Public Speaking and Avoiding Awkward Moments

1. Public Speaking and Avoiding Awkward Moments “The ability to express an idea is well nigh as important as the idea itself.” Bernard M. Baruch

2. Dale Carnegie • It all began in 1912... • “Without knowing what I was doingI stumbled on the best method ofconquering fear.” • Realized that students were most interested in…? • How to Win Friends and Influence People • Published in 1936, revised in 1986 • Over 20 million copies sold • Translated into 36 languages • Courses given in most countries

3. Dale Carnegie • “Dale Carnegie solved none of the profound mysteries of the universe. But, perhaps, more than anyone of his generation, he helped human beings learn how to get along together – which seems sometimes to be the greatest need of all.”

4. Chp. 2: Self-Confidence through Preparation • “The Secret of Reserve Power” • Three Benefits • Prepared to follow up • More gas to go • Credibility of the topic “The speaker who starts nowhere, usually gets there…” - Dale Carnegie

5. Black History Month • “Now, I say to you today my friends, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: / we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.”

6. Chp. 7: The Secret of Good Delivery • “Do You Do These Things When You Talk in Public?” • Stress Important Words…yes!! • Change Your Pitch…how would you talk on a date? • Vary Your Rate of Speaking…it’ll give you time to think • Pause Before and After Important Ideas, like our boy Abe during Abe vs. Douglas, *ding ding* vs

7. Black History Month • “Now, I say to you today my friends, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: / we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.”

8. Chp. 5: Keeping the Audience Awake • “Sherman Rogers” • Enthusiasm • Which is more $10,000 vs $10,000,000

9. Daniel’s Conclusion • Lifestyle

10. Has this ever happened to you…?

11. Avoiding Awkward Moments Group Activity • Break into two groups and think of 5 of the most awkward situations you’ve ever been in. Don’t write how it was resolved, if it was! • Trade with the other team and answer their awkward situations

12. Avoiding Awkward Moments I have an office mate whom I like very much. But she’s started falling asleep at her desk — sometimes snoring. This has been happening almost daily for months now, and I’m getting frustrated. Should I wake her? I don’t want to embarrass her, but I don’t want her to get in trouble, either. Or do I butt out? — Sarah • Swell as it sounds to reinstate nap time — with blankies and nursery-school teachers monitoring our nation’s conference rooms — I don’t believe our employers would go for it. So, a word to the nodding-off would be a kindness. Tomorrow morning, before your colleague has a chance to hit the hay, tell her: “I hope you won’t mind my speaking up, but I love sharing an office with you, and I’m afraid you’re going to get into trouble if you keep snoozing in the afternoons. Is everything O.K.? Would you like a nudge when you drop off?” It’s probably none of our business why this woman is re-enacting “The Big Sleep.” But when we’re motivated by appropriate concern — and make our affection plain — we buy some extra leeway with folks, even Sleepy Time Gals.

13. NYT’s “Social Qs”Social Q's offers lighthearted advice about awkward social situations. • Appropriate • Be sure that your point is valid • Meets social standards • Affection • Show that you’re not being selfish…though you might really be looking out for your interests • It’s about playing to their ego • After all it’s not what you say, it’s…?

15. Daniel’s Conclusion • Be Confident ya wimp!