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Join the workshop at the CED and Social Economy Conference on March 16, 2006, to explore communication, social policy, and a new view of the 80/20 rule. Learn to distinguish feelings from thoughts and promote positive interactions. Discover the impact of language on violence and how to foster mutual understanding. Don't miss this opportunity for personal growth and community building!
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BUILDING COMMUNITY MEANS BUILDING PEOPLE: A WORKSHOP FOR THE CED AND THE SOCIAL ECONOMY CONFERENCE MARCH 16, 2006 CO-PRESENTERS VICKI AUSTAD (vickiaustad@newwestced.bc.ca) DEIRDRE PICKERELL (dp@blazon.ca)
A NEW VIEW OF THE 80/20 RULE Approval Perfection Sickness Infection 80% 10% 10%
OBSERVATION VS. EVALUATION • There’s so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us that it hardly benefits any of us to talk about the rest of us”. • Move judgment to curiousity. • “Do not compare yourself with others for you will become vain and bitter for ALWAYS there will be greater or lesser persons than yourself.” • O.J. Harvey (University of Colorado) discovered a high correlation between the frequency of words that classify and judge people and incidences of violence in different cultures around the world; less violence in cultures where language focuses on human need.
THINKING VS. FEELING • Distinguish feelings from thoughts • Distinguish between what we feel and what we think we are ( “I feel like a failure”) • Distinguish between what we feel and how we think others are reacting to us (“I feel misunderstood”) • Avoid using thoughts as counterfeit emotional currency (e.g. “I feel like I want to leave the office”) • When you use the word feeling, follow it with a feeling word. • We are at our most vulnerable when we share what we feel with others.
