Marriage Family Wellness: Corporate America s Business

4. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness.

5. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness.

6. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness.

7. Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.

8. Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.

10. Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.Systems: Companies come complete with identified patients, triangulated relationships, and conflict from above that gets �children� acting out. The tension between senior executives manifested itself between the departments that they managed. Early on � conflict increased and almost daily issues hit us life one wave after another coming over the bow; customers learned how to work the conflict to their advantage! Eventually � the bus had to slow down and let some people off...from the top down.

15. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness.

18. 1. Carefully present our cause with sensitivity to the sources of resistance.1. Carefully present our cause with sensitivity to the sources of resistance.

19. Marriage for Life�s Marriage STIMULUS PACKAGE MONDAY � TUESDAY MARCH 23-24, 2009 CHICK-FIL-A TINSELTOWN TUESDAY � WEDNESDAY May 12-13, 2009 Marriage Works and Chick-fil-A DeSoto Square Mall

20. IDEA STARTED AS JOKE Struggling economy leading to more distressed marriages Economic Stimulus Packages to help economy, MSP to support and encourage marriages in Northeast Florida community

21. Chick-fil-A Tinseltown

23. Two Components of MSP Event 500 Marriage Stimulus Packages given out at Chick-fil-A Tinseltown MSP Date night for 50 couples at Chick-fil-A Tinseltown FREE Chick-fil-A dinner FREE mini-concert by Robbie Trice and wife Welcome and talk by Jeromy Williams Faith/values by Fr. Tony Marriage talk by Rick Marks Give out door prizes

24. Marriage Stimulus Packages 500 Chick-fil-A Bags included 500 Marriage Stimulus Packages Marriage for Life, Inc Marriage Bill of Rights $300.00 off coupon to HOPE Weekend M4L Brochure �Daily Check-In� and �Speak Truth With Care� Skills Flyer for Marriage Class and Family Wellness Class Chick-fil-A 500 bags to hold items 500 food coupons 500 small cows

25. Some Additional Items in MSP Dr. Pepper coupons Massage Envy ($39.00 massage) AAA South (travel coupons) Lawyer offering help on foreclosures Counseling Centers offering free sessions Laugh Your Way 500 TOTB DVDs Prepare Enrich � 500 Free Profiles Smugglers Cove Golf

26. Plan of the Event (Continued) How to distribute the 50 Date Night Certificates? Two local Christian Radio Stations - 25 Chick-fil-A Tinseltown - 13 Marriage for Life, Inc. � 12 42 of the 50 couples came to the Date Night All local News Stations had some coverage Live interviews on Christian radio stations regarding MSP and marriage

28. Look at all these Sponsors Chick-fil-A of Tinseltown, Chick-fil-A of DeSoto Square Mall Winshape Retreat Center, Rome, Georgia The Marriage CoMission, Atlanta, GA FM 88.1 The Promise AM 550 WAY Radio Celebrations Flowers, Gifts and Balloons Hilton Gardens Hotel 9745 Gate Parkway, Jacksonville, FL Hampton Inn, 4414 Southside Blvd. Jacksonville, FL Fairfield Inn, 4888 Lenoir Road, Jacksonville, FL Crown Financial Ministries, Mr. Jim Whorton www.crown.org Hairz Looking At You � Jobi Jones, 1655 St. Johns Bluff Road South Hairz Looking At You � Tony Delacruz, 1655 St. Johns Bluff Road South First Baptist Church of Jacksonville, Massage Envy, 4375 Southside Blvd. Suite 10 AAA, www.aaa.com Paul Schwend of Allstate Insurance Women�s Resource Center of Jacksonville. 12456 Sago Rd. Jacksonville, FL Cole Builders Jan McIntire Photography 904-874-6329 Dr Joy�s Christian Counseling Family Life Christian Counseling Dr. Pepper CINEMARK of Tinseltown Carmike Theaters Life Innovations (Prepare Enrich) Laugh Your Way Smugglers Cove Golf

38. 2007 Survey Data Of over 500,000 employees across numerous industry sectors:

42. The Impact of Marriages on Society As go marriages, so go families . . . As go families so go churches, companies and communities . . . As go communities, so go states . . . As go states, so go nations . . . As go nations, so go entire civilizations . . . (Gary J. Oliver, Ph.D.)

