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How to Introduce Yourself to New People. When You Meet New People. Look into their eyes Smile Say, “Hi, my name is _______” Shake hands Listen to what they say. Don’t be Afraid. . It might be scary. Be brave and strong. Think of something happy. . Sometimes You Shake Hands.
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How to Introduce Yourself to New People GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
When You Meet New People Look into their eyes Smile Say, “Hi, my name is _______” Shake hands Listen to what they say GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Don’t be Afraid. • It might be scary. • Be brave and • strong. • Think of something happy. GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Sometimes You Shake Hands When you meet adults: At special events: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Sometimes You Just Smile and Say “Hi” On the school bus: At school: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Smiling and Saying “Hi” Will Help You Make Friends GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Practice with a Mirror If you do this: Then people will do this: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
You May Be Afraid, Just Don’t Forget to Smile and Say “Hi”. GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Your Smile and “Hi” Will Help You Introduce Yourself to New People GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700
Remember what we said about Handshakes ? Smiling ? Eye contact ? Introducing yourself in different ways ? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 10
Now Let’s Talk about Body Language Body language is communicated by different parts of the body. Body language has clues that fit together. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 11
Body Language Body Handshake Eyes Mouth Is powerful. What you do is more powerful than what you say. These pieces fit together like a puzzle, with different clues (some easy, some not easy). GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 12
What you do and what you say 1 Say 3 Do Between 60% and 75% your communication is non-verbal That means for every 1 thing you say, people notice 3 things that you do. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 13
Cues from Body LanguageWhat they are saying with their bodies? “I am angry” “I am powerful” “I am relaxed” “Happy to see you” What other clues do you see? 14 “I want to sell you something”
Body Language and Body PositionThey are all hiding their hands. Are they ready to shake hands with you?What else is their body language saying? What are your clues? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 15
Examples of Body Language “I don’t want to talk to you.” “Come join us.” GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 16
What clues do these faces give? “I don’t want to talk to you.” “Hi. How are you doing?” GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 17
Remember your handshake? How do handshakes fit into body language? What clues are you giving? What clues are you getting from others? ? ? ? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 18
Plan Ahead for Your Handshake(to show your positive body language) Keep your hand clean and dry Right before touching hands, smile! Extended hand Make eye contact GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 19
Handshake Style and Body Language • Dominant? (you angle your hand to be on top) • Bone Crusher? (ouch!) • Weak and Floppy? (ick!) What does that fit into your body language? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 20
Faces give good body language clues Happy? Sad? Mad? Scared? Excited? Shy? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 21
Eye Smiles are CluesAre they smiling or not? ? Yes Yes ? ? Yes No No GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 22
Eye Contact Make eye contact by looking at the person's whole face above her nose. It might be a little scary, but that is how you make eye contact. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 23
What are Some Other Greetings? A Hand Wave = A long-distance handshake. A Head Nod = “Hi, but I don’t want to shake your hand.” Clues: Is there a smile? Eye contact? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 24
So what do you think of Body Language? What is the easiest part? The hardest part? Thank you for your time and attention. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy 25
Some Facts About Handshakes and Saying “Hello” GayleFisherFactVisualization 26
Say “Hello” With These Words Hello Hello there Hey Hi Hi there How are you? How are you doing? How's it going? GayleFisherFactVisualization 27
However, 60% to 75% of communication is non-verbal (what you do, not what you say) As much as 3/4 of your communication is what you do, NOT what you say GayleFisherFactVisualization 28
What you do and what you say 1 3 Between 60% and 75% your communication is non-verbal That means for every 1 thing you say, people notice 3 things that you do. Link GayleFisherFactVisualization 29
The Math of Handshakes The next page has a mathematical equation. Don’t be scared. You don’t have to calculate anything. Your handshakes are important. On to the next page GayleFisherFactVisualization 30
The Math of Handshakes Mathematical formula for “12 Key Factors” handshake PH = √ (e2 + ve2)(d2) + (cg + dr)2 + π{(4<s>2)(4<p>2)}2 + (vi + t + te)2 + {(4<c>2 )(4<du>2)}2 (e) Eye Contact (ve) Verbal expression (d) is Duchenne smile (cg) is Completeness of Grip (dr) is dryness of hand (s) is strength (1= weak; 5=strong) (p) is position of hand (vi) is vigor (1=too low/too high; 5=mid) (t) is temperature of hands (1=too cold/too hot; 5=mid) (te) is texture of hands (5=mid; 1=too rough/too smooth) (c) is control (1=low; 5=high) (du) is duration Link GayleFisherFactVisualization 31
Historical Facts on the Handshake In ancient times, the handshake was an open hand to another person to show there were no weapons. Link The first sighting of a handshake is among the Egyptians, in 2800 BC. The handshake has always been with the right hand because it carried the weapons. Link In Roman times, the handshake was an arm clasp. One man would reach out his weapon hand & clasp just below the elbow of the other to feel for daggers hidden in his sleeves. Link In medieval Europe, knights & kings used to shake hands to show one another there were no weapons & no intention to harm the other. Link The average person performs 15,000 handshakes during his life. LinkHow big is 15,000? GayleFisherFactVisualization 32
15,000 is a big number If you ate 1 apple a day For 7 days a week For 52 weeks a year For 41 years That would be about 15,000 apples GayleFisherFactVisualization 33
#1 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math • Eye Contact = 5 (1=none; 5=direct) GayleFisherFactVisualization 34
#2 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math 35 2. Verbal Expression = 5 (1=totally inappropriate; 5=totally appropriate) Hello Hello there Hey Hi Hi there How are you? How are you doing? How's it going? GayleFisherFactVisualization
#3 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math 3. Duchenne smile (smiling with eyes and mouth) = 5 (1=totally non-Duchenne smile (false smile); 5=totally Duchenne) GayleFisherFactVisualization 36
#4 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math 4. Completeness of Grip = 5 (1=very incomplete; 5=full) GayleFisherFactVisualization 37
#5 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math 5. Dryness of hand = 4 (clean also, please!) (1=damp; 5=dry) GayleFisherFactVisualization 38
#7 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math 7. Hand Position = 3 (1=back towards own body; 5=other person's bodily zone) GayleFisherFactVisualization 39
#8 Key Factor of a Handshake Appropriate Amount Too Much Vigor “ouch” Too Little Vigor “fish hand” Back to Handshake Math 8. Vigor GayleFisherFactVisualization 40
#12 Key Factor of a Handshake Back to Handshake Math #12 Duration = 3 (1= brief; 5=long) GayleFisherFactVisualization 41
So start those handshakes! 15,000 is a big and important number. Your handshakes are important too. Thank you for your time. GayleFisherFactVisualization 42
The End Thank You for Smiling and Introducing Yourself GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC-656-700