Chapter 2 Relationships & Choosing Abstinence

1. Chapter 2 Relationships & Choosing Abstinence Aww…baby Clinton Bullock! What a looker! Lesson 1 Relationships & Communication

2. You’ll learn to… • Evaluate the effects of family relationships on physical, mental/emotional, and social health • Evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers • Demonstrate communication skills that build & maintain healthy relationships

3. Functions of a healthy family • Families help provide basic physical needs. Ex. food, shelter, care when ill. • Families provide emotional support. • Families provide structure for our lives. Ex. organize activities and schedule times. (families look out for your best interest). Clinton Bullock & Family

4. Family & Friends • Family is the basic unit of society. • Besides ensuring food, clothing, and shelter, family provides guidance to help children learn to function in society. • Families teach us our values. Harley Monk & Brothers

5. Values • Values- the beliefs & standards of conduct that are important to a person • Values are also instilled through cultural heritage, religious beliefs, and family traditions • You apply your values to the decisions that you make everyday. Joe Ewald at GCIT’s 10 year Reunion

6. Friends • As we mature we meet people outside our families & we make friends • Friends who share your interests and values can be a source of positive peer pressure Hogan, Ewald, Monk & Bullock…BFF’s with matching mullets!

7. Relationships in Adolescent Years • Forming mature relationships with your peers is important for your social health • Being involved in a variety of school, religious, and community activities can promote your mental/emotional and social growth.

8. Peer Pressure • As you develop relationships (individual/groups) you probably experience peer pressure. • Peer pressureis the influence that people your age may have on you • Peer pressure can be positive or negative

9. Peer pressure continued… • Peer pressure is especially influential for adolescents with low self-esteem. • In order to feel a sense of belonging, they may engage in high-risk behaviors or activities that go against their values.

10. Dating • Considered an important social activity • Group dates offer teens opportunities to interact with a variety of people, they may feel less nervous. • Steady dating is when two people date each other exclusively.

11. Communication • The process through which you send messages to and receive messages from others—is essential to any relationship • Good communication skills will help you keep relationships healthy and mature

12. Good Communication Skills • Means clearly expressing your feelings, thoughts, ideas, and expectations. • Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame. • Maintain a polite tone in your voice. • Speak directly to the person. • Provide a clear, organized message that states the situation. • Body language should match your words.

13. Good Listening Skills • Good listening skills means listening to what others say. Guidelines for being a good listener: • Give your full attention to the person speaking. • Focus on the speaker’s message. • Indicate your interest. • Remember what the speaker had said. • Use positive body language.

14. Conflict • Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. • Most common reasons for a conflict include a lack of communication • When conflicts or disagreements occur relying on T.A.L.K strategy will help reach a peaceful resolution.

15. T.A.L.K • T- Take time out • A- Allow each person to express his/her opinion uninterrupted • L- Let each person take turns to ask questions and clarify any statements • K- Keep brainstorming to find a good solution

16. Conflict & Dating • Becoming skilled at “choosing your battles,” or deciding when it is worthwhile to take, can help you avoid unnecessary conflict. • Good communication is especially important in dating relationships. • Express yourselves honestly and listen to what the other person is saying.

17. Review Questions • Evaluate ways your parents, guardians, and other family members contribute to physical and mental/emotional health and help you establish healthy relationships. • Define the term peer pressure and evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers.

18. Review Questions continued… 3. List three benefits of dating. 4. Explain & demonstrate the importance of using good communication skills in building & maintaining healthy relationships. Give two examples. 5. Make a list of positive ways you can develop healthy relationships with your peers. Describe specific actions you can take to become a good friend.