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What to Do W hen You D on’t Know What to Do

What to Do W hen You D on’t Know What to Do. Practical Guidance for Today’s Counselors. Stumper. What kinds of situations are you finding where You don’t know what to do?. Not Knowing. Why is it ok to not know?. 1. How can I know everything?

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What to Do W hen You D on’t Know What to Do

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  1. What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do Practical Guidance for Today’s Counselors

  2. Stumper What kinds of situations are you finding where You don’t know what to do?

  3. Not Knowing

  4. Why is it ok to not know? • 1. How can I know everything? • 2. Main reason: Not knowing is a door and not a wall • 3. Just admit it

  5. Top 10 List:How to Know Your Therapist Doesn’t Know What to Do • 10. Is frantically searching for the “Ask the Shrink” ap on his smart phone. • 9. Pretends to fall asleep while talking to you. • 8. If you are having trouble with low self-esteem, he tells you he doesn’t have time for you today. • 7. Turns all your inner children against you. • 6. Tells the secretary to pull the fire alarm 15 minutes into the session.

  6. Top 10 List: How to Know Your Therapist Doesn’t Know What to Do • 5. Follows your concerns with, “You think you got it bad, my sister in ....” • 4. Constantly rolling his eyes and making cuckoo signs. • 3. At the end of your session, he yells, “Time’s up,” and high fives the receptionist. • 2. Whenever you tell him one of your dreams, he says, “Come on, that’s an old Twilight Zone.” • 1. Constantly asks you “so you’re just going to rule out suicide completely?”

  7. The Use of “Self” in Therapy • YOU ARE ONLY AS GOOD A THERAPIST AS YOU ARE A PERSON • If you want to be a better therapist, you need to work on being a better person.

  8. Knowing Principles

  9. Factors that create change in the therapeutic process • Relationship -Survey shows • Curiosity- CSI • Client’s theory of change - Erickson and the horse • Love and fear

  10. Factors that create change in the therapeutic process • Humor • Perspective • Keeping Fresh • Avoid Pet Theories

  11. Knowing Specific Situations and Skills

  12. Sources of Not Knowing • Client • Relationship with Therapist • Problem

  13. I don’t know what to do whenthe client: 1. Is unmotivated. Answer: anticipation of reward, fear of consequences 2. Is stuck or has given up. Answer: chunk up, chunk down 3. Is overwhelmed Answer: review progress, therapeutic vacation 4. Has a personality disorder Answer: Utilization, walking the dog

  14. I don’t know what to do when in the relationship: • 1. The client is challenging or antagonistic towards you. • Answer: Aikido • 2. The client is emotionally draining • Answer: Semi-permeable membrane, massage advice • 3. The client lies • Answer: Gandhi Story, turn off BS detector • 4. The client is resistant • Answer: And why is that?

  15. I don’t know what to do when the problem: • Has so many aspects • Answer: Serenity list • Is a hopeless situation • Answer: Answer vs. Answers. • Others are the source of the problem • Answer: Strength bombardment, empowerment

  16. Some other strategies • Silence • Favorite questions • Refer

  17. What would you do?

  18. Join the Website What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do atjonwindercounseling.com

  19. The Awesomeness of Counseling Thank you for what you are doing!

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