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Unit 6: Challenging Situations

Unit 6: Challenging Situations. Discipline. Which word is Negative?. Love Warmth Discipline Laughter. NONE! All are good! Society uses discipline wrong which makes us think it is negative. Punishment. A penalty inflicted for wrong doing, a crime or offense.

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Unit 6: Challenging Situations

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  1. Unit 6: Challenging Situations Discipline

  2. Which word is Negative? • Love • Warmth • Discipline • Laughter NONE! • All are good! • Society uses discipline wrong which makes us think it is negative.

  3. Punishment • A penalty inflicted for wrong doing, a crime or offense. • Treatment – verbal attacks, withholding privileges, removal, hit, spank, hurting, prison. • May restrain a child temporarily, but it does not teach self-discipline. • Might teach obedience to authority, but not self-control which enhances self-respect.

  4. Discipline • The method for redirecting behavior when needed through example, words, actions, and each individual incident. • To teach and to train. • To train by instruction and exercise. • Training a behavior in accordance with rules and conduct. • A long term process that gradually leads to a child becoming responsible for their own behavior through teaching and training. • Best done: • FIRM , FAIR , FRIENDLY

  5. Discipline should be: • Firm: Clearly stated rules and consequences that are adhered to continually - when the inappropriate behavior occurs. • Fair: Appropriate punishment that fits the crime. Consequences are stated in advance, not a surprise. • Also in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. Harsh punishment is not necessary. Using a simple Time Out can be effective when it is used consistently every time the behavior occurs. Also, use of reward for a period of time like part of a day or a whole day when no Time Outs or maybe only one Time Out is received. • Friendly: Use a friendly but firm communication style when letting a child know they have behaved inappropriately and let them know they will receive the "agreed upon" consequence. Encourage them to try to remember what they should do instead to avoid future consequences. Work at "catching them being good" and praise them for appropriate behavior.

  6. Guidance • What caregivers do to influence behavior. • The act or function of guiding. • Giving advice or counseling. • Helping, teaching, showing. • Done Continually through example, words, and actions.

  7. Spanking ContinuumWhere Do you Fit? I agree with spanking I disagree with spanking Where does spanking fit – Discipline or Punishment?

  8. Overall Goal of Positive Discipline • To incorporate positive discipline and guidance so the child will gain: (2. A & B) • inner self-control • become independent • Be self-reliant • Practice self-guidance/disciplining (controlling one’s own behavior) • Even when you are not around. • PUNSHMENT DOES NOT DO THIS…. Encourage = Instill (give) courage Discourage = Remove courage

  9. Overall points of discipline: • A./B. From last slide • Parent’s who punish rather than discipline may have children that rebel • Respond to aggressive behavior in a non-aggressive way. • Adults who do not reinforce appropriate behavior, may have children who resort to problem behavior • Children often misbehave for attention. Withdraw from the conflict and resolve the problem later. • Attentionis a powerful reinforcer that guides children positively or negatively. Feed to Live, Starve to Die

  10. Reasons for a child’s misbehavior: • Remember that we all act in certain ways to meet our own needs. • Children are no different and their behavior, or misbehavior, can be understood best if the underlying need or reason for their behavior is identified. • A child misbehaves when one of the following behavioral needs are not being met: SCISSOR GAME Behavior Needs Situations- page 3

  11. 1. Normal behavior for the child’s age • Have appropriate expectations for the child’s developmental age. Strawberry pie - accidents • 2. Natural curiosity Provide opportunities to experiment and satisfy curiosity.

  12. 3. They do not know any better • Inadequate or misunderstood instructions, they really are trying to do what was asked (too high of expectations). • They are trying something new and do not realize what the consequences might be. Donut wrapper

  13. 4. To get attention • Give attention only to that which you want to be repeated and ignore questionable or undesirable behavior. • Negative attention is still attention Feed what you want to Live, Starve what you want to Die.

  14. 5. To get power • Children want some power and control in their lives or they become upset over the amount of control others have over them and might rebel or assert a degree of power and control.

  15. 6. For revenge • Working to hurt or “get even” for what they have been made to do or feel

  16. 7. Feeling inadequate or incapable • Constantly correcting or giving negative reinforcement might make a kid quit trying because the are afraid of failing

  17. 8. The need to feel that they belong • Wanting to find a place in a family or peer group where they fit in. • This place may be positive or negative, but the need is met Love when they are least lovable. Focus on the child NOT on the action.

  18. Behavior Needs Situations- page 3 • Peter goes to church with his father. His father becomes upset because Peter will not sit quietly.____________________ • Mother asks David to help clear the table. David refuses and says “NO!”_______________

  19. Discipline Video

  20. Children Learn What They Live 1. If children live with criticism, They learn to condemn 2. If children live with hostility, They learn to fight 3. If children live with fear, They learn to be apprehensive 4. If children live with pity, They learn to feel sorry for themselves 5. If children live with jealousy, They learn what envy is 6. If children live with shame, They learn to feel guilty 7. If children live with tolerance, They learn to be patient 8. If children live with encouragement, They learn to be confident 9. If children live with praise, They learn to appreciate 10. If children live with approval, They learn to like themselves 11. If children live with acceptance, They learn to find love in the world 12. If children live with recognition, They learn to have a goal 13. If children live with sharing, They learn to be generous 14. If children live with honesty and fairness, They learn what truth and justice are 15. If children live with security, They learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them 16. If children live with friendliness, They learn that the world is a nice place in which we live 17. If children live with serenity, They learn to have a peace of mind 18. With what are your children living? DorthyL. Nolte

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