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Crucial Conversations based on the book by: By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler

Crucial Conversations based on the book by: By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler. Geraldine Roberts-Moore Wendy Zdeb Rochester Community Schools. Crucial Conversations. What makes a conversation “crucial” vs. typical? First, opinions vary

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Crucial Conversations based on the book by: By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler

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  1. Crucial Conversationsbased on the book by:By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler Geraldine Roberts-Moore Wendy Zdeb Rochester Community Schools

  2. Crucial Conversations • What makes a conversation “crucial” vs. typical? • First, opinions vary • Second, the stakes are high • Third, emotions run strong

  3. Crucial Conversations • How do we typically handle crucial conversations: • We can avoid them • We can face them and handle them poorly • We can face them and handle them well

  4. Crucial Conversations • Why don’t crucial conversations tend to go well? • Emotions tend to rule • Your body physically reacts • We are under pressure • We are stumped • We act in self defeating ways

  5. Crucial Conversations • “Common” Crucial Conversations • Ending a relationship • Asking a friend to repay a loan • Giving the boss feedback about her behavior • Critiquing a colleague’s work • Talking to a team member who isn’t keeping commitments • Talking to a colleague who is hoarding information or resources

  6. Crucial Conversations • Why it is important to master crucial conversation skills: • Kick Start Your Career • Improve Your Organization • Improve Your Relationships • Revitalize Your Community • Improve Your Personal Health

  7. Crucial Conversations • There are 8 Principles and Skills • See your chart in the handouts • Review the Law of Crucial Conversations graphic

  8. Get Unstuck • Spot the conversations that are keeping you stuck • Hold the right crucial conversation with CPR

  9. Get Unstuck Partner Discussion: • What conversations am I not holding or not holding well? • Share an example of a conversation which is long overdue. • Am I holding the right crucial conversations?

  10. Start with Heart • Work on me first • Focus on what you really want • Refuse the Sucker’s Choice

  11. Start with Heart Activity: Watch Video Clip, “The Apology” https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx • What do I really want? • Am I behaving in ways that move me toward what I want? • Am I making Sucker’s Choices?

  12. Learn to Look • Look for when a conversation becomes crucial Look for silence and violence Learn to look for your own Style Under Stress • Activity: Watch video clips/ label https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx

  13. Learn to Look • Am I noticing signs that safety is at risk? • Am I moving to my Style Under Pressure? Activity: Take a few minutes to complete the survey independently. - The survey can be submitted/scored on the VitalSmarts website.

  14. Make It Safe • Apologize when appropriate • Contrast to fix misunderstandings • Create Mutual Purpose

  15. Make It Safe • Have I established Mutual Purpose? • Have I maintained respect? • Activity: Watch video clip. Share an example of how we can “make it safe” for our staff members. https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx

  16. Master My Stories • Separate facts from stories • Watch for three clever stories • Victim, Villain and Helpless • Tell the rest of the story

  17. Master My Stories • Am I pretending not to notice my role in the problem? • Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person do this? • What should I do right now to move toward what I really want? Activity: Watch video clip, how could this same example be applied to a school setting? https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx

  18. STATE My Path • STATE: • Share your facts • Tell your story • Ask for others’ paths (what) • Talk tentatively • Encourage testing (how)

  19. STATE My Path • Am I really open to others’ views? • Am I confidently expressing my own views?

  20. Explore Others’ Paths • Explore with added AMPPs: • Ask • Mirror • Paraphrase • Prime

  21. Explore Others’ Paths • Am I actively exploring others’ views?

  22. Move to Action • Decide how to decide • Document who does what by when and follow-up

  23. Move to Action • What is the plan from here?

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