Forgiven to Forgive

1. Forgiven to Forgive Roadblock to growing in Christ Designed by David Turner www.BibleStudies-online.com

2. We have a debt to pay.God forgave us our debt. In the same way, we are to forgive one another’s debt.

3. Matthew 18:21-35 (NET)Then Peter came to him and said, “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother who sins against me? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, I tell you, but seventy-seven times!

4. “For this reason, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his slaves. As he began settling his accounts, a man who owed ten thousand talents was brought to him. Because he was not able to repay it, the lord ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, children, and whatever he possessed, and repayment to be made.

5. Then the slave threw himself to the ground before him, saying, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you everything.’ The lord had compassion on that slave and released him, and forgave him the debt.

6. After he went out, that same slave found one of his fellow slaves who owed him one hundred silver coins. So he grabbed him by the throat and started to choke him, saying, ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ Then his fellow slave threw himself down and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you.’ But he refused. Instead, he went out and threw him in prison until he repaid the debt.

7. When his fellow slaves saw what had happened, they were very upset and went and told their lord everything that had taken place. Then his lord called the first slave and said to him, ‘Evil slave! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me! Should you not have shown mercy to your fellow slave, just as I showed it to you?’

8. And in anger his lord turned him over to the prison guards to torture him until he repaid all he owed. So also my heavenly Father will do to you, if each of you does not forgive your brother from your heart.”

9. Forgiveness is not an option. • Forgiveness means to let it go – to release. • Prerequisites for forgiving others: • The perception that someone has taken something from you, or has something that belongs to you. • Financial • Physical (injury) • Emotional • Honor or Pride • The perception that the person owes you something – there is a perception of a debt to be paid.

10. Forgiveness is not an option. Matthew 18:2121 Then Peter came to him and said, “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother who sins against me? As many as seven times?” • It is “natural” for us to want payback or compensation for wrongs committed against us. Justice expects it. • Mercy exceeds the natural. • Jewish Rabi taught to forgive three times. • Peter thought he was righteous beyond the teachers of the law to forgive seven times.

11. Forgiveness is not an option. • Jesus response: There is no limitation to the number of times you forgive your brother. • Matthew 18:22 22 Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, I tell you, but seventy-seven times!

12. Jesus knew that his request would shock his disciples, so he explained it with a parable: a spiritual truth with an earthly illustration. Why are we to forgive without limitation?

13. God forgives the whole debt. Matthew 18:23-27 23 “For this reason, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his slaves. 24 As he began settling his accounts, a man who owed ten thousand talents was brought to him. 25 Because he was not able to repay it, the lord ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, children, and whatever he possessed, and repayment to be made. 26 Then the slave threw himself to the ground before him, saying, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you everything.’ 27 The lord had compassion on that slave and released him, and forgave him the debt. • The king = God. • The slave = believer. • The slaves = brothers (other believers). Matthew 18:21 Then Peter came to him and said, “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother who sins against me? As many as seven times?” Matthew 18:35 So also my heavenly Father will do to you, if each of you does not forgive your brother from your heart.”

14. God forgives the whole debt. Matthew 18:23-27 23 “For this reason, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his slaves. 24 As he began settling his accounts, a man who owed ten thousand talents was brought to him. 25 Because he was not able to repay it, the lord ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, children, and whatever he possessed, and repayment to be made. 26 Then the slave threw himself to the ground before him, saying, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you everything.’ 27 The lord had compassion on that slave and released him, and forgave him the debt. • The slave owed more than he could repay. • 10,000 talents is today’s millions. • He pleads for time, but the king releases him of the entire debt.

15. God forgives the whole debt. • At the cross Jesus paid our debt. • We have been released from all that we owed God. • Time simply increases the debt, for time just puts us deeper in debt. • Two sins per day over 10 years = 7,300 sins, over 70 years it = 511,000 sins.

16. God forgives the whole debt. • God’s justice demands repayment. • In a legal system compensation is required. • The slave did not appeal to his rights. • Neither can we appeal to our rights before God. The Law (justice) is in God’s favor. Matthew 18:25 25 Because he was not able to repay it, the lord ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, children, and whatever he possessed, and repayment to be made.

17. God forgives the whole debt. • Forgiveness is grounded in God’s mercy (compassion). • God’s mercy extends beyond our expectations. • He asked for time to repay, not forgiveness. • The world did not ask God to release (forgive) the debt. Mankind ignorantly thinks it can pay God off. Matthew 18:26-27 (NET)26 Then the slave threw himself to the ground before him, saying, ‘Be patient with me, and I will repay you everything.’ 27 The lord had compassion on that slave and released him, and forgave him the debt.

18. God forgives the whole debt. • God prefers to show compassion rather than justice. Isaiah 55:6-9 Seek the Lord while he makes himself available; call to him while he is nearby! The wicked need to abandon their lifestyle and sinful people their plans. They should return to the Lord, and he will show mercy to them, and to their God, for he will freely forgive them. “Indeed, my plans are not like your plans, and my deeds are not like your deeds, for just as the sky is higher than the earth, so my deeds are superior to your deeds and my plans superior to your plans.

