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It’s Not Rocket Science

It’s Not Rocket Science. Understanding Failure to Launch Russell Baxter LPC. What is FTL?. Not a real diagnosis Term used to describe a social phenomenon Lacking the skill to fully transition from adolescence to adulthood Much deeper problem than just laziness. Why is it a Problem?.

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It’s Not Rocket Science

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  1. It’s Not Rocket Science Understanding Failure to Launch Russell Baxter LPC

  2. What is FTL? • Not a real diagnosis • Term used to describe a social phenomenon • Lacking the skill to fully transition from adolescence to adulthood • Much deeper problem than just laziness

  3. Why is it a Problem? • Strains marriages • Robs young adults of dignity • Creates financial strain on parents • Changes the dynamic between parents and adult children • Effects job market and housing market

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  5. Statistics • 45% of YA ages 18-34 live with parents – even though they are employed • A recent report from real estate hub Zillow estimated nearly 10 million Americans between the ages of 24 and 34 – about 21.4 percent of that age group – still lived with their parents in 2014, based on an analysis of the most recent data from the Census Bureau. That's up significantly from the 13.1 percent seen as recently as 2005. • About 14.1 percent of 24- to 34-year-olds living at home were unemployed in 2014, and the majority of those who haven't moved out yet (about 55 percent) were male. • In 2014 only 52.9% of students completed a college degree within 6 years. https://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2016-05-09/failure-to-launch-young-adults-increasingly-moving-in-with-mom-and-dad

  6. Common Signs • Anxiety • Low tolerance for distress • Apathy • Unable/Unwilling to plan for future • Avoidance • Intentional distraction to avoid stressors • Addiction/Substance Abuse • Video Games, Porn, Marijuana, Alcohol

  7. Anxiety • Difficulty with managing tasks and time • Common stress presents as overwhelming anxiety • Overwhelmed very easily • Presents in two ways • Explosive • Shut Down

  8. Apathy • Only focuses and works on things that are pleasant • Difficulty giving attention to difficult things • Tendency to give up with task becomes hard

  9. Avoidance • Procrastination • Video Games/ Social Media • Unwilling/Unable to face problems head on without help • Tends to outsource to parents

  10. Addiction • Technology • Video Games • Porn • Social Media • Drugs • Alcohol

  11. Prelaunch Problems • Too much direction • No struggle • No confidence building opportunities • Independent Projects • Job • Recovering Independently from failure

  12. Kids needs are prioritized • Transferring fear about future • Unrealistic goals for future • Instant gratification • Haven’t learned how to be bored

  13. What Do We Do? • Boundaries • Set expectations and provide consequences • Become a coach • Be a resource of information • Slowly withdraw your support • Allow them to build up their tolerance • Ask questions more than you give answers

  14. Give them responsibility • Allow them to struggle and fail • Feel free to say “No” • Technology free family time • Share some of your struggles and how you overcame

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