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Addendum to Chapter 10. Talking with Your Children about Sex. Sexual Learning is Lifelong. Children learn about sexuality: family, friends, media, and the rest of general environment parent’s behavior and attitudes sex education in schools. Which parent should talk with the children?.
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Addendum to Chapter 10 Talking with Your Children about Sex
Sexual Learning is Lifelong Children learn about sexuality: family, friends, media, and the rest of general environment parent’s behavior and attitudes sex education in schools
Which parent should talk with the children? It is usually mothers, but both parents should open lines of communication Negative parental reactions = children who are less likely to open up or ask questions
Does telling children about sex lead them to have sex? See the connections?
Personal Reflections Some day you will probably be a parent (if you are not one already). Do you plan to educate your children about sexuality? If so, how? When will you begin?
Will a single “birds and bees” talk suffice? Communication should be lifelong Waiting until age 10 or 11 is less effective than incorporating topic of sexuality into course of everyday conversation
What should I tell my children about AIDS and other STIs? Children hear about these topics and are naturally curious Questions and topics by age: School age: Ages 9 – 12: Teens: Scare tactics are not effective!
How detailed should sex discussions be? Children do not want “birds and bees” analogies; they want factual information in real terms Answers should be simple and age-appropriate Morality should not be substituted for factual information
Personal ReflectionsHow would you react if… Your 5-yr-old asks where babies come from? Your 9-yr-old asks what sex is? Your 10-yr-old asks you what “French kissing” is? Your 12-yr-old son came home from school saying that he had to watch a “gross” movie about girls having their period? Your 15-yr-old son asked you about birth control? Your 15-yr-old daughter asked you about birth control?
What about morals? Aren’t they important too? Parents who generally have good loving interactions with their children are more successful in transmitting values than parents who generally have poor interactions with their children This includes sexuality!
Can my behavior affect my child’s attitudes and behavior? Adult behavior influences child sexuality and moral values Reacting calmly and listening tells children that they can discuss anything with you
How do I know if I have been successful? • Success is related to _______. Fill in the blank.