Watch & Listen

1. Watch & Listen • Very violent, this is a ‘clean’ version • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XN1qqZcvwwI • How did it make you feel? • If your were from the future and you found this song, what would you conclude about relationships?

2. Next Two Weeks Outlined Week 8 Week 9 • Monday – Work • Tuesday – Over Domestic Violence • Wednesday – Vocabulary & Chapter 21 (Ownership) • Skip to Chapter 24, • Video on Schivo • Thursday – 24 (Wills) • Friday – Over 23 (Insurance) • Monday – Speaker • Tuesday – Speaker • Wednesday – Over 22 (Renting) • Thursday – Review Game & Packet • Friday – Test over • 18, 19, 21, 22, 23, 24

3. Monday Assignment • Online find • Statistics on Domestic Violence • Where you can go for help • Laws in States or other countries about Domestic Violence • Any other facts you think would add to the conversation • Read & Finish notes for Chapter 21 • Complete Vocabulary on Page 294

4. Domestic Abuse • Look online • Find statistics about domestic abuse • Find resources to protect / help you if you are being abused • Find laws about domestic abuse • Find examples of domestic abuse cases

5. Domestic Violence On average, 21% of female victims and 10% of male victims of nonfatal partner violence contact an outside agency for assistance

6. Examples • Media focuses on the bad, what cases have you heard of? • Chris Brown & Rihanna • Joe Jackson & his kids • Robert Blake • Jerry Springer show

7. What is abuse? • To use wrongly or improperly; misuse • To treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way • To speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about • Rape or sexual assault

8. Emotional Abuse • Anything done to scare • Speeding through traffic, playing with weapons, taking pills, making threats • Faking physical ailments to get you to stay • Taking away control of where you go and who you see / Isolating you from friends & family • Taking control of your sleep patterns by waking you up in the middle of the night to listen to 2-3 hours of B.S. or being so terrorized that a pin-drop would wake you • Keeping you malnourished or in constant fear • Saying all your friends are losers or everyone has “ulterior motives” or are using you • Minimizing or ignoring your feelings • Ridiculing or insulting your most valued beliefs, religion, race, heritage, or class • Withholding approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment • Continually criticizing you, calling you names, shouting at you • Controlling your money • Manipulating you with contradictions • Threatening to kidnap / hurt your children if you leave

9. Physical Abuse • Slapping / hitting of any kind, choking, biting • Pushing or shoving • Holding you to keep you from leaving • Throwing objects at • Locking you out of the house • Abandoning you in dangerous places • Refusing you help when you are sick, injured, pregnant • Subjecting you to reckless driving • Forcing you off the road or keeping you from driving • Threatening you or hurting you with a weapon • Raping you

10. Sexual Abuse • Insisting on unwanted and uncomfortable touching • Forcing you to strip when you don't want to • Forcing sex with them or others or forcing you to watch others • Forcing sex after beating • Forcing particular unwanted sexual acts • Forcing sex when you are sick or it is a danger to your health • Forcing sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons • Committing sadistic sexual acts

11. Domestic Abuse Continued

12. Statistics you found • S • S • S • S • S • S • S • s

13. Statistics Continued • One in four women (25%) has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime • Nearly three out of four (74%) of Americans personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence • Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend to 3 million women who are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend per year • On average, more than three women and one man are murdered by their intimate partners in this country every day • The health-related costs of intimate partner violence exceed $5.8 billion each year. Of that amount, nearly $4.1 billion are for direct medical and mental health care services, and nearly $1.8 billion are for the indirect costs of lost productivity or wages • Approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner • In a national survey of American families, 50% of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children

14. Resources You Found • S • S • S • S • S • S • s • s

15. Resources • MSU Safe House, Eve • www.michigan.gov/datingviolencewww.michigan.gov/domesticviolence • State Police •  Dating Violence - 112080 bytes •  Domestic Violence - 72319 bytes • Personal Protection Orders - 186380 bytes • Stalking - 181005 bytes

16. History • Marital Rape: Illegal in all 50 State July 1993 • 1800s most states had common law that said: • A husband had the legal right to control his wife and all her possessions • 1974, the first shelter for battered women was established • 1994, under the Victims of Crime Act, the Violence Against Women Act was passed • Men still are not fully protected • Why? • Women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence, men for approximately 15%.

17. Laws You Found • S • S • S • S • S • S • S • S

18. Laws • Violence Against Women Act • “Gender-motivated crimes” is considered a “violation of women’s civil rights” and that the victim has a “legal right to sue the perpetrator” • Makes restraining orders valid across state lines • The Brady Bill • Makes it illegal for convicted domestic violence offenders to buy a handgun • Half of all states, including Texas, are now enforcing mandatory arrest laws • This require the police to arrest someone while on a domestic violence call assuming there is “probable cause” of assault

19. More Examples • S • S • S • S • S • S • S

20. Simulation • We have Mike, Janet, Lisa Marie, & Jermaine • Mike & Janet have been dating for 5 months at Nosam High School • Mike is in 12th grade & just hit 18 • Janet is in 10th grade & is 16 • Mike & Jermaine are starters on the basketball teem • Janet & Lisa have been best friends since Kindergarten and share everything but have not talked since Janet & Mike started to date

21. Simulation Wrap-Up • Is this a healthy relationship? • What were the problems you could identify? • What could be done & by who to improve the situation? • How would you react if someone treated you this way? • How would you react if your friend where acting / being treated this way?

22. Teen Abuse Handout

23. Sources • Statistics: http://www.dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C61/