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Divorce. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly. Untying the Knot. Analyze celebrity gossip websites to begin conversations about trends in marriage and divorce. http://www.usmagazine.com/ http://www.people.com/people/ http://starmagazine.com/. Reflection.
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Divorce The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
Untying the Knot • Analyze celebrity gossip websites to begin conversations about trends in marriage and divorce. • http://www.usmagazine.com/ • http://www.people.com/people/ • http://starmagazine.com/
Reflection • How sacred is the commitment of marriage? Do you agree or disagree with this view? • Why do you think it is difficult for famous people to get married and stay married? • If a relationship is hard to maintain, is it necessarily a “bad” relationship? Why or why not? • What is your longest relationship (either romantic or platonic)? What do you do (or what did you do) to maintain this relationship? • Do you think teenagers are capable of true love?
Round Table Discussion • “The difference between people who are married today and people who were married 20 years ago is ______________. • Longer relationships usually mean more ______________. • Divorce rates are high for young couples because ______________. • Individualized technology like cellphones, DVRs, MP3 players, social networking Web sites, etc. affects people’s relationships with others in that ______________. • Marriage may be more of a “want” than a “need” in our society today because ______________. • Religion affects many people’s views about marriage because ______________. • The ingredients for a good marriage are ______________.” • What do you think is good or positive about marriage? What do you think is bad or negative about marriage?”
Divorce Rates in the U.S. 50% • Canada 48% • Japan 27% • UK 13.9% • Australia 40% • India 10% • Singapore 10%
Divorce Rates in the United States • 41% of first marriages end in divorce • 60% of second marriages • 73% of third marriages • Alabama’s divorce rate is one third higher than the U.S. average. It is the sixth highest in the nation.
Reasons People Divorce • Financial Issues • Incompatibility of personality • Communication problems • Abuse • Drugs or Alcoholism • Authoritarianism • Selfishness • Differing Values
Grounds for Divorce • Impotency. • Adultery. • Desertion for more than one year or separation for more than three years. • Failure to provide the necessities of life. • Habitually drunk. • Conviction of a felony. • Mental or physical cruelty. • Permanent incurable insanity.
Effects of Divorce on Age of Children • Preschoolers: Fear of abandonment, sleep disturbances. • Young Childhood: Fear of being displaced, grief, school difficulties, fear for well being of absent parent. • Older Children: Acting out, fight with parent, spying for the other parent. • Adolescent: Fear of own relationship failure, independence, promiscuous-type behavior could increase.
Children and Divorce • Who deals better? Younger or older? Boy or girl? • Do children feel anger, guilt, blame? • Are there things parents should not discuss about the divorce with their children?
Impact on Children • Self-Concept? • School Performance? • Peer Relationships? • Dating-Marriage?
Six Tasks for Children • Acknowledge parental separation. • Disengage from parents conflict. • Resolution to loss of familiar parental relationships and routines. • Resolution of anger and self-blame. • Accepting finality of divorce. • Achieving realistic expectations for later relationship success.
Round Table Discussion • “The difference between people who are married today and people who were married 20 years ago is ______________. • Longer relationships usually mean more ______________. • Divorce rates are high for young couples because ______________. • Individualized technology like cellphones, DVRs, MP3 players, social networking Web sites, etc. affects people’s relationships with others in that ______________. • Marriage may be more of a “want” than a “need” in our society today because ______________. • Religion affects many people’s views about marriage because ______________. • The ingredients for a good marriage are ______________.” • What do you think is good or positive about marriage? What do you think is bad or negative about marriage?”