Residential Child Care and the Family Metaphor: Relations, Relationships and Relatedness

1. Residential Child Care and the Family Metaphor: Relations, Relationships and Relatedness Andrew Kendrick

2. … it is essential that we provide the necessary warmth, affection and comfort for children's healthy development if we are not further to damage emotionally children and young people who have usually had a raw deal from life (Children’s Safeguards Review, 1997)

3. Another Kind of Home – Skinner Report Children’s Safeguards Review – Kent Report Historical Abuse Systemic Review – Shaw Report National Residential Child Care Initiative Ongoing concerns about residential child care

4. Defensive practice – Kent’s ‘sterile environment’ Poor outcomes education health employment Continued ambiguity about residential child care Ongoing concerns about residential child care

5. Anti-residential bias

6. the ‘ideal’ of the nuclear family from the nuclear family to the ‘unclear’ family Measured against the cereal-packet norm of the nuclear family, it is complex, with children and resources linking households across space and time, in ways which render the identification of ‘family’ with a single, discrete household wholly misleading. (Simpson, 1994) the breakdown of the family the root of lack of social cohesion the locus of poverty and social exclusion Issues with the family

7. “Eddy’s always been there, but me and Eddy have bonded all well, that’s what I’m saying. I call him, he’s my dad, you know what I mean, but he seemed to have always been there when I was restrained or, anytime I’m angry, I’ve left the building, he always seems to be there.” (young person) (Steckley and Kendrick, 2005) “She was like, a, like a sister, because… we… you know, we figured we looked alike and… we were really close. She was like family to me. (young person) (Jim Anglin, 2002) “I always regarded this place as my house.. Everybody that was here was part of my family. All I’ve wanted for the last three, four years is somebody to be there for me. Somebody I can turn round to and talk to. (young person) (BBC, Social Workers) Family as metaphor in residential care

8. Cultural definitions of family are very different Cultures of relatedness biology/nature  social structure  process/lived experience Thus the ideas I describe lead me to question the division … between the "biological" and the "social," between kinship as a biological, genetic, instant, and permanent relationship, and social identity as fluid. In Langkawi, ideas about relatedness are expressed in terms of procreation, feeding, and the acquisition of substance, and are not predicated on any clear distinction between "facts of biology" (like birth) and "facts of sociality" (like commensality). (Carsten, 1995) Linking with kinship studies

9. anthropological and sociological studies of gay and lesbian kinship disruptions to, and severance of, kinship ties experienced by gays who declare their homosexuality to their families. ‘chosen families’ of friends are invested with certainty, depth, and permanence, and spoken about in the idiom of kinship Families of Choice

10. ‘… we have suggested that the imputed dichotomous contrast between given and chosen relationships is analytically shallow and that, in practice, there is a complex process of suffusion between familial and non-familial relationships.’ (Pahl and Spencer, 2004) ‘… children who, for whatever reason, are in state institutions may consider certain professional carers, highly committed to them, as ‘given’, although later in life they may recognize that their commitment could not be reciprocal.’ (Pahl and Spencer, 2004) Not simply families of ‘fate’ or ‘choice’

11. Not simply families of ‘fate’ or ‘choice’

12. The boundary between ‘familial’ and ‘non-familial’ relationships is increasingly blurred in everyday lives. There is certainly evidence for an extension of family relationships in terms of the language used so that individuals and practices may be described as being “like family” where it is clear that this is a positive evaluation. It is also evident from some of our studies that these non-familial intimate relations provide practical and emotional support for particular family members in such a way as to enable particular clusters of family relationships and practices to continue. (Jamieson et al. 2006) Blurring of boundaries

13. a special relationship that seemed like family with someone who was, geneologically speaking, unrelated to them. children liked the person and interpersonal and interactive elementswere relevant shared biography and borrowed relational biographies creativity and electivity Perhaps most importantly, we have argued that children’s like-family relationships are forms of kin relationship that children value. (Mason and Tipper, 2008) Children creating ‘like-family’ kinship

14. We met a number of participants who had experienced feeling accepted, secure and a sense of belonging in residential care. In the best experiences, participants thought of their residential carers as a kind of family… What often characterised the positive relationships in residential care was the continuing sense of security and safety, which could be relied on. (Happer, MacCreadie and Aldgate 2006, p.17)

15. a recent review and meta-analysis of research on residential child care concludes that children and young people, on average, improve in their psychosocial functioning (Knorth et al, 2008) the limited research on residential child care also found that generally children did better following time in residential care than they were doing beforehand (Forrester, 2008) Back to outcomes in residential child care

16. when the nature of the aims of placements is taken into account, foster placements and residential placements were equally successful in achieving their specific aims (Kendrick, 1995) if one takes account of behaviour, age and age at entry, children’s homes are not significantly ‘less successful’ than other placements (Sinclair et al.,2007) Back to outcomes in residential child care

17. several of the studies of residential homes explained successful residential care according to the quality of the interaction between young people and adults. Terms used include: empathy; approachability; persistence; willingness to listen and reliability (Berridge, 2002) attachment theory, resilience theory have highlighted this centrality of relationship The centrality of relationships between young people and staff

18. being ready to listen, both to the evidently momentous and to the apparently mundane being sensitive to a young person’s readiness, or not, to talk and to share feelings and experiences combining non-verbal or symbolic forms of caring with verbal, explicit ones noticing good or admirable behaviour and crediting a young person for it marking special occasions in a young person’s life with a celebration. Whitaker, Archer and Hicks (1998)

19. alongside individual relationships between children and young people and residential staff members the sense of relatedness brought about by routines, rhythms and rituals of daily living sharing of food involvement in cultural and leisure activities the living space and the environment Back to cultures of relatedness

20. A sense of normality … it would appear that creating a “sense of normality” for the residents without attempting to pretend that a group home setting is either “normal” or “normative” is vital for their sense of well-being (Anglin, 2002) Intimate familiarity … importance [of] the fact that the relationships were possessed of a particular characteristic. I have come to think of that characteristic as “intimate familiarity.” (Garfat, 1998)

21. It is in understanding children and young people’s centrality in the complex mesh of relations, relatedness and relationships that residential child care must find its true potential.

22. They didn’t treat it like residential, they treated me like family, basically… there was one worker who treated me like a daughter… it was more like a family home than residential (Female, 17)

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