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The Search for Significance Approval

The Search for Significance Approval. Anchor of Hope Healing Rooms. To Begin. Please pick up a card from the table. Choose one that highlights what you learned or was revealed to you from the reading and homework this past week. Be prepared to share about it.

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The Search for Significance Approval

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  1. The Search for SignificanceApproval Anchor of Hope Healing Rooms

  2. To Begin • Please pick up a card from the table. • Choose one that highlights what you learned or was revealed to you from the reading and homework this past week. • Be prepared to share about it. • If you do not find one for your experience, you can still share. • Sharing allows God to speak to others through you. We all benefit.

  3. The False Beliefs • I must meet certain standards in order to feel good about myself. • I must have the approval of certain others to feel good about myself. • Those who fail are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished. • I am what I am. I cannot change. I’m hopeless.

  4. Approval Addict – Fear of Rejection • How much of your life have you wasted trying to gain the approval of others? • If you have 20 people who think you are wonderful, but you have one who thinks poorly of you, what do you think about?

  5. Fear of Rejection Test 1. I avoid certain people. 2. When I sense that someone might reject me, I become nervous and anxious. 3. I am uncomfortable around those who are different from me. 4. It bothers me when someone is unfriendly to me. 5. I am basically shy and unsocial. 6. I am critical of others. 7. I find myself trying to impress others. 8. I become depressed when someone criticizes me. 9. I always try to determine what people think of me. 10. I don’t understand people and what motivates them.

  6. Scoring • 57-70: God has apparently given you a very strong appreciation for His love and unconditional acceptance. You seem to be freed from the fear of rejection that plaques most people. (Some people who score this high either are greatly deceived or have become callous to their emotions as a way to suppress pain.) • 47-56: The fear of rejection controls your responses rarely or only in certain situations. Again, the only major exceptions are those who are not honest with themselves.

  7. Scoring, continued • 37-46: When you experience emotional problems, they may relate to a sense of rejection. Upon reflection, you will probably relate many of your previous decisions to this fear. Many of your future decisions will also be affected by the fear of rejection unless you take direct action to overcome it. • 27-36: The fear of rejection forms a general backdrop to your life. There are probably few days that you are not affected in some way by this fear. Unfortunately, this robs you of the joy and peace your salvation was meant to bring.

  8. Scoring, continued • 0-26 Experiences of rejection dominate your memory and have probably resulted in a great deal of depression. These problems will remain until some definitive action is taken. In other words, this condition will not simply disappear; time alone cannot heal your pain. You need to experience deep healing in your self-concept, in your relationship with God, and in your relationships with others.

  9. Approval Addict’s Experience • Anger, resentment, hostility • Being easily manipulated • Codependency • Avoidance of people • Control • Depression • Repeating of negative messages • Hypersensitivity to the opinions of others • Hyposensitivity to their own emotions

  10. The Trip In Progression

  11. Group Experience • Be prepared • Let everyone have a chance to share • Listen - no crosstalk, no advice • Be supportive

  12. My Identity in Christ Because of Christ’s redemption, I am a new creation of infinite worth. I am deeply loved, I am completely forgiven, I am fully pleasing, I am totally accepted by God, I am absolutely complete in Christ.

  13. When my performance reflects my true identity in Christ, that reflection is dynamically unique. There has never been another person like me in the history of mankind, nor will there ever be. God has made me an original, one of a kind, really somebody!! My Identity in Christ

  14. For Next Week • Keep praying! • Read Chapter Six (pp 63-74) in the book • Complete Step Six (pp 219-227) in back of book • Bring an approval Trip-In Part One and Part Two • Use the discussion board.

  15. FYI • Latecomers for class: Please note, for security purposes, you must call Laura’s cell832-863-1706or Becca’s cell 805-570-6244to get into class. • Each week’s homework will be uploaded to the website, www.anchorhealingtc.com,accessible by password: Search2 • A discussion board has been added for comments, questions and sharing in this private area

  16. Prayer & Counseling • If you feel in need of prayer, Anchor of Hope Healing Room teams will be available after class for 15-30 minutes. • The Healing Room is open Saturdays, 10:30-12:30. Call for appointment. • Sissy Landry offers private counseling by appointment, on a donation basis.

  17. Anchor of Hope Healing Rooms 2205 26th St North Texas City, 77590 409-945-3208 or 409-770-7292 anchorofhopetc@gmail.com www.anchorhealingtc.com

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