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1. Children and Family Violence
3. Reminder - impacts on children
4. Different ages: Robbie, aged 4 - obviously affected when his mother was being abused at home. His speech was badly affected, and this was even more apparent at the time of domestic violence incidents
Jamie, aged 2 (younger brother) - not so obviously affected by living in the same circumstances
5. A different family: Nigel, aged 6 - problems relating to and mixing with other children, and often acted violently towards them
Susan, aged 1 (younger sister) - affected less obviously by living with domestic violence
6. Another child: An older school-age child, Albert, aged 9 (described by his teacher as a very bright boy).
coped with the out of control experience of living with violence by being quite controlling in his relations with others. This behaviour would become especially obvious at times of renewed domestic violence against his mother
7. Coping strategies: Diverting attention - Albert tried hard to minimise and thus contain his experiences of seeing his mother abused. His involvement in activities outside home, in particular football, played a central role in his ability to do so
Switching off -A couple of the younger children had a very different coping strategy, which appeared to be to switch off completely, and to go completely blank
8. Teachers solution: The oldest one goes to school and reports to the teacher. Most mornings he has a little diary that he fills in himself, that's just for him. And if he wants to show it to the teacher he can. And it's often around 'I want to kill myself. My father beat my mom up last night.' Or, 'He went to see his girlfriend and he hit his girlfriend. He shouts at me. He plays rough with me. He hurts me.' So yes you do. (Health Visitor)
9. Protective aspects Will try and keep their mother safe (by physical intervention, withholding information, or getting help from neighbours or from formal organisations)
Even very young children and babies may adopt such strategies (crying or coming into the room)
10. Teenagers Teen relationship violence - to be or not to be abusive?
Confusing love and coercive control
Boys/ girls
Running away from home
Vulnerability to prostitution
11. Effective intervention
12. Elements important in work with children experiencing family violence elimination of violence (where is the abuser?)
recovery work, treatment, or talking to someone
supporting mothers to be safe as a positive approach in child protection, and to be well-functioning residential parent
building on coping and resilience strategies
developing new patterns of behaviour
13. this recognises: the existence of violence,
the impact of the violence,
the need for a significant other,
other protective factors
15. Appropriate recovery work and treatment may involve individual or group work for children with child care professionals,
childrens work in refuges.
merely talking with and acknowledging childrens experiences of domestic violence
peer work for children and teens - children say they want to talk with other children
Joint work with mother and child may deal with behaviour problems
16. for children the barriers to talking about violence are: Fear of the violent man finding out
Fear of not being believed
Fear of being stigmatised
Difficulty in talking to adults
Not having anyone to tell
Services not being available
19. Different contexts three planets
20. Domestic violence planet
23. domestic violence and child protection
25. But
Expectation that woman will eventually exclude the abuser - using civil protection remedies or through the intervention of criminal justice agencies.
Responsibility for protecting children is placed on mothers
Dynamics of gender violence ignored
26. And
mother blaming
Jaffe et al. (2003):
if witnessing domestic violence is seen as child abuse women experiencing domestic violence will continue to be accused of secondary abuse or as having engaged in domestic violence (p101-102).
27. EXAMPLE
Male ex-partner/father very abusive.
Social services safety plan - mother provided with alarm by the Public Protection Unit to call for help if ex-partner/father came to the house.
So every time he came round and kicked the door in because he couldnt get what he wanted off me on the phone, or you know he couldnt get me sort of say, Yes no or whatever,
Id hit the alarm. Or when he did something I hit the alarm. And they used it against us in court to prove how many times hed been to the house to take the children. And, so you stop using them, because you think, No. Fuck you. Id rather have a slap round the face and a black eye than lose my family.
But at the end of the day, it didnt matter what I did. It didnt matter how far I went, it didnt matter what I agreed to, it didnt matter what groups I went to, appointments I went to. You know, they took em anyway. (quote from interview with mother)
Children removed from mother, taken into care.
29.
and child contact?
30. Research overviews Only a minority of parents, (one in ten) go to court to sort out their post separation child care
. Most is arranged informally
The majority of children want to preserve contact with both parents (Hunt & Roberts 2004).
Women who have experienced domestic violence often support contact between the father and child (Radford & Hester 2006)
31. Lessons from research there is a close relationship between the safety of mothers and the welfare and safety of their children
contact may not necessarily be useful to or in the best interests of children
quality of contact is especially important where childrens welfare is concerned
(see Radford & Hester 2006)
32. Tension between right to know & right to safety: emphasis on childrens right to know their two parents increase in (abusive) fathers rights
compromises childrens right to safety and protection
Undermines mothering and womens safety
33. Life beyond three planets?
35. Life beyond three planets?
36. References
Hester, M., Pearson, C. & Harwin, N. with Abrahams, H. (2007) Making an Impact - Children and Domestic Violence. A Reader, 2nd Edition. London: Jessica Kingsley. [this has other references referred to in the presentation]
Radford, L. & Hester, M. (2006) Mothering through Domestic Violence. London: Jessica Kingsley.
Hester, M. & Westmarland, N. (2005) Tackling Domestic Violence: Effective Interventions and Approaches. Home Office Research Study 290, London: Home Office. http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/rds/pdfs05/hors290.pdf
Hester, M. (2009) Who does what to whom? Gender & domestic violence perpetrators. Bristol: University of Bristol & Northern Rock Foundation