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SESSION 1. Parenting a child with special needs. PARENTS OF A CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS FACE PARTICULAR CHALLENGES. Standard parenting advice often doesn’t work. Other people don’t understand what it’s like. It’s easy to feel frustrated and isolated. GROUP AGREEMENT.

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  1. SESSION 1 Parenting a child with special needs

  2. PARENTS OF A CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS FACE PARTICULAR CHALLENGES • Standard parenting advice often doesn’t work. • Other people don’t understand what it’s like. • It’s easy to feel frustrated and isolated.

  3. GROUP AGREEMENT What ground rules do we want in this group to help it run smoothly?

  4. TIME OUT FOR PARENTS AIMS TO: • increase your confidence in your skills and abilities to “parent” • help the relationship between you and your child even better than it is now • teach skills for help your children to raise their self esteem

  5. TIME OUT FOR PARENTS AIMS TO: • work out the best way to effectively discipline your child • give you tools to help you in your relationship with your child’s other parent or carer and to encourage mutual support • provide you with greater support where you would like it

  6. SESSION PLAN • What are special educational needs? • Course outline • Reaching their potential • In for the long haul

  7. WHAT ARE SPECIAL EDUCATIONAL NEEDS? • Learning difficulties • Emotional and behavioural difficulties • Developmental disorders • Speech and language problems • Hearing or visual impairment • Physical conditions • Medical conditions

  8. JUGGLING ISSUES

  9. TIME OUT FOR PARENTS – CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS • Parenting a child with special needs • Helping self esteem • Coping with feelings • Understanding behaviour • Managing behaviour • Home and school issues • The wider family

  10. PARENTS’ CONCERNS What concerns would you like to deal with during the course?

  11. GETTING TO KNOW YOU! • One of my strengths as a parent is… • One thing I love about my child is…

  12. BREAK

  13. REACHING THEIR POTENTIAL Can you think of one unexpected thing that your child has already achieved which surprised and pleased you?

  14. HELPING YOUR CHILD REACH THEIR FULL POTENTIAL • Acceptance is not giving up – and it’s constant! • Invest energy into overcoming difficulties • Don’t underestimate potential • To be fully involved in society

  15. IN FOR THE LONG HAUL What do you do to keep yourself going?

  16. TAKING TIME OUT FOR YOU ISN’T SELFISH, IT’S SURVIVAL!

  17. INVOLVING THE FAMILY • Aim for a consistent approach • Share your new ideas or discoveries with your partner or others who share in the caring • Use this opportunity to strengthen family relationships

  18. REFLECTION • Introductions • Made a group agreement • Aims of the course • What are special educational needs? • Course outline • Reaching their potential • In for the long haul

  19. FOCUS FOR THE WEEK • Doing something nice for YOU! • Tell your child what you love about them

  20. NEXT WEEK We will look at helping build your child’s self-esteem

  21. SESSION 2 Helping build self esteem

  22. SESSION PLAN • What is self-esteem? • The importance of play • Special time • Finding something your child can achieve • Parenting styles • Meeting emotional needs

  23. WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM? The way we feel about ourselves deep inside The self-esteem of children with special needs is fragile and can be easily damaged They need: • To be encouraged • Someone to believe in them • To feel loved • To feel competent

  24. WHAT CAN YOU DO TO BOOST YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM? • Be their greatest fan! • Don’t “obsess” about your child’s special need. • Avoid discussing their needs in their presence. • Pick out specific behaviours and small achievementsto praise.

  25. WHAT CAN YOU DO TO BOOST YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM? • Involve them as far as possible in the management of their condition. • Don’t compare them unfavourably with their brothers and sisters. • As far as possible, treat them the same as your other children. • Reassure them that they will always be loved.

  26. SHOWING LOVE THROUGH THE SENSES Love is communicated in many different ways… We can communicate love to children with more severe disabilities through the “senses”.

  27. THE IMPORTANCE OF PLAY Play is a vital part of a child’s physical, emotional, social and brain development • cognitive and language • social skills • creative skills and imagination • manipulative skills and physical exercise • feelings and emotions

  28. STAGES OF PLAY • Solitary play • Parallel play • Co-operative play

  29. SPECIAL TIME • Child’s choice of play • Don’t interfere • Occasionally comment • Sometimes sit quietly and enjoy • Try playing by yourself if child is shy • Observe what they’re doing • Join in at their request

  30. PLANNING ‘SPECIAL TIME’ • Could you plan a “special time” ? • How often? • How long do you think it should be? • What would your child like to play (or do)?

  31. BREAK

  32. FINDING SOMETHING YOUR CHILD CAN ACHIEVE • Boosts confidence • Builds self esteem

  33. FINDING SOMETHING YOUR CHILD CAN ACHIEVE What does your child enjoy doing that you can encourage?

  34. THERE ARE DIFFERENT RECOGNISED STYLES OF PARENTING • Permissive • Authoritarian • Authoritative/assertive

  35. PERMISSIVE

  36. AUTHORITARIAN

  37. AUTHORITATIVE/ASSERTIVE

  38. WHICH STYLE DO YOU MOST RELATE TO?

  39. OVER-PROTECTIVENESS Are there any dangers to being over-protective? Aim to strike a balance!

  40. MEETING EMOTIONAL NEEDS Attention Acceptance Appreciation Encouragement Affection Respect Support Comfort Approval Security

  41. MEETING CHILDREN’S EMOTIONAL NEEDS • Which need does your child particularly like to be met? • Think of two ways you could meet this need

  42. REFLECTION • Reviewed focus for the week • What is self-esteem? • The importance of play • Special time • Finding something your child can achieve • Parenting styles • Overprotectiveness • Meeting emotional needs

  43. FOCUS FOR THE WEEK • Have ‘special time’ with your child • Give ‘overheard’ praise • Meet one of your child’s emotional needs • Read the article ‘Welcome to Holland’

  44. NEXT WEEK We will look at coping with feelings

  45. SESSION 3 Coping with feelings

  46. SESSION PLAN • Labelling • Talking to your child about their condition • Handling other people’s comments • Reactions and feelings • Coping with feelings

  47. LABELLING “We felt for a long time that something was wrong. It was a relief when someone put a name to it.” “Ben’s got ADHD so we can’t expect him to behave properly.”

  48. THE PROS AND CONS OF LABELLING When a child gets a diagnosis, they also get a ‘label’ What are the advantages of labeling? Are there any disadvantages?

  49. TALKING TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT THEIR CONDITION • Talk naturally and simply about your child’s condition • Talk in a way that they will understand • The whole family will benefit • Helps prevent anxieties and isolation

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