Reality Ride

1. Reality Ride Each decision we make has a consequence. The decisions we make today directly affect the future.

2. Who is helping you deal with yourchallenges? Can you get more help? What laws and rules aremaking you strong? What did you put your desire,time, and effort into today? Plugging In What will motivate you to jump back up when you trip? Lift Weight How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Maze How did you protect yourself in a pressure situation? Did it help or hurt you? Hurdles How did you show others“the real me,” not the label? Climbing Out What did you do today to stop the crash, and how can you repeat it? Defense Mech Labels Reality Ride “Big View” OpportunityFreedomSelf-respect Why will this view give youmore self-respect? If you can’t see over the wall,ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire,Time and Effort into that step.) 3 Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? The Motivation Formula I will become . . . (My dreams and goals) Failure Drugs Anger What is your current view giving you? Fighting Who Cares “Limited View” I Can’t Family Problems Why do you often missthe simple solution? 2 1 Why Try? How will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get?

3. Reality Ride Song

4. 1 2 Goal: What will your reality be when you ride here? 9 Things that get you in trouble . . . 5 At home: At school: With peers: In future: What choices will give you . . . 4 Your Challenges . . . Home: School: Peers: 7 What problems do you keep having over and over? Who can support you? Peers School Home 3 8 • Frustrated • Confused • Angry • Scared • You keep getting the same results 6 “Reality” Consequences of crash . . . Start ride over Will these things give you lasting . . . Opportunity? Freedom? Self-respect?

5. The Hulk Roller Coaster

6. Tearing off Labels Negative labels can hurt your future, but positive labels can help you achieve your goals and attain better opportunities. Ultimately, the label you wear depends on you: you can change your labels by changing your actions and showing others your strengths and positive traits.

7. Miss Understood by Sammie

8. 3 • Permission to brag: • What do you like about yourself? • What do others like about you? • Your accomplishments • Your strengths, goals and dreams • If you were to give yourself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 1. Identify: How is your label working for you? • What labels do you have that are getting in the way of your opportunities? 2 Why is it easy to give up when you have a label? Are these ever an excuse? 4 Four steps to tear off your label: 2. Do something different. • What behavior needs to change? • What do you need to stop doing? (not working for you) • What do you need to start doing? (something new) • Remember: Same thing = same results 1 What is a label? 3. Focus on your strength. Juvenile Delinquent • Project the label that you want. Failure Druggie Liar L.D. Dumb Lazy 4. Repeat what you are doing right. Rebellious Attitude Problem Thief Dropout • Remember: It takes time for others to see the change. Trouble Maker Gang Member Ungovernable • Every night ask yourself: • What did I do today to tear off the label? • How can I do more of this tomorrow? Runaway Angry Bad Example Others:

9. Don’t Laugh At Me

10. Wreck it Ralph

11. Defense Mechanisms Pressure situations are best handled by maintaining control of your emotions and selecting positive defense mechanisms (those that don’t hurt yourself or others).

12. Frozen Let It Go

13. 1 What is a defense mechanism? 2 Situation Choice 4 Who chooses the defense? How do you protect your feelings? 3 Feeling How do you respond (act) when: • Disrespected • Yelled at • Put down • Laughed at • Mad at parent • Embarrassed • Make a mistake • Feel pressure • You’re hit • You lose • Confronted • Frustrated • Blamed • Get caught • Hurt • Angry Negative Positive 6 Four Steps to Control Your D.M. 1. Recognize the situation. When you are in a pressure situation, these are the signs: You feel angry, frustrated, or nervous. What outward behaviors can you use to help control the pressure? 2. Identify the situations where you can practice step 1. What are the situations you need to practice this? “Easy” “Hard” 3. Don’t let other people control how you will respond. You know someone is trying to control you if they are yelling at you, physically attacking you, or are putting you down. This gives youself-respect.Why? Defense 4. Select a positive solution What would motivate you to do the tougher(harder) thing? What might happen if you stay in control? 5 How do you know when you’ve selected a positive defense mechanism? “When you are helping, not hurting, yourself and others”

14. Parking Lot Rage

15. The Motivation Formula You can take your challenges and channel them into positive motivation: first to better yourself, and then to turn outward and help others.

16. Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation Positive Negative Choice 1 Challenges Frustration Anger Fear 2 Damage “The Flood Zone” Less opportunityand freedom • Hurting self or others • Less self-respect • Energy dies • Easy – “path of least resistance” Gratitude Anger

17. Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation Positive Negative Choice 1 Challenges Anger 2 3 Who Are Your Lifelines? Damage • Who can help you out of the flood zone at home? At school? With your peers? 4 Use Positive “Self Talk” “The Flood Zone” Less opportunityand freedom • Use your inner voice to direct your motivation (energy) in a positive direction (i.e. I will try). It’s a positive direction if you’re not hurting yourself or others) • Focus self-talk on what you do have control over. • Hurting self or others • Less self-respect • Energy dies • Easy – “path of least resistance” Gratitude Anger 5 “Character–Heart” • You go through the motions and don’t give up out of respect for people who care about you. • You don’t give up out of respect for yourself. 6 A Passion Purpose or Interest (Turn outward) 7 WhyTry? If channeled,challenges & anger can be converted into Get Plugged in “Support System” Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Positive Motivation & Healing

18. Kid President

19. Why Try Climbing Out Music Video

20. Climbing Out When you put the tools from the visual metaphors into action, and when you develop an awareness of the positive and negative ways that others can influence you, you will be prepared to avoid negative behaviors and their consequences.

