Corona-Norco Unified School District

1. Corona-Norco Unified School District Bullying and Cyberbullying: Practical Strategies for Parents Dr. David Hansen, Assistant Superintendent – Instructional Support Dr. Milisav (Mike) Ilic, Director – Instructional Support

2. Social Learning Theory Behaviors are learned through a variety of social interactions Parents Role Models Peers Video Music Print

3. Social Learning Theory - Media InfluenceKaiser Family Study 2010/Neilsen 2009 • Children spend 7.38 (6.5) hours each day with some type of media • Video Games in 83% (65%) of US Homes • 86% With Males • 8th grade boys play 23 hours per week • 8th grade girls play 12 hours per week • 59% of 4th grade girls and 73% of 4th grade males favorite games are violent • 71% (61%) of youth 8-17 have TV’s in their rooms • At 18 years old they witness 200,000 acts of violence including 40,000 acts of murder

4. Hours in the Day • 7.38 Hours With Media • 6.50 Hours in School • 3.00 Hours of After-school Activities • Sports • Music/Band • Extracurricular • Hobby • Hanging Out With Friends • 2.00 Hours of Homework • 1.00 Hours of Chores • 2.00 Hours of Family Time • 1.00 Hours of Quiet Time • 8.50 Hours of Sleep • Total of 32.88 Hours…

5. The Media and Bullying • Movies • Sports • Television Programming • Commercials • Music • Internet Sites • Video Games

6. Topics • Bullying • Cyberbullying • Technology and Internet Risks • General Strategies

7. Today We Are Discussing Bullying and Cyberbullying

8. Topics • Bullying • Cyberbullying • Technology and Internet Risks • General Strategies

9. Bad Behaviors Vs. Bullying • Bullying has Become a Catch Phrase • Not All Bad Behaviors or Aggression can be Called Bullying • All Negative Behaviors will be Dealt With If We can Document that it Happened

11. Bullying Definition • Specific Type of Aggression • Verbal • Physical • Psychological/Relational • Behavior is Intended to Harm or Disturb • Carried Out Repeatedly and Over Time • Imbalance of Power • Physical • Psychological

12. Direct Bullying • Physical Acts • Threats • Intimidation • Verbal Abuse • Taunting • Other?

13. Indirect Bullying • Making Faces • Obscene Gestures • Exclusion • Rumors • Destroying Reputations • Destroying Relationships • Other?

14. Parent Tips - Bullying • Get Information from Your Child • Who, What, Where, When, and Why • Did You Report This to an Adult? Remember: There are Two Sides to Every Story • Work on Strategies With Your Child • Have Them Think About and Discuss Their Ideas • Ask Questions • What Would You Do If That Didn’t Work?

15. Parent Tips - Bullying • List Options and Consequences • Role Play Their Strategies • Do They Have Friends that can Help? • Allow Them to Try Out Their Strategies • Check in With Them • Allow Them to Fail and Encourage Them to Try Again • Resist the Urge to Immediately Intervene

16. Parent Tips – Bullying • Inform the School Administrator AND Teacher • Provide Information – Who, What, Where, When and Why • Ask For Their Perspective of the Situation • Ask About Strategies – Remember If They Have Not Investigated, They Will have to Prior to Strategies • FERPA

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19. Topics • Bullying • Cyberbullying • Technology and Internet Risks • General Strategies

20. Cyberbullying Definition Use of Modern Communication Technologies: Email Instant Messaging Chat Rooms Web Sites Social Networking Sites Cell Phones and other forms of technology To Intentionally Embarrass, Humiliate, Threaten or Intimidate an Individual or Group To Attempt to Gain Power and Control

21. Cyberbullying Is: • Directly hurting someone’s feelings or threatening them via technology • Texting mean statements • Posting up a website to harm someone • Passing rumors to other people via text or Social Network sites • Posting embarrassing pictures of someone without their permission • What else?

