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The Deep Change Within. Motivation1.com Paul Clayton. What Did You About Change. Learning not to listen to that Voice inside. Happiness is the Difference of what you want vs. what you get. What you want. What Is. True Happiness is being in the present moment.
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The Deep Change Within Motivation1.com Paul Clayton
What Did You About Change • Learning not to listen to that Voice inside.
Happiness is the Difference of what you want vs. what you get. What you want What Is
True Happiness is being in the present moment • Not holding on to the past. • Not worrying about the future.
Happiness is… expectations +/- reality = happiness
Happiness Level Very Happy Happy Unhappy Your Happiness is based on your expectations.
You have Several Choices Accept Happy Reality Change the things you can Upset Unhappy Angry Don’t accept and try and Change something you cannot change
Feelings Situation Belief System Emotions
Our Belief System • What we expect or think that we should or must have from reality and ourselves.
Avoid Words • SHOULD • MUST • HAVE TO • Replace them with Desirable
What are your expectations of : • Family • Client • Coworkers • Work • Spouse • Yourself
Negative Emotions • THE SITUATION + • IRRATIONAL THOUGHT = • A NEGATIVE FEELING
When You Are Upset • Breathe Deeply • Write Down What Your Expectations Were. • Ask Yourself Why People, Places and Things have to follow your expectations. • Accept • Renew Grant me the serenity to accept what is (STOP), the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
We all spread energy in our presence. • Resistance Causes Persistence • Negative energy hurts yourself and others • In order to give positive energy acceptance is necessary • Order of Positive Energy • Acceptance • Joy • Passion / Enthusiasm
Non-acceptance creates suffering for yourself and others Acceptance Enjoyment Enthusiasm / Passion Non-acceptance creates suffering for yourself and others
Burnout • Lack of acceptance • Lack of positive feed back. • Lack of trying new things. • Lack of a purpose greater than the job.
Six Strengths We Need As Workers • Design, we no longer do we just buy for utility but rather design, check out your cell phone. Everything is designed from the grocery store to the dishes you picked out. • Symphony being able to see the whole picture. • Story, start noticing that advertisements and companies are telling stories about their people who make the product.
Six Strengths • Empathy, understanding the person’s issues and walking in their shoes. • Play, entertainment is now necessary in what we do. Video games are becoming the new literature • Meaning, people today demand meaning in all they do.
Survey Sample for Clients • What do you think are your expectations about finding a job? • Poor • Good • Excellent • How long do you think it will take to find a job? • How much money do you think you will make in the beginning? • Have you been on any interviews? If so how many?
Sample Survey for Clients • If you have had any why do you think you were not hired? • What do you think is the biggest obstacle you face in order to get a job? • What are your expectations of how your career counselor can help you to achieve your goals? • How many jobs have you had in the past? • How did they end? • What do you think is the most important thing in finding a job