21. 2 What is the “pot” that you are in? ● How do friends (others) affect you in both positive ways and negative ways? ● ● 4 3 When you get in trouble (or in the pot) are you keeping others in, or yourself? How? ● ● 5 Who wants to see you climb out? Why? ● ● 6 What are the reasons for staying in the pot? ● ● ● 8 What are the reasons for getting out of the pot? ● ● ● 7 What will your future be like if you don’t get out? ● ● ● 9 What will your future be like when you climb out? ● ● ● Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? 1 10 What are the tools you can use to get out? ● ● ● Warning: if you try to get out, you will be attacked! Why?

22. Crabs in a pot video

23. Jumping Your Hurdles Everyone experiences setbacks, but successful people “jump back up” and keep trying. They know that there are certain steps they can use to help them overcome their challenges and achieve success.

24. Minecraft-Surviving it

25. 6 1. Identify Problem 4. Take Action What problem do you really want to overcome? What specific behaviors (actions) do you need to stop or add to jump your hurdle? Stopped Behaviors Added Behaviors 3 2. Create Options What can you jump over?   5. Believe in Change What are some options you can create? On a scale from one to ten, circle where you are in believing change will happen. “I can’t change” “I know I havethe strength” 3. Get Help “Maybe” Who can help you get over your hurdle? Who can you help? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 6. Jump Back Up If you trip, how will jumping back up make you stronger? What should your “self-talk” be telling you as you try to jump your hurdle? What have you jumped over?   2 • . • .. • . • .. 4 Why should you try to jump your hurdle?   1 Your Problem: You Only Lose If You Give Up! Strengths:   . 5

26. How not to hurdle

27. Famous Failures

28. Desire, Time, Effort Anything worthwhile in life requires desire, time, and effort. There are no shortcuts to achieving success. You will get much further in life by working hard than by simply relying on your talents or abilities.

29. The Climb

31. The next LeBron

32. Lift the Weight Living by laws and rules and developing self-discipline will make you stronger, opening the doors of opportunity for the future.

33. Rocky Theme Song

34. 2 What is expected of you from: 1 Why do you need resistance to become stronger? Parents? (rules) School? (rules) Society? (laws) Myself? (self-discipline) 6 Why does this need to be your strongest muscle? What things get you into the most trouble? 3 “Hard”Resistance “Easy”No Resistance 4 What are three things that you put most of your time and effort into? 1. 2. 3. 5 What are three new things you could do with your time that will make you stronger? 1. 2. 3. Do any of these things give you opportunity, freedom, and self-respect? If ”yes,” keep lifting. If ”no,” create a new workout. Choice Character What have you given up on? Challenge How does giving up make you weak?

35. Weightlifter

36. Get Plugged In Getting help is not a weakness, it is a strength! Challenges become easier when you have a positive support system to help you overcome them. YOU have the power to create a support system if you don’t have one. YOU have the power to strengthen a support system if your is weak.

37. Getting to Know You

38. Parent/Guardian 1 2 Positive Friend 3 Teacher/Counselor/School Official Positive Mentor 4 5 Something that inspires or motivates you to do good • How much time are you spending with your parent or guardian? (If you’re not spending at least 30 minutes a day, then create and demand more time!) • What is one conflict, argument, or power struggle that you can give up today that won’t hurt you but will help lower your parents’ anxiety about you? • Remember: You know you have a “real” friend if they do things that help (not hurt) themselves and you. • What could you do to help a friend overcome peer pressure and deal with challenges at homeand at school? These 5connectionswill help turn on the“light”to see your futuremore clearly • Make sure that someone at school knows the real you and what you can becomewith their help. Ask how they will help you reach your dreams and potential? • Let them know what you are willing to do, then work together with them to accomplish your goals. • Who can you identify that has accomplished goals and dreams similar to those that you want to accomplish? • What are three qualities about them that you respect and admire that you would like to develop also? • Take a risk: If possible ask them how they can help you achieve the same thing. • What motivates you to not hurt yourself or others? • What do you do with your time that’s fun, gives you self-respect, and doesn’t get you into trouble? How can you do more of this?

39. Father Involvement

40. You Can See Over The Wall When you have a clear vision of your future, you have hope for something better, and life’s challenges become nothing but temporary obstacles. When you have a limited perspective, it is hard to see beyond the day-to-day challenges, and impossible to dream of a brighter future.

41. Incubus - Drive

42. Who is helping you deal with yourchallenges? Can you get more help? What laws and rules aremaking you strong? What did you put your desire,time, and effort into today? Plugging In What will motivate you to jump back up when you trip? Lift Weight How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Maze How did you protect yourself in a pressure situation? Did it help or hurt you? Hurdles How did you show others“the real me,” not the label? Climbing Out What did you do today to stop the crash, and how can you repeat it? Defense Mech Labels Reality Ride “Big View” OpportunityFreedomSelf-respect Why will this view give youmore self-respect? If you can’t see over the wall,ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire,Time and Effort into that step.) 3 Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? The Motivation Formula I will become . . . (My dreams and goals) Failure Drugs Anger What is your current view giving you? Fighting Who Cares “Limited View” I Can’t Family Problems Why do you often missthe simple solution? 2 1 Why Try? How will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get?

43. Awareness Test UCLA Squirrels