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Leaving the Nest: Preparing for Your Child's Transition to College

Leaving the Nest: Preparing for Your Child's Transition to College. Connie Jung Fox, Ph. D. Licensed Professional Counselor 825 N. W. 58 th Street (diagonal to Chesapeake Health Center) Oklahoma City, OK 73118 405.473.3453 jubimoore@yahoo.com.

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Leaving the Nest: Preparing for Your Child's Transition to College

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  1. Leaving the Nest: Preparing for Your Child's Transition to College

  2. Connie Jung Fox, Ph. D. Licensed Professional Counselor 825 N. W. 58th Street (diagonal to Chesapeake Health Center) Oklahoma City, OK 73118 405.473.3453 jubimoore@yahoo.com

  3. The task of raising our children to be successful, individuated adults begins very early.

  4. Freud vs Erikson

  5. Erikson's Psycho-Social Stages

  6. Stage 1 • Infancy • Birth to 18 months • Trust vs mistrust • Feeding • Children develop a sense of trust when caregivers provide reliability, care, & affection. • A lack of these will lead to mistrust.

  7. Stage 2 • Early childhood: 18 months to 3 years • Autonomy vs Shame & Doubt • Toilet Training • Need to develop a sense of personal control over physical skills and a sense of independence. Success leads to feelings of autonomy. Failure leads to shame and doubt.

  8. Stage 3 • Preschool: 3-5 years • Initiative vs Guilt • Exploration • Need to begin exerting power and control over the environment. Success in this stage leads to a sense of purpose. Children who try to exert too much power experience disapproval resulting in guilt.

  9. Stage 4 • School age: 6-11 years • Industry vs Inferiority • School • Need to cope with new social and academic demands. Success leads to a sense of competence, while failure results in a sense of inferiority.

  10. Stage 5 • Adolescence: 12 – 18 years • Identity vs Role Confusion • Social relationships Teens need to develop a sense of self and personal identity. Success leads to an ability to stay true to yourself, while failure leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self.

  11. Stage 6 • Young Adulthood: 19 – 40 years • Intimacy vs Isolation • Relationships • Young adults need to form intimate, loving relationships with other people. Success leads to strong relationships while failure leads to loneliness and isolation.

  12. 10 Tips To Help YOU Make a Successful Transition to College

  13. 1. Give your child a voice.

  14. 2. Let your child be the principal problem solver. Don't be a helicopter parent.

  15. 3. Be clear about expectations.

  16. 4. Teach your child basic money & time management skills.

  17. 5. Revisit touchy questions.

  18. 6. Expect drama.

  19. 7. Embrace change.

  20. 8. Recognize YOUR transition.

  21. 9. Know your resources.

  22. 10. Remember the parent honor code: “ I will try to allow my child to be an adult, even if it stinks for me.”

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