENTS • The mind’s ability to be in the past and in the future is what keeps us from being PRESENT • INFORMATION from the senses IS real: we see and hear an oncoming bus • MENTAL EXPERIENCEs Are not real, they are constructions of reality: WE CREATE THEM THROUGH OUR…. Thoughts, Beliefs, Images, Daydreaming, Judgements, Predictions, Rules, Evaluations that can trigger our threat system (Adrenaline & Cortisol)
We get STUCK in habitual patterns of thinking about ourselves, others, and the world in a specific way.This is the cause of suffering because we are stuck in our thoughts about….
HOW CAN WE CULTIVATE COMPASSION FOR SELF AND OTHERS?PRACTICES TO REDUCE SOCIAL ANXIETY & ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY
STANFORD’S DEVELOPMENTAL STEPS • STEP 1: Focused attention through mindfulness practices • STEP 2: Loving-kindness & compassion for a loved one: • - “May you be happy and free from suffering.” • STEP 3: Loving-Kindness for oneself - “May I be happy.”
STEP 4: Compassion for One Self - “May I be free from Suffering”STEP 5: Compassion for Others – Developing and awareness of common humanity.- “Just like me you want to be happy & free from suffering.”
1. WORK TOGETHER TO MAKE EACH SCHOOL & FAMILY CULTURE INCLUSIVE 2. DEVELOP OUR OWN PRACTICES OF MINDFULNESS AND SELF-COMPASSION
RESOURCES TO BETTER UNDERSTAND THE EMOTIONAL LIFE OF YOUR BRAIN • OTHER RESOURCES – Test how self-compassionate you are: http://self-compassion.org/test-how-self-compassionate-you-are/ Test for the Emotional Style of your Brain • Online Survey at U of Wisconsin-Madison: https://uwmadison.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3I8Lg9l4CSnsmjj TED TALKS The Emotional Life of Your Brain – Richie Davidson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GnwhoVR4fCw Science of happiness: Dan Gilbert https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q1dgn_C0AU 9 Attitudes of Mindfulness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2n7FOBFMvXg