43. WHY an NWA Healthy Marriage Initiative?

44. While Northwest Arkansas Is a Corporate Leader on a National Level . . . NWA is the home of two Fortune 100 companies Ranked #8 in the nation by Forbes for Best Places for Business and Careers Ranked by Forbes in the Top 10 places to live in America Ranked #13 in Inc.com�s list of top 200 Boomtown Named the Nation's Top-Performing Metropolitan Area For Job Creation (The Milken Institute) NWA according to the statistics is a great place to work and live: Additional stats: Benton and Washington counties grew 47 percent between 1990 and 2000 Even during national economic turmoil, Northwest Arkansas has experienced 8.2 percent job growth, while unemployment in Fayetteville is typically around 2 percent, compared to the national rate of 4.6 percent. In June 2007, Business Week Magazine ranked Rogers as 18th in the 25 best affordable suburbs in the South. But underneath all the success, lies a real social problem. Arkansas has one of the highest divorce rates in the nation (54% vs. 50% for the entire US) and according to the statistics Benton and Washington counties are leading the state. And it�s for these reasons that a little over a year ago CRE received a five year,2.7 million dollar federal grant to provide pre-marital education and marriage enrichment for the six counties here in Northwest Arkansas with an emphasis on Benton and Washington counties. � NWA according to the statistics is a great place to work and live: Additional stats: Benton and Washington counties grew 47 percent between 1990 and 2000 Even during national economic turmoil, Northwest Arkansas has experienced 8.2 percent job growth, while unemployment in Fayetteville is typically around 2 percent, compared to the national rate of 4.6 percent. In June 2007, Business Week Magazine ranked Rogers as 18th in the 25 best affordable suburbs in the South. But underneath all the success, lies a real social problem. Arkansas has one of the highest divorce rates in the nation (54% vs. 50% for the entire US) and according to the statistics Benton and Washington counties are leading the state. And it�s for these reasons that a little over a year ago CRE received a five year,2.7 million dollar federal grant to provide pre-marital education and marriage enrichment for the six counties here in Northwest Arkansas with an emphasis on Benton and Washington counties. �

45. NWA Is Also a National Leader in Another Important Area The United States has the highest divorce rate in the developed world. For over 10 years Arkansas has had one of the highest divorce rates in the United States. Currently Northwest Arkansas has one of the highest divorce rates in the USA.

46. Why Is Marriage and Divorce Any of My Business? -90% of individuals will marry at least once -2.3 million marriages every year -1.4 million divorces every year -Nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce What impacts my employees OUTSIDE of work . . . impacts how they perform AT work!

47. The High Cost of Divorce on Companies Over the years it's become increasingly clear that unhealthy relationships in general and divorce in particular has had a negative impact on the overall productivity in corporate America but recent research is beginning to empirically identify just how significant that impact is. �Over the years it's become increasingly clear that unhealthy relationships in general and divorce in particular has had a negative impact on the overall productivity in corporate America but recent research is beginning to empirically identify just how significant that impact is. �

48. The Social and Financial of Divorce The social cost of divorce -High impact on the children of divorced parents -Increased spouse abuse and child abuse The health cost of divorce -Physical -Emotional -Psychological -Relational The financial cost of divorce and unwed child-bearing -United States $112 billion per year -Arkansas $471 million per year

49. The Impact of Divorce on Productivity -A recently divorced worker will lose up to 3 years of peak productivity -In the year following a divorce a worker loses 168 hours of time on the job -This equates to being gone 21 workdays or over four weeks -Employees thus lose 8% of their productivity after a divorce

50.  Contributing factors: Increased absenteeism Increased presenteeism Decreased health Increased anxiety and stress Increased EAP, medical usage and health insurance costs Thinking about absenteeism and presenteeism, the year following divorce, employees lost an average of over 168 hours of work time, which is equivalent to four weeks. This means that employees are absent for four weeks or over 8% of their annual time on the job. Thinking about absenteeism and presenteeism, the year following divorce, employees lost an average of over 168 hours of work time, which is equivalent to four weeks. This means that employees are absent for four weeks or over 8% of their annual time on the job.

51.  Affairs in the workplace Four times more likely to abuse alcohol More likely to resort to physical abuse & violence to resolve tensions at home Not usually one time events Couples in failing relationships are more likely to resort to physical abuse or violence to resolve tensions at home, and subsequent domestic violence costs Corporate American up to 7.9 million workdays of lost productivity annually. Unhappily married couples are almost four times more likely to have a partner abusing alcohol than in happily married couples. Those with alcohol problems skip or miss work 30% more than those without such problems. Divorce and Marriage are not one-time events. In fact remarriages face greater risk of divorce than first marriages. Couples in failing relationships are more likely to resort to physical abuse or violence to resolve tensions at home, and subsequent domestic violence costs Corporate American up to 7.9 million workdays of lost productivity annually. Unhappily married couples are almost four times more likely to have a partner abusing alcohol than in happily married couples. Those with alcohol problems skip or miss work 30% more than those without such problems. Divorce and Marriage are not one-time events. In fact remarriages face greater risk of divorce than first marriages.

54. Relational Pathway to Decreased Profits

55. How Do Healthy Marriages Help My Company? Greater commitment to employers Lower rates of absenteeism Lower rates of presenteeism More dependable More motivated More stable Increased creativity Increased productivity Happier married couples are healthier which can lead to lower rates of health service utilization and fewer chronic health problems. This reduces health costs for employers. Immune system functioning is improved for happy and healthy married couples (Waite & Gallagher, 2000) Couples in successful relationships have improved immune systems. Males are 18 months younger than chronological age and women are 6 months younger. Marriage Premium = earn more, reduced job turnover, lower rates of absenteeism, more dependable and more motivated. Source: Gallagher, 2002/Waite & Gallagher, 2000/Corporate Research Council, 2002/Curtis, 2006. Happier married couples are healthier which can lead to lower rates of health service utilization and fewer chronic health problems. This reduces health costs for employers. Immune system functioning is improved for happy and healthy married couples (Waite & Gallagher, 2000) Couples in successful relationships have improved immune systems. Males are 18 months younger than chronological age and women are 6 months younger. Marriage Premium = earn more, reduced job turnover, lower rates of absenteeism, more dependable and more motivated. Source: Gallagher, 2002/Waite & Gallagher, 2000/Corporate Research Council, 2002/Curtis, 2006.

