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How to be more positive (in only 5 seconds)

Bad stuff happens. How we respond is up to us. Super successful people have mastered one special skill. They can change their mind - whenever they want. Learn the scientifically tested four-step process for changing your mind, being more positive, and getting more of what you like (in only 5 seconds).

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How to be more positive (in only 5 seconds)

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  1. How to BE more POSITIVE (in only 5 seconds)

  2. It's easy to create a negative belief…

  3. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions

  4. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment

  5. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure

  6. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment

  7. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment >> fear

  8. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment >> fear >> exhaustion

  9. HOW BELIEFS ARE CREATED

  10. Something bad happens (or might happen)

  11. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD.

  12. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen.

  13. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act.

  14. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act. Soon, the voice in our head sounds like:

  15. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act. Soon, the voice in our head sounds like: “They are always difficult to be with.” “I can never get this right!” “Nobody wants to buy my stuff!” “If I fail I’ll lose everything!” “I never have enough energy.”

  16. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)

  17. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a small thing that happened once or twice to…

  18. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a small thing that happened once or twice to… PERMANENT (it isn’t going away) PERSONAL (it’s my fault) PERVASIVE (it always happens)

  19. AND, to make it worse,

  20. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick.

  21. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick. When bad things happen, like:

  22. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick. When bad things happen, like: •late fees, •missed appointments, •lost sales, •arguments, •gaining weight, •or breakups

  23. We look for evidence to prove our belief is right.

  24. “I wouldn’t have seen it if I didn’t believe it.” Marshall McLuhan

  25. Pretty soon your belief becomes FACT and you act as if it’s TRUE.

  26. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW

  27. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.

  28. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow.

  29. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow. NEGATIVE BELIEFS kill dreams and keep us small.

  30. “A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.”  William James

  31. So, how are successful people so POSITIVE?

  32. Simple: they change their mind.

  33. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) THE MODEL

  34. 1. AWARE Realize something isn’t working AND you have choices. Sure, there are people you can blame and maybe you did screw up. But, what you are experiencing right now is under your control. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  35. 2.ACCOUNTABLE Superman only saves cartoon characters and good luck trying to win the lottery. You are responsible. Now, decide what you want and get ready to work for it. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  36. 3. ASK Blame is judgment - curiosity opens doors. When you ask “Why does this always happen to me?” your sub-conscious comes up with 12 (or more) reasons why you failed. That won’t help. Instead, ask a good question, like “What’s one thing I can do RIGHT NOW to make this better?” AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  37. 4.ACTION This is where the rubber hits the road and you practice taking control. Successful people train their mind to instantly flip the switch and turn more light on what’s in their way. They don’t run away. And they don’t look for more bad things to happen. They change their mind and take action. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  38. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) IN PRACTICE

  39. ARGUEMENT ! The fastest way to change someone is for you go first. Apologize for how they feel and ask how you can make things better. Don’t argue, get defensive, or pissy. Just let them know you heard them and you care. ! AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  40. SALES ! Pick up the phone and call a client. But, don’t try to sell them. Simply, ask them what they need. And then ask another question. And another. Build trust and empathy now and you’ll get all the sales you need later. ! AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  41. EXERCISE ! Put on your running shoes and walk out the door. Don’t think about it. Set your watch for 20 minutes. Don’t debate it. Get to the road, start jogging. Don’t stop. ! AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  42. DEBT ! Call the credit card company, explain your mistake and ask to have the late fee removed. Go to your bank. Set up a monthly auto payment to reduce your debt. Every action (even small ones) takes you closer to your goal. ! AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

  43. “Our concentration on a positive thought robs the painful thought of its sting.” Richard Restak, Mozart’s Brain and the Fighter Pilot

  44. The most powerful habit is the habit to change your mind.

  45. This is your job Find something TODAY to be positive about, just because you can.

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  50. Photo Credits:! ! Woman looking: www.flickr.com/photos/danielavladimirova/5801590716 Punker: www.flickr.com/photos/lehnin78/14371279913 Woman stretching: www.flickr.com/photos/ash_hershberger/7042151137 Basketball team: www.flickr.com/photos/dborman2/5456503518 Surfer: www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/7755381064 Older lady sticking tongue out: www.flickr.com/photos/poxypixels/8064118261 Standing on cliff: www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4376727123 Guy looking, plaid jacket: www.flickr.com/photos/carbonnyc/3248846504 Card player: www.flickr.com/photos/dani_vazquez/12644326014 Three people on bench: www.flickr.com/photos/mario-mancuso/8909880242 Guy looking, stud in ear: www.flickr.com/photos/titlap/3936883765 Man on bench, sunglasses: www.flickr.com/photos/pewu/224688578 Three ladies having tea: www.flickr.com/photos/skrefsrud/14438341782 Woman holding up smiley face: www.flickr.com/photos/katerha/5637856336 “Argument”: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/58847482@N03/5626162081 “Exercise” woman: www.flickr.com/photos/barretthall/7421890566 “Debt” credit cards: www.flickr.com/photos/smemon/12696360474 Richard Restak, quote: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/mlazarevski/8467690532 Girl in flowers: www.flickr.com/photos/leventlecri/2440839767

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