THE MOTIVATIONAL GIFTS

1. THE MOTIVATIONAL GIFTS . . . so in Christ we who are many members form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. Romans 12:5-6a

2. Finding Ones Gift 1. IF YOU WALKED INTO A ROOM AND TWO PEOPLE WERE ARGUING: a. would you stay? b. Would you leave? c. Would you intervene? • If the answer for you is a. and this is what you would tend to do most of the time then: • Probably: • 1. Mercy, Prophet, or Exhorter • 2. If b is yes then perhaps : Server, Teacher, Organizer, Giver • 3. If c is yes most of the time then: Exhorter, or Prophet is likely

3. Finding Ones Gift 2. DO YOU TEND TO LEAD OTHERS OR FOLLOW OTHERS LEADS? • A. If the answer is to lead then you are more likely one of these: Prophet, Teacher, Organizer, or Exhorter. • B. If you prefer to follow then you would more than likely be a Server, Mercy, or Giver

4. Finding Ones Gift 3. DO YOU FIND YOURSELF TO BE MORE EMOTIONAL OR LOGICAL? • If more emotional then you could be a Mercy, Exhorter, or Prophet • B. If you tend to be more logical then: Teacher, Organizer, or perhaps Prophet

5. Prophet • PROPHET (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • CONFLICT OVER WHO’S RIGHT • BOTH HAVE STRICT STANDARDS • PROPHET (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • BOSSY, TREATS HER LIKE A SERVANT • HONEST AND LOYAL • PROPHET (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) • THREATENED BY HER OPINIONS • BOTH LOVE TO STUDY THE WORD • PROPHET (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) • IRRITATION OVER HER TALKATIVENESS • GREGARIOUSNESS MODIFIES RECLUSIVENESS • PROPHET (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) • CONTROLS HER ABILITY TO GIVE • JOINT INTERCESSORY PRAYER POWER • PROPHET (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) • INTIMIDATES AND SQUELCHES HER LEADERSHIP POTENTIAL • PRACTICAL AND ORGANIZED APPROACH BALANCES IDEALISM • PROPHET (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) • TENDENCY TO HURT HER FEELINGS • BOTH SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS

6. Server • SERVER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) - TENDENCY TO FEEL OVERWHELMED BY HER STRONG PERSONALITY. - BOTH ARE PERFECTIONISTS. • SERVER (HUSBAND AND WIFE) - TRY TO OUTDO EACH OTHER AT SERVING, BECOMING COMPETITIVE. - WORK EXCEPTIONALLY WELL TOGETHER AS A TEAM. • SERVER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) - HE RESENTS HER LACK OF HELPFULNESS. - OPPOSITE TRAITS OF DOING VS. THINKING BALANCE EACH OTHER. • SERVER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) - HIS INTEREST IN THINGS CONFLICTS WITH HER INTEREST IN PEOPLE. - SHE HELPS TO DRAW HIM INTO SOCIAL ACTIVITIES HE’D OTHERIWISE MISS. • SERVER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) - NEED TO DO AND TO FEEL APPRECIATED MAKES BOTH PARTNERS INSECURE. - HELPFUL TO EACH OTHER AND OTHERS AROUND THEM. • SERVER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) - HE FEELS THREATENED BY HER LEADERSHIP ABILITY. - HE’S ABLE TO CARRY OUT EFFECTIVELY PROJECTS SHE INITIATES. • SERVER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) - HIS HIGH ENERGY LEVEL CONFLICTS WITH HER SLOWNESS AND TARDINESS. - BOTH ARE GENTLE IN SPIRIT

7. Teacher • TEACHER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) • FRUSTRATION OVER HER EMOTIONAL MOOD SWINGS. • BOTH ARE HIGHLY ANALYTICAL • TEACHER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • HIS INTELLECTUAL EMPHASIS MAKES HER FEEL INFERIOR. • SHE’S GLAD TO CARE FOR ROUTINE RESPONSIBILITIES WHILE HE READS OR STUDIES. • TEACHER (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • DIFFERENCES IN OPINIONS EASILY BECOME ARGUMENTS. • BOTH LOVE TO READ BOOKS. • TEACHER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) • DISAGREEMENTS OVER HOW TRUTH IS ARRIVED AT CAUSE FRICTION. • BOTH LOVE TO TALK • TEACHER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) • HE’S THREATENED BY HER BETTER BUSINESS ABILITY. • BOTH ENJOY READING • TEACHER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) • HE GETS UPSET WITH HER PROCRASTINATION AND CLUTTER. • BOTH ENJOY LEARNING • TEACHER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) • HIS FRUSTRATION WITH HER ILLOGICAL, IRRATIONAL BEHAVIOR.