56. Reduced health insurance costs Increase retention: 150% of blue-collar total benefits package 250% for management Happy and healthy married people have reduced job turnover rates. When considering that it costs 150% of a blue-collar worker�s total benefit package to replace him or her, and 250% of a managerial and sales professional benefit package, it makes a great deal of sense to reduce turnover and invest in employee relationship wellness. Happy and healthy married people have reduced job turnover rates. When considering that it costs 150% of a blue-collar worker�s total benefit package to replace him or her, and 250% of a managerial and sales professional benefit package, it makes a great deal of sense to reduce turnover and invest in employee relationship wellness.

57. We now know that what helps a person be more effective in the �family� room also helps them be more effective in the �work� room. Many of the skills involved in having a healthy marriage are the same skills that make for a more effective employee: - Emotional Intelligence - Empathy - Relational Intelligence - Communication - Conflict Management - Listening Skills Employees with healthy marriages are more likely to have healthier relationships in other areas of their lives.

58. Potential Benefits of Healthy Marriages to a Company Many studies have examined the return on investment (ROI) attributed to employer-sponsored programs targeted at increasing workplace health and reducing stress. ROI studies have attributed $1.50-$6.50 for every $1.00 spent on employee and wellness programs and $1.40-$4.90 for every $1.00 spent on stress reduction programs. Many studies have examined the return on investment (ROI) attributed to employer-sponsored programs targeted at increasing workplace health and reducing stress. ROI studies have attributed $1.50-$6.50 for every $1.00 spent on employee and wellness programs and $1.40-$4.90 for every $1.00 spent on stress reduction programs.

59. Relational Pathway to Increased Profits

60. The Value Proposition Two Major Conclusions from Research:

61. How Can NWA Healthy Marriages Help Your Company? - Provide Relationship and Marriage Education to increase overall relational wellness and decease stress caused by relational dysfunction and divorce. -Provide Pre-Marital Preparation for those who choose to get married. -Provide Marriage Enrichment for married employees who want to strengthen their marriage relationship. -Host brown bag lunches for different groups in different divisions on relational topics

62. What Are the Costs of Our Services? Most of what NWA Healthy Marriages offers is at low-cost to no-cost.

63. What You Can Do For YOUR Company Make your employees aware of the variety of services offered by NWA Healthy Marriages Become a corporate sponsor of NWA Healthy Marriages and support strengthening the marriages and families of Northwest Arkansas while at the same time investing in the relational wellness of your company and your community. Sponsor a special community event i.e. our annual Valentine�s Banquet (over 200 � 400 couples) Tell your peers at other companies in Northwest Arkansas about the NWA Healthy Marriages program and make introductions. While the NWA Healthy Marriages program development is funded by our Federal Grant, we need to develop additional funding sources in-order to make the program sustainable. Additional funding we ensure that we can expand the program so that those that need our help can receive it at little to no cost. By doing this. together we can change marriages in NWA. While the NWA Healthy Marriages program development is funded by our Federal Grant, we need to develop additional funding sources in-order to make the program sustainable. Additional funding we ensure that we can expand the program so that those that need our help can receive it at little to no cost. By doing this. together we can change marriages in NWA.

65. Final Thoughts Relationships are everyone's business Relationships are corporate America�s business Relationships are influenced by company policies and practices Healthy marriages can increase profits And . . . This is why relationships are no longer only the realm of clergy, counselors, EAP�s, and social workers. Relationships are incredibly influenced for better or for worse by the policies and practices found within the corporate environment. To continue to be increasingly profitable we will do well to realize that business takes place inside and outside the workplace. Employees in healthy marriages can increase profit, while employees in failing relationships decrease profit. Relationships are incredibly influenced for better or for worse by the policies and practices found within the corporate environment. Emotional and relational intelligence are more predictive of success than intellectual intelligence. This is why relationships are no longer only the realm of clergy, counselors, EAP�s, and social workers. Relationships are incredibly influenced for better or for worse by the policies and practices found within the corporate environment. To continue to be increasingly profitable we will do well to realize that business takes place inside and outside the workplace. Employees in healthy marriages can increase profit, while employees in failing relationships decrease profit. Relationships are incredibly influenced for better or for worse by the policies and practices found within the corporate environment. Emotional and relational intelligence are more predictive of success than intellectual intelligence.

66. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness. Relational Wellness � it is important when dealing with corporations to use language that fits the corporate culture. This phrase allows us to land marriage and family strengthening benefits and practices into a bigger category that includes personal and professional relational wellness.