19. God forgives the whole debt. • God forgave the slaves entire debt. He has done the same for us. “My sin, O the bliss of this glorious tho’t. My sin, not in part, but the whole, Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more: Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul! Peace Like a River

20. God canceled all our debts. So, what does he expect of us?

21. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • Our brother’s debt (sins against us) is a fraction compared to the debt we have to God. • The man’s debt was about $20 • Compared to what we owed God, how much do you think your brother owes you? Matthew 18:28 (NET)28 After he went out, that same slave found one of his fellow slaves who owed him one hundred silver coins. So he grabbed him by the throat and started to choke him, saying, ‘Pay back what you owe me!’

22. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. Genesis 50:15-21 (NET)15 When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph bears a grudge and wants to repay us in full for all the harm we did to him?” 16 So they sent word to Joseph, saying, “Your father gave these instructions before he died: 17 ‘Tell Joseph this: Please forgive the sin of your brothers and the wrong they did when they treated you so badly.’ Now please forgive the sin of the servants of the God of your father.” When this message was reported to him, Joseph wept. 18 Then his brothers also came and threw themselves down before him; they said, “Here we are; we are your slaves.” 19 But Joseph answered them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? 20 As for you, you meant to harm me, but God intended it for a good purpose, so he could preserve the lives of many people, as you can see this day. 21 So now, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your little children.” Then he consoled them and spoke kindly to them. • Biblical examples of Super-natural forgiveness. • Joseph

23. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. Acts 7:54-60 (NET)54 When they heard these things, they became furious and ground their teeth at him. 55 But Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked intently toward heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God. 56 “Look!” he said. “I see the heavens opened, and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God!” 57 But they covered their ears, shouting out with a loud voice, and rushed at him with one intent. 58 When they had driven him out of the city, they began to stone him, and the witnesses laid their cloaks at the feet of a young man named Saul. 59 They continued to stone Stephen while he prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit!” 60 Then he fell to his knees and cried out with a loud voice, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them!” When he had said this, he died. • Biblical examples of Super-natural forgiveness. • Joseph • Stephen

24. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • Biblical examples of Super-natural forgiveness. • Joseph • Stephen • Jesus Luke 23:33-34 (NET)33 So when they came to the place that is called “The Skull,” they crucified him there, along with the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. 34 [But Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.”]

25. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • If you can’t forgive for the debtor’s sake, forgive for the sake of other believers. • Matthew 18:31 When his fellow slaves saw what had happened, they were very upset and went and told their lord everything that had taken place.

26. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • If we refuse to show mercy, God will withdraw his mercy from us. • It is the teaching of this parable. • It is the teaching of the Lord’s prayer. Matthew 18:32-35 32 Then his lord called the first slave and said to him, ‘Evil slave! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me! 33 Should you not have shown mercy to your fellow slave, just as I showed it to you?’ 34 And in anger his lord turned him over to the prison guards to torture him until he repaid all he owed. 35 So also my heavenly Father will do to you, if each of you does not forgive your brother from your heart.” Matthew 6:14-15 (NET)14 “For if you forgive others their sins, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others, your Father will not forgive you your sins.

27. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • If we refuse to show mercy, God will withdraw his mercy from us. • It is the teaching of this parable. • It is the teaching of the Lord’s prayer. • Why does God withdraw his mercy? • It is a slap in the face of God’s grace • It is a bad testimony of God’s character to those outside the community of servants. • It disrupts the relationship between the servants

28. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. • If we refuse to show mercy, God will withdraw his mercy from us. • When we don’t forgive we may experience torment. • It maybe direct. God disciplines. • It maybe indirect. Bitterness is it’s own torment. • Physical: loose sleep, unable to concentrate, can cause actual physical ailments. • Emotional: depression, anxiety, anger. • Social and relational: family, school, work, church. • Spiritual: may lead us to other sins (gossip, causing factions, exaggerations and lies , other), paralysis (our relationship with God, our growth in Christian maturity – remain spiritual infant).

29. Matthew 18:15-17 (NET)15 “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have regained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others with you, so that at the testimony of two or three witnesses every matter may be established. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. If he refuses to listen to the church, treat him like a Gentile or a tax collector. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NET)4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful. 6 It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. As God has forgiven us, so are we to forgive each other. Ephesians 4:26-27 26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on the cause of your anger. 27 Do not give the devil an opportunity. Matthew 5:23-24 23 So then, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother and then come and present your gift. • How can I forgive? • Focus on God’s forgiveness of you. • Ask God to help you see and love the person through His eyes. Forgiveness is not natural, its supernatural. • Has the person really sinned against me? Why am I holding bitterness? Evaluate yourself. • Does the person’s actions effect others? • Sincerely, pray good for the person. • Don’t let it fester. • Go to the one that has offended you. • Approach with a spirit of love. Psalm 103:2-5 2 Praise the Lord, O my soul! Do not forget all his kind deeds! 3 He is the one who forgives all your sins, who heals all your diseases, 4 who delivers your life from the Pit, who crowns you with his loyal love and compassion, 5 who satisfies your life with good things, so your youth is renewed like an eagle’s. Psalm 103:10-12 10 He does not deal with us as our sins deserve; he does not repay us as our misdeeds deserve. 11 For as the skies are high above the earth, so his loyal love towers over his faithful followers. 12 As far as the eastern horizon is from the west, so he removes the guilt of our rebellious actions from us.

30. To overlook an offense is wisdom and glory. Proverbs 19:11 A person’s wisdom makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

31. John 15:11-13 11 I have told you these things so that my joy may be in you, and your joy may be complete. 12 My commandment is this – to love one another just as I have loved you. 13 No one has greater love than this – that one lays down his life for his friends.