8. Exhorter • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) • HE FEELS HER PERCEPTIONS ARE CRITICISMS OF HIM. • HE ENCOURAGES TO HAVE BROADER SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • HIS TALKATIVENESS OVERWHELMS HER, CAUSING FURTHER RESERVE. • SHE ENJOYS BEING HOSPITABLE TO MANY FRIENDS. • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) • HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER DISINTEREST IN SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. • HE HELPS TO BE MORE LIFE RELATED AND PEOPLE RELATED • EXHORTER (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • COMPETITIVENESS IN TALKING. • ENCOURAGING EACH OTHER CONSTANTLY • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) • HE RESENTS HER OVEREMPHASIS ON MONEY. • BOTH ENJOY MANY FRIENDS • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) • HE GETS UPSET WITH HER PROCRASTINATION. • BOTH LOVE BEING AROUND LOTS OF PEOPLE. • EXHORTER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) • HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER INDECISIVENESS. • BOTH ARE GREAT COUNSELORS

9. Giver • GIVER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) • HE RESENTS HER TELLING HIM WHOM NOT TO TRUST IN BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS. • BOTH ARE VERY HONEST • GIVER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • SHE’S UPSET WHEN HE GIVES AWAY THINGS WITHOUT CONSULTING HER. • BOTH ARE EASYGOING • GIVER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) • HIS FOCUS ON BUSINESS CONFLICTS WITH HER INTEREST IN EDUCATION. • BOTH OPERATE DILIGENTLY • GIVER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) • HE FEELS SHE WASTES TOO MUCH TIME ON THE PHONE AND SOCIALIZING. • BOTH ARE GOOD AT HELPING PEOPLE WITH THEIR PROBLEMS. • GIVER (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • THEIR FRUGALITY CAN TURN INTO STINGINESS. • BOTH ARE WILLING TO HELP OTHERS. • GIVER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) • HE RESENTS HER TELLING THEM WHAT TO DO, ESPECIALLY REGARDING BUSINESS MATTERS. • THEY CAN WORK WELL TOGETHER IN BUSINESS . • GIVER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) • HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER LACK OF INDUSTRIOUSNESS AND PUNCTUALITY. • BOTH ENJOY BUILDING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.

10. Organizer • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) • HE’S UPSET WHEN SHE JUDGES HIS ACTIONS OR DECISIONS. • BOTH ENJOY COMPETITION. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • HE TAKES HER FOR GRANTED, FORGETTING TO EXPRESS APPRECIATION. • SHE’S GLAD TO CARRY OUT HIS DIRECTIONS. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) • HE RESENTS HER FOCUS ON READING AND LEARNING INSTEAD OF ON HIM. • BOTH ARE ACHIEVERS. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) • HE SAVES EVERYTHING; SHE THROWS AWAY ITEMS NO MORE PRACTICAL USE. • THEY MAKE A GREAT TEAM WORKING TOGETHER WITH COMPLIMENTARY CHARACTERISTICS. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) • HIS BOSSINESS OFFENDS HER. • SHE IS SUPPORTIVE OF HIS PROJECTS. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • ORGANIZATIONAL IDEAS CONFLICT. • HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP IF INDIVIDUAL AREAS OF AUTHORITY ARE CLEARLY DEFINED. • ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE) • HE’S PERPLEXED BY HER EMOTIONAL REACTIONS. • HE HELPS TO KEEP RELATIVELY ORGANIZED AND ON SCHEDULE.

11. Mercy • MERCY (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE) • HE OFTEN FEELS SHE DOMINATES HIM. • HE CAN SOFTEN HER PERSONALITY. • MERCY (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE) • THEY LET OTHERS TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEM TOO OFTEN. • THEY DO NOT CRITICIZE EACH OTHER. • MERCY (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE) • DIFFICULT COMMUNICATION BASED ON FEELING/THINKING DIFFERENCES. • BOTH ENJOY THE ARTS. • MERCY (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE) • HE FEELS THREATENED BY HER DECISION MAKING ABILITIES. • VERY LOVING TO EACH OTHER. • MERCY (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE) • HE RESENTS HER SUPERIOR ABILITY TO HANDLE FINANCES. • THEY ARE HELPFUL TO EACH OTHER. • MERCY (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE) • HE FEELS PRESSURED BY HER ORGANIZATIONAL ABILITIES. • HE HELPS FOCUS ON PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS INSTEAD OF TOO MUCH ON ACHIEVEMENTS. • MERCY (HUSBAND AND WIFE) • INDECISIVENESS AND LACK OF MOTIVATION. • TREMENDOUS CAPACITY TO SHOW LOVE TO ONE ANOTHER.