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Explore social traps, friendships, love dynamics, and altruism, and how decisions are influenced by peers. Learn about conflict, attraction, and peacemaking in a comprehensive study guide.
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DO NOW • Split a half sheet of paper with your partner and number 1 through 21.
Preview p.44 • What went through your mind when you first read the question? • How did you make your decision? • What would have happened if you could have talked about it? • How would you choose who received the 15? • Was your decision swayed by what your peers would think? • What is more important… individual gain? Or common good?
Social Relations:Conflict, Attraction, Altruism, & Peacemaking Reading Notes pp.758 -62 Notebook p.45
5 or 15: A Social Trap • Social traps challenge us to find ways of reconciling our right to pursue our personal well-being with our responsibility for the well-being of all • The optimistic goal is that we realize we live in an increasingly interdependent world and that we make the selfish choice at our own peril.
Why You Need Friends(2 Reasons) #1: Anxiety and Companionship • We need company the most when we are afraid or anxious • Case study
Schacter (1959) • Dr. Zilstein “Misery loves company” • People suffering from a high level of anxiety or more likely to seek out company than those who feel less anxious • One group of women greeted by frightening looking man… “electric shocks that would be extremely painful, but would cause no skin damage” <high anxiety group • Friendly to second group and told “shocks would produce ticklish, tingling sensations” <low anxiety group
Why You Need Friends #2: Comparing Experiences and Reducing Uncertainty • We want to be around others in similar circumstances • Example • We also want support
#1: Lives Close • Physical Proximity = the distance from one another (living and working)
#2: Reward Values • Stimulation Value = the friend is interesting or imaginative or can introduce you to new ideas or experiences
#2: Reward Values cont.. • Utility Value = a friend who is cooperative and helpful
#2: Reward Values cont.. • Ego – support Value = a friend who can offer support in good and bad times
#3: Physical Appearance • People feel better about themselves when they associate with people whom others consider desirable • We consider physical beauty to relate to intellect, kindness, poise, etc… • Beauty is only skin deep?
#4: Approval • We tend to like people who agree with us
#5: Similarity • We choose people who have the same interests and beliefs as us
#6: Complementary Friends • The attraction that often develops between opposite types of people because of the ability of one to supply what the other lacks
Loving • Two types of Love #1 Passionate Love = intense, sensual and all consuming “Adrenaline makes the heart grow fonder” #2 Companionate Love = includes friendship, mutual trust, and liking “Love makes the time pass, and time makes love pass.”
Liking versus Loving Liking • Based on respect and similarity Loving • Need or attachment • Caring and the desire to give • Intimacy
Triangular Theory of Love • Intimacy = feeling close to someone • Passion = physical arousal • Commitment = maintaining the relationship over time
Altruism • March 13, 1964 • Kitty Genovese • bystander effect
Norms for Social Responsibility • Social exchange theory: maximize benefits; minimize costs • Reciprocity norm: return help • Social-responsibility norm: help those who need our help
Process p.44 • Do you regret not getting along with some friends or family members? How might you go about reconciling that relationship?