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Weddings . Indonesia and the United States . Emma Espel. United States. Marriage for LOVE Groom may ask bride’s parents out of courtesy Wedding planner Bride’s family pays. Ceremonies. Bridal Shower Rehearsal Dinner Ceremony Reception *Honeymoon. The Wedding.
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Weddings Indonesia and the United States Emma Espel
United States • Marriage for LOVE • Groom may ask bride’s parents out of courtesy • Wedding planner • Bride’s family pays
Ceremonies • Bridal Shower • Rehearsal Dinner • Ceremony • Reception • *Honeymoon
The Wedding • Usually in a religious setting • Mainly Christian in the US • White wedding dress/veil • Religious leader
The Wedding (Cont’d) • The wedding party • Ushers, Bride’s maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, Music • Wedding vows • Exchange of rings • Kiss • Wheat or rice
Reception • Guestbook • Food • Greet the couple • Dancing
Guests • Family and friends • Gifts from registries or money • Dress up • Some only come to the reception
Indonesia • Each clan is different! • Marriage symbolizes “full adult status” • Before the Wedding • Parents arrange OR • Marriage for love • Supports kinship • Many gift exchanges occur
Java, Indonesia • Arrangement of Marriage • The greater the social status, the greater chance of arranged marriage. • The groom’s family usually stays out of all of the organization. • Sometimes there is a “make-up woman,” who is like a wedding planner (Pemaes)
Ceremonies • Traditional engagement • Bathing ceremony • Relatives all meet the night before at the bride’s home. • Wedding Ceremony • Reception
The Wedding • The bride and groom approach each other • Throw bundles of betel leaves • Groom crushes an egg, and the bride washes his feet • Wedding chair • Couple sits on the lap of the groom’s father. • Then the couple sits in the chair.
Wedding (cont’d) • Exchange of wedding rings • The bride gets certain gifts from the groom. • They eat and drink together • The couple kneels and the parents bless them
Guests • Weddings are for everyone! • Fancy invitations. • Asks not to bring flowers or gifts • It is an insult not to attend • Most people come only to the reception. • Guests dress nicely
Reception • Guests arrive at the reception after the wedding. • Dancers precede the couple • Family speeches • The guests greet the couple and eat • Alcohol and dancing are considered rude
Java vs. United States • Both have: • Differences across the board • Bride’s family does a lot of the planning • A wedding planner • Parents give away the couple • Wedding Rings
United States Full adult status at 18 No chair Gifts from registry or money Friends and family Dancing, alcohol at reception Many shorter speeches Java vs. United States • Java • “full adult status” • Arranged marriage • Only money gifts • Everyone invited • Entertainment is dancers • Long speeches