22. Cyberbullying V. Bullying More Invasive Larger Audience Lengthens Duration of Bullying Potential for Greater Cruelty Source: Glen Stutzky, Michigan State University

23. Who’s Responsibility to Take Action? • School? • Community? • Law Enforcement? • Parents?

24. Scenario One • Students get into a fight on a weekend at the mall • Who is Responsible for Taking Action: • School • Community • Law Enforcement • Parents

25. Scenario Two • Students get spread rumors about other students at a popular fast food restaurant • Who is Responsible for Taking Action: • School • Community • Law Enforcement • Parents

26. Scenario Three • Students get caught smoking weed in an abandoned house at 11:30 at night • Who is Responsible for Taking Action: • School • Community • Law Enforcement • Parents

27. Scenario Four • Students using FaceBook spread rumors about other students from home computer to home computer at 11:30 at night • Who is Responsible for Taking Action: • School • Community • Law Enforcement • Parents

28. “Cyberbullying is out of control. People are saying all kinds of things online they would never say to someone in person. Something needs to be done. It is all about Facebook right now and it is crazy.” October 2010, Vista Murrieta High School Senior “Of course I spread rumors on my phone and on the internet, I’m a seventh grade girl, that’s what we are supposed to do!” March 2007, Santee Leadership Student

29. School Responses to Cyberbullying • Nexus to the School • Victim Impact Statements • How has this impacted your attendance • How has this impacted your academics • How has this impacted you at school • Bystander/Friend/Perpetrator Statements • Have Other Students Shared the Text, Video Etc. At School? • Has the Cyberbullying Caused School Bullying

30. Parent Tips - Cyberbullying • Have Children Sign a Contract on Appropriate Usage • Discuss Scenarios With Them • What Would You Do if Someone Posted Something Mean About Another Student? • Do Not Allow them to Have an Social Media Account at an Early Age (FB is 13YO)

31. Parent Tips - Cyberbullying • Monitor Their Social Network Postings • Be Aware of “Parent Page” Vs. “Real Page” • Empowerment Vs. Entitlement • Have Children Check Cellphones In and Out (7PM)

32. Parent Tips - Cyberbullying • Do Not Erase, Omit or Alter Texts or Emails – This is Your Evidence • Copy and Paste the URL and Provide to the School • Teach “Netiquette” – Online Manners • Teach Them to Be Aware of Trolling Activities and Strategies • Do Screen Shots of Social Network Sites and Save as Evidence

33. Screen Shot • CNTRL • PrtScn SysRq • Open Word Program • Right Click Mouse • Paste • Save As

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37. Parent Tips • If a Threat of Violence has Been Made Contact Law Enforcement AND the School • For the School To Take Action We Need to Show a Substantial Disruption to the Educational Process • Most Cyberbullying is OUTSIDE the Jurisdiction of the School To Take Action

38. Parent Tips • How We Investigate • If on Social Networking We Will Gain Permission to Go Onto Your Students Site Unless it Is Open to All • We Will Look at the Entire Thread and Into Other Folders for Information • We Will Call in Other Students to Interview • We Will Ask Permission for The Student to Allow Us on Their Site

39. Parent Tips • If We Cannot Gain Permission or They will not Access Their Site We Will Call Parents • If Permission is Not Given We Will Pursue Other Evidence if Possible • Bring Us Screen Shots To Assist With Documenting • Again, We Need to Show Substantial Disruption Before We Can Act

40. Talk to Your Kids • Privacy!!! • Only Add Real Friends You Know • Give your Password ONLY to Your Parents • Watch What You Post – It is FOREVER • If You Wouldn’t Say it in Person, Don’t Say it Online! • Be Careful in Posing for Pictures With Friends

41. Talk to Your Kids • Do NOT Cyberbully! • Do NOT Spread Rumors! • Do NOT Forward Mean Texts • Stand-up Your People – Even Online • Learn How to Do Screen Shots • Remind Them to Talk to You or Other Adults About Sites, Texts, Emails that Make Them Uncomfortable • Remember to TURN-OFF Electronics – Give Yourself a Break!!!

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